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This afternoon I was contacted by a guy who says that I can make about $1000 - $2000 / shoot or film. I talked to a friend and she says the amount it a bit on the top end, but attainable pretty easily - she also confirmed for me that the guy who contacted me was legit.

While I have a job, I also have crazy bills and debt (thanks to the ex). I can really use the money. I don't have a problem with porn or the gals who work in the industry. On the other hand, I'm not sure that is the direction I want my life to go. On the other other hand, guys assume I'm an escort because I'm trans* and don't look like Tootsie. So it's not like I don't already have to play around that assumption.

So - Yes you guys think I should do it (need the money)

Or- No you don't think I should do it (It would be hard to live it down)?
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Bionca if you're comfortable with it, and the circumstances, why not?

is all of the casting done?

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This is something only you can answer just keep in mind once it's out there it will always be out there and it will never disappear like a bad penny it may show up at a bad time, Think long and hard about it Jennifer
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I haven't been on this forum that long but from what I can gather you're a very intelligent and you look lovely which will help you if you decide to do this.

It's something you seem to have thought over but you need encouragement which I'm sure this board will offer since you seem to be a VIP here.

But if you think you'll regret any of it or as you said yourself aren't sure you want to head down that path then politely tell the man you aren't interested.

Either way this place and it's members including myself will support your decision.
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I'm not saying this to be negative or offend you in any way, but because I care.

Please be careful if you do this, the main reason it is hard for people in that industry to quit that sector is coz they're used to how fast it earns money. The quick-money thing is something you'll get used to, and 'normal' jobs will feel like a drag from then on.

Just be careful Bion!

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although my initial reaction (which i'm sure is echoed by many others here) is "hell yeah!", i honestly have to agree with everyone else, it's up to you. make sure it's something you want to do, make sure you're comfortable with all arrangements, and be careful. it's nothing that hasn't been said before but it's all very good advice.
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As a man who has seldom been without a bottom dresser drawer full of porn, I am surprised, and not just a little proud, to find myself echoing the advice of nearly all the previous posters: Proceed, if at all, with caution. This truly is something that, once done, cannot be undone. DVDs are mass produced and mass distributed. Gone forever are the days when a young actress can buy up and destroy the few copies of her blue movies before making mainstream films - or courting Mr. Right - or entering politics - or fill in the blank here.
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Only you can answer that question. If you feel comfertable with it, then do so, as you say the money will help you out. Also remember how your partner (if you are in a relationship that is - i cant remember if you are or not :P) then make sure they are comfertable with this.

As said above, once you've done it, it'll be out there. So have a long think about this one.
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This is something only you can answer just keep in mind once it's out there it will always be out there and it will never disappear like a bad penny it may show up at a bad time, Think long and hard about it Jennifer
Couldn't have said it better myself. I wouldn't think any less of you if you did take the offer, but do indeed think long and hard about it, Bionca.

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> it maybe a good thing but i think u need to make sure it is what u want and r comfortable about and hopefully they would not treat u like trash or just a sex toy for anyone that u do it with hopefully u will make the right choice and make sure they r not just scum that would ruin your life u no drugs booze all that crap that would kill u but it,s your own choice best of luck if it is what u want to do.
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This afternoon I was contacted by a guy who says that I can make about $1000 - $2000 / shoot or film...

So - Yes you guys think I should do it (need the money)
Or - No you don't think I should do it (It would be hard to live it down)?
By this point, I've earned the well-deserved reputation as being the guy who writes the long, boring posts. But you know what? Sorry, here's another one. Since I think of you as a friend, Bionca, I'm going to toss out my two cents -- so either read on or feel free to ignore what I have to say. I'm sure many others here will see the length of what I wrote and just ignore it. But I don't care. This is directed at you AS my friend. All I can say is that I hope that anyone else who reads my posts will read them all the way through, so they get the points that I'm trying to make.

I'll also break this up into three short parts, so it's easier to read and respond to, in case you or anyone else wants to...

PART 1

I'm going to tell you the truth about porn -- and I say this as someone who lives in Hollywood, who has been to parties thrown by porn people in LA or out in the San Fernando valley (the capital of the porn world) and as someone who has met and spent time around professional porn people who cover the emotional range of good, bad, happy, sad, content and tormented.

First of all, let's get rid of a common fallacy about porn, one that people ALWAYS get wrong and I'm seeing it said once again here. It's NOT about "feeling comfortable with it." No offense to anyone who said that here, but that doesn't even enter into the equation when it comes to the professional porn business because it's just that -- it's a BUSINESS. And the companies that are making it or the investor putting up the funding or the director and crew who are picking up some quick cash for a day's shoot don't care if you're "comfortable". They only care that the guy can get his cock up on cue, that you can both fuck on camera, that can you both go for as long as they need you to go, that you can cum when they want (or repeatedly as need be), and that film can be shot before someone goes cold or they suddenly realizes what they're doing and freak out and possibly ruin the entire shoot.

Yes, there are some companies and personnel that run things on the up-and-up...however, unfortunately there are far MORE porn producers that don't give a shit if they have to get you drunk or stoned or lie to you about the money they have or even falsify medical releases regarding AIDS testing, all so you'll cooperate and lay in bed and be fucked on camera and give them what they need. The porn business is a bit more legitimate these days in the way it operates, but ONLY just a bit and ONLY in certain quarters and with certain companies/personnel. And don't even get me started on the money that can be made and the corruption that subsequently follows with regards to actual payments and whatnot.

Look, here's the bottom line: this whole notion of telling someone it's okay to do something if they're "comfortable with it" (in this case doing actual filmed porn) is nothing more than a cheap Chinese cookie feel-good way of giving someone an excuse -- literally giving them an easy out -- to do it in order to get past an emotional hump that is holding them back (and probably for some very good reasons). In short, it's the classic pop psychology psycho-babble bullshit of telling someone: "Hey, if it makes YOU feel good, then it MUST be okay! So go for it!"

Well, here's a news flash: that's utter bullshit. Sorry, but just because something makes you feel good -- or just because you can momentarily put aside your personal values that you grew up with or that you go by in your daily life -- does NOT mean that something is suddenly "good" or "right" for you. A true sense of right and wrong...of what you should do in YOUR life...is NOT supposed to be a flip of the coin, conditional thing that you can easily flick on and off like a light switch whenever it's convenient. That's a cop out, pure and simple. And things become ESPECIALLY problematic down the road whenever you push aside your beliefs just because some quick cash is on the line. Safe to say, 99.999% of the time whenever you make ANY decision based around that it will come back to bite you in the ass.

So, no offense to everyone here (and I apologize upfront if I seem to be saying this in too defiant tone), but don't give me this crap that it's perfectly all right to do something just because now -- "in the moment" and for a quick fix reason -- you feel "comfortable" doing it, so that makes it A-OK to do. That isn't any kind of responsible or adult way to make a decision that could affect the rest of your life. Which definitely means that Bionca -- as our friend and as someone we all care about -- certainly shouldn't be doing that either.
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Part 2

Let me also add this: the notion that people who do professional porn are "comfortable" with it is incredibly overblown. It's almost a media created talking point just so the mainstream media CAN get the topic of porn onto TV to appeal to people's more prurient interests and to boost ratings. People see a big porn star like Jenna Jameson momentarily crossing over into the mainstream (for example, doing an interview on TV)...or they'll see Areeya's name plastered online and see that she has her own photo sets and film clips and her name is seemingly iconic...and because they see "big" stars like that in the spotlight, people then assume that everyone else who works in porn must be comfortable with it. Hell, for that matter, they take it one step further and assume everyone doing porn must LOVE what they do.

And yet, speaking again as someone who has met professional porn people - whether they work in front or behind the camera -- the MOST common thing I'll always hear is: "I use a fake name and do whatever I can to hide my REAL identity because I could NEVER live with myself if my family or friends or boyfriend or the people I work with EVER found out what I was doing!" Seriously, if you guys think people who do professional porn are really SO comfortable with it, why the hell do you think they create FAKE names for themselves like "Gina Lolalumps" when their REAL name is something normal like "Jane Rothman."

Or think of it this way. If porn people are so comfortable with what they do, did you ever wonder why 99% of them change their names while every OTHER working professional in Hollywood -- again, whether they work in front of the camera or behind it -- DOESN'T? If porn people are so comfortable with what they do, ever wonder why they do everything possible to keep their porn activities OFF their resumes or information about themselves 100% PRIVATE while every other working person in Hollywood is doing the exact OPPOSITE, and is doing everything to get as much information about themselves out there? In order to generate work and to get more jobs?

Gee, here's a clue for you: it's because Jane Rothman, moonlighting porn girl who did a few porn loops to make some quick cash for whatever reasons she had that day, suddenly woke up to reality after a few bills were paid and NOW she lives in fear that her family, friends, loved ones and co-workers... past, present and future...will find out what she's done. And worst of all she's scared that she'll never be able to put her porn loop behind her.

And THAT is the cautionary tale to be told here: For the rest of her life, she's going to be biting her fingernails and wondering when and where that porn loop is going to reappear and HOW it's going to affect her life at THAT point in time. Sure, it's great to film a porn loop now, make a few bucks, pay a few bills. Only problem is, how will Jane feel down the road when she's dating someone who doesn't know about her past and suddenly finds out? How will Jane like being in a nice, romantic relationship and having to turn to her lover one night and say: "Uh, honey? I have a confession to make." Or even if Jane tells him upfront what she did -- even if he shrugs it off initially and says "That's okay. At the time, you did it for the cash and I can understand that" -- what happens when the porn loops reappear down the road and he sees them? And now their existence affects BOTH of their lives and he is forced to react because now they are no longer an intangible and are very, very real to him?

And trust me again, porn is even more insidious today.
Because in today's digital world NOTHING disappears for long.
In fact, with that in mind...

POP QUIZ FOR THOSE WHO AREN'T COMPUTER NERDS: How many of you know about an American/European Internet consortium that was formed a few years ago, which has already been hard at work collecting and cataloging everything on the Internet and storing it all on massive data servers? And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING -- right down to every person's MySpace page or your photos on Flickr or whatever else is out there -- yes, even including collecting your posts on public message boards and filing them away, too. If it's online, their goal is to grab it, file it, catalog it, and create a digital library for the 21st Century and beyond where anyone can look up anything. Ever used Google and hit the "cache" link at the bottom of a listing to call up a web page that is now gone or been taken offline? Think of it this way: the goal of this project is to make sure that NOTHING can ever disappear again, so that that anything that's EVER been online would STILL be available for all to see - from now till the end of time. We're talking the ultimate digital database here.

And that's something for you all to think about the next time you post your real name or your photos online. Or you post things on message boards that reveal incredibly personal information about yourself. Just remember: right now somewhere, someplace, someone is grabbing it and saying "Hey, catalog this and toss it into the database, TOO. Someone's gonna want to look this guy/girl up one day."
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PART 3

So after all of my ranting, here's what I finally have to say to you, Bionca -- and I mean this friend to friend.

Be careful...I mean, be as insanely and as incredibly careful as you've EVER been about anything in your entire LIFE...when making this decision. Because once you cross this line, I can promise you this: it is one you can NEVER take back. The end result of this -- much as it might pay a few bills right now -- is going to have ramifications that will last the rest of your life. And not just for you, but those around you and involved in your life as well.

I have met people who have done porn and they will shrug their shoulders and say "Eh, it was a paycheck."

I have met girls who are twenty-somethings who will giggle like little school girls and say "Ooh, I had fun! And isn't that the point of life? To just have fun?"

And I've met thirty and forty-something porn girls who were just sooooo happy I would sit and talk to them at a party or wherever as women, for who they were inside, but who the entire time were knotted up and thinking to themselves, "Please don't let him mention my past. Please let him be a good guy and talking to me because he likes ME. Please don't let him ONLY be talking to me because I did a porn movie and he thinks I'll have sex with him. Please let him be a really nice guy who will just let me go back to being a normal woman again." Truthfully, I'm talking about women who were SO scarred and nervous and inwardly upset that even now...years after the fact...the experience of having done porn almost did make it impossible to talk to them because they were SO self-conscious of it. It truly was like wearing a scarlet letter to them. To the point you could see just by sitting with them that it was literally making them a wreck inside. But hey, I'm sure back in the day they thought the money was good, the attention was nice, and that things were going to turn out much, much differently.

I have known people who did porn, made money, got out, and accepted it. I've known people who did porn and it scarred them forever. The experience altered them, and it forever changed how they deal with themselves and now deal with others. As I said before, I've seen the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, the content, and the tormented.

Bionca, I know you are an INCREDIBLY bright and charming and beautiful lady and you're very open-minded. So to that end, I'm just saying as a concerned friend that this is not a decision you should rush into. Like I said, this is one you can't ever take back.

Hell, even if it is about the money...even if this is about you wanting to cross a line and do professional porn now....then get in touch with me and I'll talk to you privately about visiting Hollywood, where we'll send you out to some of the bigger name and more established production companies. Least then instead of making $1,000 bucks for the quick and now, you can go around to the legitimate production companies and line up work for an extended period (for example a 2 week vacation) and pocket even more cash. I mean, if you're going to DO porn, then I'd rather you did it out here with the bigger and more legitimate companies where you'll get better work, better working conditions, better money, not to mention safe and solid medical checks to ensure your personal safety and well-being. As I said, if you're going to do porn, then at least do it 100% right and with the right companies and professional people -- which means coming west and hitting the infamous Valley.

So, I'm not going to give a thumbs up or thumbs down on this one. For all my ranting it might seem like I was making a judgment one way, but that's not the case. This is a decision only YOU can make because YOU are going to have to live with ALL of the ramifications that will ripple outward from this. This is your life and it's your call entirely. However, like everyone else here, I just want you to make a decision for all of the right reasons and NOT for any "in the moment" quick reasons which could ultimately work themselves out, if only given a bit more time.

Either way, whatever you decide, you're my friend and always will be.
And I'm sure that I speak for everyone here when I say we ALL love you no matter what you decide to do.
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Digital Memory is very long. I have digital records of an amazing amount of stuff going back to the 80s. As soon as my scanner is done with it's current project that digital memory will be back to the 70s for everything personal.

I'd scan all the books and magazines on the shelves if it did not destroy them too. What you do like that will never go away in terms of media memory.

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I read the first few comments and agree. JtJ's initial 'hell yeah' was a bit much but got on board and calmed down(I suspect he did not to get blasted from the rest) My feelings....true it's up to you and how you want to see yourself for the rest of your life. Once done ,no reversing.
That said, we all only live once and as many before you,there are some regrets but many have an opportunity of seeing themselves immortalized and enjoy the days 'when their youth and beauty reigned'. If at a time AFTER you do a film or two, you become recluse or regretful, heck, just dye your hair or change your cut. People don't often recognize hollywood celebs in the supermarket even at the checkout. I have viewed very few short clips through this forum but also enjoyed a couple.
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My gawd woman , have you totally lost your mind? The real truth of the porn industry is out there. How did you miss it?
Jen hit it right. Not much need to say more. But I will, because you make me angry. No, wrong word. You make me upset and I respond verbally.
Consider, the level you have been recognized for, your intelligence et: all. on this forum. Not one of the "girls" in that ad' strip at the top of the page carries the same respect that you have rightfully earned on here. Over 23,000 members on this forum, 99% + are guys, ( tell you anything?) and the first 16 responces are 15 NO! and one "don't have a F clue."
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Bionca, remember when we met, I asked if you were trying to change the world? Who is better equipt to do that? You and I or the girls in those pictures at the top of the page?
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LOTS of my gg friends have done porn. It's good money, yes, but tthere's always been a degree less respect everyone's had for them since. It's generally unspoken, but it's there, behind your back. However, if that does NOT bother you....
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Well I don't know if someone wrote something similar to my reply but I am going to be frank with you. What I am writing is my own opinion, maybe I am wrong in some points and maybe not.

As much as we love you here and we know how great you look, how great is your personality, and how much some of us would like to see you performing in a porn movie there are some many aspects you need to take into consideration.

First, you need to bare in mind that once you go down that road there's no turning back. You will get used to the amount of money you're making and will spend accordingly, maybe you'll get rid of your current debt but you'll always have debts and I don't think anyone else doesn't have debts. Because you'll be making more money you'll think, I want a better life, which you deserve, but when you think to stop you will have to think that you'll be back to the way you're living now and you'll say no way I won't and you'll carry on doing it because you have to and you need to.

Second, your social life will be different also. Most of your time will be filming. Maybe you're saying, no I will be only doing few scenes and that's it, but then you'll say it wouldn't hurt doing few more scenes and you get carried on. So you need to think about it, how deep you'll go into the industry, then you'll need to think the quality of movies and all that. Plus you will have to probably move and leave your current job and the more money you're making might not be enough and I'll tell you why in my next point.

The last point I want to mention here is maybe the most important one. You know how many crimes are being commited against transgendered by twisted criminals. You being in a movie will make it public that you are a transgendered and will put you in danger and you know that. You will have to move to a place which is safe, there might be places that you can't visit alone due to that danger. Are you willing or ready to face all that??

That's what I have to say on this subject. Now it's up to you to put the advantages and desadvantages of it and you decide accordingly. Whether you decide to go ahead with it and do it or you decide not to get involved in the adult industry, I will be one of the people who will be there for you and help you out with advice whenever needed.
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Fran has said everything that needs to be said.
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What an awesome discussion, some very well-thought replies here. It's the kind of a thread that makes me love this forum

To answer your question Bionca, my opinion is that you shouldn't do it. My reasons have already been given by others. Besides that, there always are other ways to make money...

btw, You may want to ask Nikki for her opinion, she both does and shoots porn.
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I did this thread because I get mail on this site and some others from gals who are thinking of doing sex work of some kind. I tell them pretty much what you all are saying:

Once it's done there are no "take backs"
You will not be able to use this on a resume
The money/fame will be brief
This has potential to affect people you love or will love
and ultimately the decision is a personal one

I posted this because, well I was actually asked to do a shoot with potential for some video work. Also because I wanted to see if my responses were that far off from what most (porn-positive) people think.

When I give this advice, often the reaction is get is a little dismissive - like I don't know really what I'm talking about, or I have some sort of hangup. It's good to know that I'm not way off on this. I'm amazed at the number of girls who think "well, I can always do sex work"...

Personally, I have no issue with porn or people who do it. It's really just not my thing - not even in the top 50 things I'd do to make money. I am really sorry if I upset anyone, but posing the question in this way, in this place helped me get a handle on the actual opinions of people who like/use porn, when someone who is not a complete stranger is the one being photographed. Again, I am very sorry I used you guys in this way.
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I am really sorry if I upset anyone, but posing the question in this way, in this place helped me get a handle on the actual opinions of people who like/use porn, when someone who is not a complete stranger is the one being photographed. Again, I am very sorry I used you guys in this way.
Bionca, while I would never presume to speak for others, I cannot imagine that anyone felt "used" by you with this post. I commend you for asking, and no apology is necessary.
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you don't have to be sorry for this i mean it quiet a logical thing to do i mean you probably wouldn't have gotten the same answer if you made it out that you weren't meaning it from the start.
this is something that anyone can take for future reference.

If someone does do porn for the money or for pleasure (not the most likely choice) yes it doesn't go away after that BUT if the people who know you already and after they find about the porn on their own and NOT from you. they can't really look at you with less respect because even though you did do porn those people will have found out you did porn while looking for porn itself so they can't really look at you differently for supplying them with the form of pleasure they go out of their way to look for
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I know people have already said a lot of negative things about the porn industry here and all that, but I want to add that part about how it affects you emotionally. Maybe you can hide that you've been in porn. Maybe you can get away with it not affecting your employment options in the future. But what about your future relationships? Do you know anybody in porn who has had a truly good relationship after porn? Not to sound all weird and spiritual, but that sort of thing takes away pieces of your soul.

Even if everything goes well and you are strong enough to not let it affect you (you'd probably be the first), what if you meet a really great guy someday and want to go get married in Canada? Can you hide it from him forever? What are the chances of there being no links to it in your life, or even that he won't stumble across it on the net someday and realize it's you after knowing every detail of your body? Will he be able to handle it? How many fights will it start? Even if he's a nice guy, how is he going to feel when you're not in the mood now and then? I mean, you fucked for money on camera, but sometimes you don't want to fuck the man you love? It will hurt your relationship.

If I had your body I wouldn't mind doing solo modeling or maybe even something for shemalestrokers.com, but it would be hard not to let it go further than that...
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I can't really tell you what you should do. If this is what you want to do and if your strong enough for it, I say go for it. I don't think that you should do it just because someone else wants you to do it.
As others have said before, porn is usually a one-way road. Once you start, you might not be able to stop even if you want.
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People can tell who and what you are (inside) by the genuine concern you display over this topic. That, no one or any industry can take away. Depending on the individual, either watching or staring in it, one will say white while the other black. People who love you, want to be assured that you come to no harm in any manner. Those that enjoy porn would probably be more inclined to their own intrests. True there are many ways to make money, some easy(if you don't mind selling them things they don't need or flat out white collar theft)and other ways longer and harder.
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I did this thread because I get mail on this site and some others from gals who are thinking of doing sex work of some kind. I tell them pretty much what you all are saying:

Once it's done there are no "take backs"
You will not be able to use this on a resume
The money/fame will be brief
This has potential to affect people you love or will love
and ultimately the decision is a personal one

I posted this because, well I was actually asked to do a shoot with potential for some video work. Also because I wanted to see if my responses were that far off from what most (porn-positive) people think.

When I give this advice, often the reaction is get is a little dismissive - like I don't know really what I'm talking about, or I have some sort of hangup. It's good to know that I'm not way off on this. I'm amazed at the number of girls who think "well, I can always do sex work"...

Personally, I have no issue with porn or people who do it. It's really just not my thing - not even in the top 50 things I'd do to make money. I am really sorry if I upset anyone, but posing the question in this way, in this place helped me get a handle on the actual opinions of people who like/use porn, when someone who is not a complete stranger is the one being photographed. Again, I am very sorry I used you guys in this way.
I'm just happy that you did already know that it is entirely a personal decsion. And I'm so glad that now we don't have to worry about you losing any respect that you worked so hard on getting. In fact I respect you even more than before for posing this very interesting question that many can come to this thread and see for themselves what people think.
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The impression I'm getting Bionca, and this is not a bad one, is that you already had your mind made up whether you wanted to do this or not (which was a no), you just needed us to reinforce your opinion.
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No normal people go into porn, you ruin your social life and get an eternal social stigma to handle rest of u life and put yourself into dangers of different kinds in this extremly unhealthy pornenviroment.
Once on the net its always there for ever, no chanse whatsoever to regret what u once did...

I would myself not under any circumstances even think of doing something like that.
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Short and to the point.

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This afternoon I was contacted by a guy who says that I can make about $1000 - $2000 / shoot or film. I talked to a friend and she says the amount it a bit on the top end, but attainable pretty easily - she also confirmed for me that the guy who contacted me was legit.

While I have a job, I also have crazy bills and debt (thanks to the ex). I can really use the money. I don't have a problem with porn or the gals who work in the industry. On the other hand, I'm not sure that is the direction I want my life to go. On the other other hand, guys assume I'm an escort because I'm trans* and don't look like Tootsie. So it's not like I don't already have to play around that assumption.

So - Yes you guys think I should do it (need the money)

Or- No you don't think I should do it (It would be hard to live it down)?
Missy B, for laughriotly crying out loud...

No you shouldn't... UNLESS you'd feel a warm turn-on deep inside yourself to do it. Are you an exhibitionist, honey bunny?

Would it make you feel more accepted? More sexy? More intelligent?

Stick to writing texts and jobs will come. I promise, they will. I'm working on it, baby!

It's NOT your style - unless, again, that it gives you a hard boner to think of yourself in that situation. But also consider the consequenses. Unless you become a super porn star, it will eventually be used against you by the vanilla world we live in.

Think twice!

You have a fabulous writing talent - a talent that is not based on neither your gender identificatain nor your sexual orientation, Missy B. And I'm just afraid that getting a bit of quick money here will jeopardize you credibility a little bit ahead.

Be decent and don't you, of all people, feast the fire of belief that transsexuality always ends in porn in spite of the fact that you are beautiful, darling. You can do it, surely, but think again.

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> if u feel it,s right for u and they r not going to treat u like trash or use u as their own little sex toy like most producers do maybe yes but not just this drop your panties fuck money shot shit i think it should be like they use to be there was a story to it and then scenes of sex and more story i don,t see that at all anymore it,s like u meet a tgirl in the park have sex and it,s over in 2 minutes if that i mean if this person respects what u would like instead of like i said drop your panties fuck money shot by well that wouldn,t be right just my opinion on the idea and blood work u now the whole nine yards not just some guy or girl and they say everything is ok but it,s really your call if u do much success best of luck but think about it before going the whole hog sort of speak take care always respect protection always.
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This afternoon I was contacted by a guy who says that I can make about $1000 - $2000 / shoot or film. I talked to a friend and she says the amount it a bit on the top end, but attainable pretty easily - she also confirmed for me that the guy who contacted me was legit.

While I have a job, I also have crazy bills and debt (thanks to the ex). I can really use the money. I don't have a problem with porn or the gals who work in the industry. On the other hand, I'm not sure that is the direction I want my life to go. On the other other hand, guys assume I'm an escort because I'm trans* and don't look like Tootsie. So it's not like I don't already have to play around that assumption.

So - Yes you guys think I should do it (need the money)

Or- No you don't think I should do it (It would be hard to live it down)?
That's not a lot of money for the number of doors it may close for you. But if that's your pic, and you're already on Hormones etc...

I'm sure life can be difficult for you anyway.

Ever thought of coming down to D.C. I always wanted to meet a T-girl as pretty as you I'll take you out to my favorite old-world European restaurant in the downtown.


What about being a club hostess or something like that? It seems like a lot of these chicks are making money in all sorts of roundabout ways. I would do the porn as a last resort. Maybe solo or stills first?


You could also blame it on the economy too rofl. I bet we'll see a slew of new upscale actresses until this economy starts to improve some time in 2010.
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> if u feel it,s right for u and they r not going to treat u like trash or use u as their own little sex toy like most producers do maybe yes but not just this drop your panties fuck money shot shit i think it should be like they use to be there was a story to it and then scenes of sex and more story i don,t see that at all anymore it,s like u meet a tgirl in the park have sex and it,s over in 2 minutes if that i mean if this person respects what u would like instead of like i said drop your panties fuck money shot by well that wouldn,t be right just my opinion on the idea and blood work u now the whole nine yards not just some guy or girl and they say everything is ok but it,s really your call if u do much success best of luck but think about it before going the whole hog sort of speak take care always respect protection always.
Ahh, see I miss the old days of porn with a plot too. It seems particularly true of trans* porn. Just a bunch of unconnected scenes with no build up, no passion, nothing really SEXY. Just random uninterested bodies going through some motions.
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It is amazing the number of idiots that will post to this thread not realizing that Bionca has already given her decision. It only goes to show they haven't read the entire thread; for in the middle Bionca made it quite clear how this came about and what her answer was.
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> the gentleman speaks the truth Miss Bionca l@@K at what has happened with many of those adult so called stars heartbreak suicide overdose pills partys and most r either dead or i guess trying to live what a person would call life l@@K at Kimber James everyone wants to be with her how long will her success or life style last until the next beauty comes along to make millions of them i try to keep up to date and do a lot of research for information on whats going on and most of the info is sad it,s like being a puppet and they control u just my opinion which doesn,t mean much in here all i get is read the forum rules but i thinkx people r thinking with the other head not a good call when it comes to reality so maybe these people should act there age and not there shoe size respct always friend
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