Shemales & Marriage

[Daveybouy69]

Hello All

Just wondering if anyone is in the same position in myself, married to a lovely girl, but since I discovered shemales they are all I think about and when we have sex I have to imagine a cock down there for me to get hard...

Can't talk to her about it as she would be devastated - how do you guys deal with this?

Im the same as you mate its a hard one. You love your wife but lust after t-girls. I just imagine she is one.
I you are single and are looking for a woman then there are ways around it. I used to date a short haired, football playing, manly type of girl and i used to bum her. Thats almost as satisfying as t-girls

[british_boy]

I guess you have a lot of soul-searching to do. Maybe you should give it a six months to a year to see whether this is just a phase, or if you really have found your true sexuality.

If the novelty doesn't wear off after this time, I think you should discreetly see a trans-escort. You might find that the reality doesn't live up to the fantasy, and then you will know that you are happier as you are. I know it's technically cheating, but it's the lesser evil in my opinion.

If after these stages you still feel the same or stronger about T-girls, you have to be honest with yourself and your wife. It's not fair on her to go through life with someone who doesn't find her sexually attractive, and who is constantly lusting after others. You could also look for a trans-partner who really does it for you. Of course it would be incredibly tough, but you would both be happier in time.

I have a TS girlfriend from Asia and we're planning to live together next year, but I understand the pressure of society and the desire to conform. I get moments when I'm racked with doubts, and I feel that I should forget this 'silly' idea, find a GG and settle down, maybe have children, and socialise with other 'normal' couples. Oh yes, I feel it. But I know my heart's desire, and I'm trying to be true to myself. I take heed from mature men I know of who now live with trans partners after years of regular marriage. They lament the fact that they weren't honest with themselves when they were young.

Re. BL's point, if you're single and attracted to trans-girls, why compromise with a "boyish GG you can bum"? Get our there and find the real deal! It might not work out, but at least you went for it, and you can't spend forever saying "what if?".

Just my opinion. Good luck.

[Daveybouy69]

Thanks for the thoughts guys - I am going to have to do some thinking as you said...

[JodieTs]

Totally.
A very wise set of thoughts.

Daveybouy69, I hope things work out.
Hugs,
M. xxx

[merelypink]

it may be a phase its a life long choice

[Daveybouy69]

It is - I didn't get married lightly either

[DoryLee]

And after you do tgirls, you'll lust for vaginas again. It's just like when you eat a lot of chocolate, then you want a different flavor... *shrugs*....so, even if you do lust after shemales, that doesn't necessarily mean you need to break away from the missus and get hooked yourself with one. No one needs to get hurt here. You just need to get laid with shemales hopefully on a regular basis then you might feel satiated about it. Of course, if you're in a closed marriage and your wife has issues with it that might be a problem, but I'll encourage you to be honest, it won't be the end of the world. The truth WILL set you free, and we only live once, you can't possibly keep it in you for too long.

So, I think you should talk to your wife -- might she be interested in a threesome? It's not like you're asking her to sleep with another girl, but with a ladyboy. It's a fetish. It's different. Hopefully she'll be interested. Sexual stimulants, kinks, etc...make people feel more alive.

-Dory

[Nforc3r]

i hink that you need to find yourself a t-girl mate and experiment

[Daveybouy69]

well sex last night was awful, I am going to have to do something to sort this out, maybe try a shemale to see if I can get it out of my system...

[novicetgirllover]

Liking trans girls- its a dark pit you fall into and never get out of. You never go back to genetic girls after, something always seems missing, Saying that i've an itch for normal girls I need to scratch at the moment, but it won't last. Sex with a ts is so much better.

[DoryLee]

Originally Posted by Daveybouy69

well sex last night was awful, I am going to have to do something to sort this out, maybe try a shemale to see if I can get it out of my system...

LOL. Oh goodness. The missus reading it and you're in fucking trouble. Yea...better do something about. Though I encourage you to be honest, it's your life.

-Dory

[Daveybouy69]

Well finally managed to get with a ladyboy in Sydney!

I have to say that after all the anticipation it was BETTER than I was expecting!


I would do it again in a second, but it is not good enough to leave my wife for so I will keep this as a very pleasant taste of fun.


Very glad I did it though

[Amyxswallows]

have u though about asking you wife to put a strap on dildo on when u have sex

[Daveybouy69]

My wife is a very sheltered Chinese Malaysian christian - so not really an option! Shame really as having my anal virginity taken over the weekend felt VERY right and turned me into a complete whore.

Still not attracted to men though - just cocks

[michael39]

I'm married as well. Have fantasized about Trans Girls for years. I'm coming to a point in my life that I feel I need to try being with a TG just to find out if it's more than just a fantasy. My marriage has been bad for many years. No sex, angry at each other all of the time. We're together for our daughter at the moment, but neither of us is sure that's a good reason to be together.

Good luck to you. None of these choices are easy. I hope you make the one that's right for you.

[Daveybouy69]

From my own experience Michael I am very sympathetic. It worked out for me but that was just my experience.

I know that a few people have given good advice about being open with your wife but it sounds like discussing this with her would be the first step on the road to seperating. This may not be a bad thing, I do know from my parents splitting up when I was a kid that children can sense when their parents are unhappy. I could be friends with both my parents when they seperated and they were much happier.

Reading the above it is a bit of a collection of random thoughts. I think the best advice I can give is look forward one month, two months, five years etc and imagine what life would be like for yourself and your family if everything continues the way it is now.

Whatever you decide to do good luck.

[smc]

Originally Posted by michael39

We're together for our daughter at the moment, but neither of us is sure that's a good reason to be together.

Originally Posted by Daveybouy69

I do know from my parents splitting up when I was a kid that children can sense when their parents are unhappy. I could be friends with both my parents when they seperated and they were much happier

Of course, everyone's circumstances are their own, so generalizations must be taken with a grain of salt. But when my parents divorced when I was 12 years old, I felt a tremendous burden lift off of me. After all, they had stayed together for me and my younger sister, which was obvious to me, and all that time I had to work hard not to tell them to split up and make our lives less miserable.

[Daveybouy69]

well unfortunately myself and the wife have gone separate ways - actually religion that did us in in the end...

Since then however I have been bouncing up and down on a couple of really nice shecocks and my ass is feeling very happy right now, just wish Melbourne had a better scene.

How's Hong Kong if I get a transfer up there?

Originally Posted by DoryLee

And after you do tgirls, you'll lust for vaginas again. It's just like when you eat a lot of chocolate, then you want a different flavor... *shrugs*....so, even if you do lust after shemales, that doesn't necessarily mean you need to break away from the missus and get hooked yourself with one. No one needs to get hurt here. You just need to get laid with shemales hopefully on a regular basis then you might feel satiated about it. Of course, if you're in a closed marriage and your wife has issues with it that might be a problem, but I'll encourage you to be honest, it won't be the end of the world. The truth WILL set you free, and we only live once, you can't possibly keep it in you for too long.

So, I think you should talk to your wife -- might she be interested in a threesome? It's not like you're asking her to sleep with another girl, but with a ladyboy. It's a fetish. It's different. Hopefully she'll be interested. Sexual stimulants, kinks, etc...make people feel more alive.

-Dory

Well your first paragraph had some very good advice. But your second is really offensive to me. I AM a girl and NOT a fetish! Most people don't like being treated like a sex object. I should know, it recently happened to me.