You decide you want a T-girl...

[Bionca]

Now what?

I posted this http://forum.transladyboy.com/showthread.php?t=1512 awhile back. I think perhaps there could be some additions to this, so I'll start with actually meeting a trans*women.

1) Post/send pictures of... YOUR FACE. Your cock will only get "face time" if everything works out. Remember, we have one of those, there is no mystery in it for us.

2) First contact should not assume future sexual contact. "Hey ur hawt, I wanna dooooo u!!!" Depending on the mood may get a giggle.

3) Understand that *ghasp* we have lives and jobs (or looking for one). A delay in contact is just that - a delay.

4) Don't get too demanding. Lots of times guys come on strong and promise the sun and the moon. They seem to want things to progress really quickly and push for more faster. Then it turns out they were ina hurry because they had "an itch" to scratch, are getting married next week, have a girl-friend that's gunna be out of town, etc. So I think most of us have a healthy aversion to really rushed situations.

I know that #4 can be tough when a truly honestly interested guy is trying to start something with a trans*woman. It may seem like you are either being punished for the "wrongs" of other guys or your excitement at finally contact a Trans*woman (who doesn't expect payment) is being misread. But for us, it can be a hard-won defense.

[maxpowers]

Although most of it is common sense, it's still a good word of advice, and it's very appreciated. Thank you!

[rockabilly]

Thank you Ms. Bionca. As i said before you are a voice of reason. You always have good advice.

[racquel]

I can't help thinking a lot of guys who are into TS girls have the attraction because they think we're a lot hornier and a lot easier than GGs. And who knows? That may be the case to some degree. But we're also more apprehensive about guys' sincerity and more self-conscious about our bodies so it's a wash.

The thing I am very conscious of, though, is a guy treating me in a way that I don't think he would ever treat a GG. A sane man does not go around sending girls pictures of his cock, and a sane man also is not afraid to show a picture of his face to a girl he's interested in.

[rockabilly]

The fear of rejection is a powerful thing. Showing ones picture can elicit many reactions. People are always self conscious about their appearance. I feel stupid talking about it...

[racquel]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

The fear of rejection is a powerful thing. Showing ones picture can elicit many reactions. People are always self conscious about their appearance. I feel stupid talking about it...

That's true ... and hopefully I can tell the difference between that and a guy who wants me to be his dirty little secret and would never be seen in public with me...

[rockabilly]

A man who treats a girl like that is unworthy of their love. If i was with you i'd be proud to be seen w/ you. I think its terrible that some D-bags treat you ladies as objects and dont show you love and respect. I would never disrepect anyone like that. You have feelings and need to be w/ someone who appreciates u. And that goes for all the ladies on the forum. Be w/ someone who loves you as a whole , not just certain parts.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by racquel

I can't help thinking a lot of guys who are into TS girls have the attraction because they think we're a lot hornier and a lot easier than GGs. And who knows? That may be the case to some degree. But we're also more apprehensive about guys' sincerity and more self-conscious about our bodies so it's a wash.

The thing I am very conscious of, though, is a guy treating me in a way that I don't think he would ever treat a GG. A sane man does not go around sending girls pictures of his cock, and a sane man also is not afraid to show a picture of his face to a girl he's interested in.

Well, the linked thread does go into some of the ways guys have been with me that my cis-friends would never imagine. So, yeah guys do tend to treat us in a weird way. One thing though, if you go to any "adult" dating site most of the men have cock-pics up and most of those ONLY have cock-pics. If you go to a trans* specific site, it's mostly guys with no pics (demanding to have access to every picture I have ever taken).

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by maxpowers

Although most of it is common sense, it's still a good word of advice, and it's very appreciated. Thank you!

If it was that common, I wouldn't need to start these threads.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

A man who treats a girl like that is unworthy of their love. If i was with you i'd be proud to be seen w/ you. I think its terrible that some D-bags treat you ladies as objects and dont show you love and respect. I would never disrepect anyone like that. You have feelings and need to be w/ someone who appreciates u. And that goes for all the ladies on the forum. Be w/ someone who loves you as a whole , not just certain parts.

It's isn't SOME guys. It is really the vast majority. All a person needs to do is think about how popular Trans* porn and escorts are vs. the painfully hard time non-working gals have getting dates (much less ones that show up). There is a significant number of guys who are only willing to "date" us only at night, in a different town, when the wife/g-f is gone.

[rockabilly]

Hi Ms. B , Thats terrible ... I'm so sorry that happens. Dont give up on i finding true love , I know i wont.