Am I really the only one who ever had a meaningful relationship with a trans*woman?

[hankhavelock]

Am I really the only one who ever had a meaningful relationship with a trans*woman here at this grand forum?

There MUST be others here... but I've never read a single posting from a guy with a similar experience. Not that I recall.

And what about you, ladies? Did you ever settle down with a good man for a long term relationship? I know Mizzy B is coming close, but again, there must be others!

This is beginning to be a futile effort... what's the MATTER with all of you? I get cold chills when thinking that this is all a fantasy for you and that none of you will ever have the guts to go for what you want. That we will continue this philosophical talk for years without any meaningful result.

I know that it may be easier for me because I'm in the midst of trans*women - however, my whereabouts is not an excuse for the whole world to do NOTHING! There are SO MANY gorgeous and intelligent trans*woman around me who'd LOVE to get a nice, sincere, faithful husband. That's dream numero uno.

No, most Asians are not rich, but no, she will not take you solely for your money either. She will take you if you are a kind man with a good heart and she will love you stronger than most Westerns girls.

So, should I start a dating-service here?

I get a bit tired of repeating the same things - it seems that NO guys here get any further. I haven't read of ONE single success-story here. Are you all "mother's wankers" who just dream but never ACT? If so you'll never be a match for any trans*woman. She'll demand more - not least honesty and guts.

And while you consider your answers I'll take a quick weekend trip to Bali to meet a gorgeous lady... and NO... it's not what you think. It's not a sex-thing. Both she and I have decided that we need an LTR, so we check each other out to find out if we match. If we match it's Christmas Eve, if we don't then so be it, but at least we try.

Y'all should learn from that. To gain something you have to do a bit. So wake up, guys! If you want a transsexual girlfriend you have to be at your best and prove to her that you mean business. And unless you're satisfied by being a wanker then go do it! I did! So can you...

Peace!

H

[kilgoretrout]

Hank
The only ones I have run into were either pros or playing a wide field. I have never met a TS that was looking for a relationship. Too bad. I am not keen on having to go the pro route. And unbridled promiscuity in this day and age has its risks.

[tslust]

Hank, I'd love to have a relationship with a good man. I've had a few relationships, but after that last bastard, I've almost given up on having a meaningful relationship. So, for now, I stick to having some NSA fun. I know that its not real love but it beats a fake relationship any day.

[rockabilly]

NSA fun? National Security Agency? ... I'm confused ... what about me?

[tslust]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

NSA fun? National Security Agency? ... I'm confused ... what about me?

No Strings Attached
I was referring to my last boyfriend. At first, he seemed soo sweet and kind. He convinced me to move in with him. It was soo great at first. Then he became obessive, controlling, and abusive(mostly verbal). I finally had all I could take. I left him, he started following me. I even went to the cops, but they woldn't do anything. Then one day, he found me. He thought he could take me. I showed him my suprise, and politely informed him that if I ever saw him again, no one else would.

I wasn't talking about you, baby. You're such a sweet, caring, and not to mention sexy guy.

[rockabilly]

Aww now i'm blushing

[transjen]

Hank i'm sure you are not alone, As i'm sure lots of guy can and have a meaningful relationship with a Tgirl, The trick is finding another person who wants a meaningful relationship. Some people just live for the moment. Before i met my boyfriend i was starting to think i'd be alone for life Jennifer

[Bionca]

I've been lucky I guess I had a guy for 7 years (before he ruined it) and how I have a pretty swell guy and quite a few very good male friends (you know who you are).

On the other hand, I've been with some total cowards, violent guys, as well as manipulative jerks. My friends and I could tell some pretty damning stories of how hard it is to find a guy.

I often assume that the trade-off for feeling ok in my own body is that I am unlovable. That I am ultimately disposable because I was selfish enough to do what had to be done. I know it isn't logical, but I've given guys so many chances both as individuals and as a group.

Stuff is good with the fella and I, but I just wonder when it will become too difficult, or he meets a cuter gal (trans or cis), or decides he wants babies.

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I've been lucky I guess I had a guy for 7 years (before he ruined it) and how I have a pretty swell guy and quite a few very good male friends (you know who you are)... Stuff is good with the fella and I, but I just wonder when it will become too difficult, or he meets a cuter gal (trans or cis), or decides he wants babies.

Sheesh, you're the classic "the glass is half empty" kind of gal, aren't you?

CHEER UP -- Things are going great right now.
The glass is half full! HALF FULL, I tell you!

You have friends who care about you for who you are (and you know who they are)...

You have guy who left for a bit, but DID realize he cares alot and DID come back...
He's STICKING BY YOU and working hard to make things work now...

You've got a job, so at a time when things are crappy for so many people across the nation, you are doing okay and staying afloat -- which in turn, worse comes to worse, still leaves you with options to purse down the road...

And you're a dweeby fan girl, which means you'll have eternal geek appeal.
Not to mention a never-ending batch of new comics to read.

HALF FULL! ... HALF FULL! ... THINK POSITIVE!

[newdude]

I have a t-girlfriend and I think she's just about the best person ever. Only been a little while since we got serious, so not really long-term, but I hope so.

[newdude]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Stuff is good with the fella and I, but I just wonder when it will become too difficult, or he meets a cuter gal (trans or cis), or decides he wants babies.

Some guys like a challenge, or grow into it

seriously.. cuter than you???

Not every guy wants kids

Sounds like you have been hurt and I know that sux - but not all guys are jerks

[whydoesitalwaysrainonme]

I think it's because there are two types of people who like trans women
there are the ones who love it as a dirty fantasy and would do a trans woman but that's about it, and then there's the type that would marry and settle down as well as obviously having sex with them.

[transjen]

Originally Posted by whydoesitalwaysrainonme

I think it's because there are two types of people who like trans women
there are the ones who love it as a dirty fantasy and would do a trans woman but that's about it, and then there's the type that would marry and settle down as well as obviously having sex with them.

I think you are leaving out a third type, My boyfriend is the third type which he falls in love with out knowing she's a Tgirl and when he finds out his love is so strong he doesn't care. True story when i met my boyfriend he had no idea i was a Tgirl we dated awhile before i told him after i told him he left and for about a week i didn't see or hear from him, But he came back saying he really likes me and still wants to see me. Going on three years now Jennifer

[tslust]

Originally Posted by CreativeMind

Sheesh, you're the classic "the glass is half empty" kind of gal, aren't you?

CHEER UP -- Things are going great right now.
The glass is half full! HALF FULL, I tell you!

HALF FULL! ... HALF FULL! ... THINK POSITIVE!

If you've been let down by people (or even life in general) enough times, then you expect to be let down.

[The Conquistador]

I'm a retard. Enough said.

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by whydoesitalwaysrainonme

I and then there's the type that would marry and settle down as well as obviously having sex with them.

Yeah, I had one of those, almost, but we didn't hitch. He left for another. I didn't recognise the type til after he left. (my loss)
I hope the new gal treats him right. He was a keeper.
Actually, finding a guy isn't hard. Finding a "keeper" is hard.
And the grand prize,,,= a hard keeper.

[whydoesitalwaysrainonme]

Originally Posted by franalexes

Yeah, I had one of those, almost, but we didn't hitch. He left for another. I didn't recognise the type til after he left. (my loss)
I hope the new gal treats him right. He was a keeper.
Actually, finding a guy isn't hard. Finding a "keeper" is hard.
And the grand prize,,,= a hard keeper.

well...good luck finding a guy anyway

[nalypa]

Originally Posted by whydoesitalwaysrainonme

well...good luck finding a guy anyway

[hankhavelock]

Oooh... just back from Bali... I'm in love! But it's 2 am here, so more later!