Top 6 things not to say to a transsexual!

[kellypierce]

My top 6 things!! Many more do's and don't coming to my book!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZqEZzRc8DA

Also hang out with me every Wednesday at 3 pm central time and I may answer your question live

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Uut2uLAsGw

[Tommy3069]

Originally Posted by kellypierce

My top 6 things!! Many more do's and don't coming to my book!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZqEZzRc8DA

Also hang out with me every Wednesday at 3 pm central time and I may answer your question live

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Uut2uLAsGw

Thank you for making the video and writing a book, but the two topics I disagree with are about transsexual girls penis size. We guys separate girls into categories depending what we like. Some guys like tits and some like ass.
So since tits are visual guys who like big tits go and approach girls which is so obvious ends up both of them have nothing in common but they end up together or maybe they dont.
So now here is the tricky part transsexual dating has similar categories tits size and ass size the only factor add is cock size. So if a guy likes a transsexual girl with a big cock, how does he find out? He can't see it visual until they are in the bedroom, if they go out on few dates it is a comfortable topic to ask nothing wrong with that. I think it shows if you are open to talk about it, it shows her you like her and support her. My current transsexual girl I am with I met her as a escort she is 7inches want her to be bigger but we are great together. I will tell her other things I would like to experience with her I hope she is interested which could make our relationship more interesting.

[smc]

Originally Posted by Tommy3069

Thank you for making the video and writing a book, but the two topics I disagree with are about transsexual girls penis size. We guys separate girls into categories depending what we like. Some guys like tits and some like ass.
So since tits are visual guys who like big tits go and approach girls which is so obvious ends up both of them have nothing in common but they end up together or maybe they dont.
So now here is the tricky part transsexual dating has similar categories tits size and ass size the only factor add is cock size. So if a guy likes a transsexual girl with a big cock, how does he find out? He can't see it visual until they are in the bedroom, if they go out on few dates it is a comfortable topic to ask nothing wrong with that. I think it shows if you are open to talk about it, it shows her you like her and support her. My current transsexual girl I am with I met her as a escort she is 7inches want her to be bigger but we are great together. I will tell her other things I would like to experience with her I hope she is interested which could make our relationship more interesting.

Speaking as just one guy, I cannot express how thankful I am that you know everything about guys and so can reduce our likes and dislikes to broad generalizations like those in your post. Statements such as the one I've bolded make my life so much easier. I don't have to do any thinking for myself.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[a9127]

Originally Posted by smc

Speaking as just one guy, I cannot express how thankful I am that you know everything about guys and so can reduce our likes and dislikes to broad generalizations like those in your post. Statements such as the one I've bolded make my life so much easier. I don't have to do any thinking for myself.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

That’s pretty good, smc. I guess this guy knows everything about what a man is looking for in a woman. I never realized exactly what it was that attracted me to my wife. Funny, I always thought it was her smile that I noticed first. Or her eyes. Or that we seemed to “connect” when we first met. Now I know that it was simply her tits and her ass…

(Actually it was her that told me she was checking out my ass…)

[a9127]

Originally Posted by kellypierce

My top 6 things!! Many more do's and don't coming to my book!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZqEZzRc8DA

Awesome video Kelly! Should be mandatory viewing for all members of this site. Your thoughtful insights have really helped me in the past with regards to better understanding my own feelings and sexuality. Looking forward to your book!

[Juicy Cherries]

Originally Posted by smc

Speaking as just one guy, I cannot express how thankful I am that you know everything about guys and so can reduce our likes and dislikes to broad generalizations like those in your post. Statements such as the one I've bolded make my life so much easier. I don't have to do any thinking for myself.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Liked this one.

We guys like -

Hello, she's got great eyes and kissable lips (shallow, but sexual attraction exists!)

Hello, she is flirting with me! Is she really flirting with me?

Hello, she laughs at my jokes. That does not make me funny. But she laughs at my jokes.

Hello, forget the 3 points above. Cos now, I'm paying attention to what she says. I find her jokes funny. I like her views on life. God, I hope she really likes me.

[LarryP]

Thanks again Kelly, your video's are very informative.

My one experience with a TS woman and she was still OK with her penis. She plans on keeping her penis and enjoyed being both a top and bottom sexually. My friend also told me, as Kelly talks about in the video, many TS women do not like their penis and want nothing to do with their penis (especially in a sexual way). Its a personal matter for each individual woman.

I think this does cause confusion and difficulty for some men and the TS woman they may be interested in. I think most/many men find a TS woman's penis feminine, appealing, attractive and sexy---which may be the exact opposite for the woman. And as Kelly points out, its an area or topic that should be addressed delicately with respect and caring for the woman--otherwise you may be killing any chance at beginning a relationship. Thanks again.

[kellypierce]

Originally Posted by Tommy3069

Thank you for making the video and writing a book, but the two topics I disagree with are about transsexual girls penis size. We guys separate girls into categories depending what we like. Some guys like tits and some like ass.
So since tits are visual guys who like big tits go and approach girls which is so obvious ends up both of them have nothing in common but they end up together or maybe they dont.
So now here is the tricky part transsexual dating has similar categories tits size and ass size the only factor add is cock size. So if a guy likes a transsexual girl with a big cock, how does he find out? He can't see it visual until they are in the bedroom, if they go out on few dates it is a comfortable topic to ask nothing wrong with that. I think it shows if you are open to talk about it, it shows her you like her and support her. My current transsexual girl I am with I met her as a escort she is 7inches want her to be bigger but we are great together. I will tell her other things I would like to experience with her I hope she is interested which could make our relationship more interesting.

That's all well and good you like girls with a bigger penis, however it doesn't change the fact asking her flat out is very rude!

Not to mention you don't know if she uses it or not! It's called having couth! You aren't going to get very far with a non-working girl with that attitude!
She will see you as a tranny chaser and a client.

Most girls as I said after a date or two will offer where they stand on the sexual side if they are interested in you.

But you aren't going to win many over asking them their penis size right off the bat.

[franalexes]

Kelly:
It's hard toget these horny guys to understand that T-girls are a mix. The biggest obstical to keep us from enjoying "girl" status is the penis. It's a hard concept for guys to understand that not all T-girls are porno-wannabes.
The penis is their #1 enemy. Why else would they seek to have it removed?
Asking a T-girl about her physical sex is like saying," Let's have a wonderful time; let's discuss the things you hate most."
It would be like telling a guy you are interested, then asking him to get up on the bar and take his clothes off. In some bars I guess that might be acceptable but crtainly not a guy I'd be interested in.

Yes, in this forum, T-girls are shemales. But outside of this forum, most of us are a mix; an un desired mix. We have issues that we'd like not to be reminded of.

[GRH]

Absolutely Fran. I'm not in the dating game, but you can bet that I'd be offended if on a first/second/third date the conversation of penis size came up. That's a matter of intimacy, and for me, intimacy is something that comes with time and getting to know a person. Despite what all the pictures in the "Freebies" section of this site might portray, I am NOT a sex-craved object looking to fuck/suck/etc. anything that comes along. If anything, I'm much closer to asexual than a sex object. Heaven forbid I ever date a man/woman who wants me to play "top;" they will quickly learn that I don't like playing a role that both emphasizes my penis as well as emphasizing my sensibilities about masculinity. Me-- I'd prefer roles where my penis is completely de-emphasized.

[LarryP]

Thank you again (Kelly & Fran) for your comments and insight. Your words are very helpful and informative.

Here is my question: For the trans-sexual woman who does not like her penis, but decides against SRS (for whatever reason), what do they want, seek, or desire as physical intimacy or sexual pleasure? I realize that this is a personal or individual thing--but can you make an attempt to generalize an answer based upon you experience and interaction with other trans-sexual women?

For a ggirl, at some point in a relationship, they want to have intercourse or have oral sex performed on their pussy. Yes, they want foreplay, kissing, caressing and cuddling before and after making love (as well as the emotional foundation established in the relationship along the way)--but at some point they want a man (or a woman) to make love to their pussy. What does a trans-sexual woman with a penis that she does not like, want or desire from and with her partner? Sorry--hope this is not too crude.

[GRH]

Larry, I know that I sort of alluded to being asexual. I don't particularly WANT anything from my partner in terms of intimacy/sex. For me, intimacy goes beyond sex, and in my partnership, about a hundred different things rank higher (for me) than sex, such as:

-Friendship
-Financial stability
-The ability to save money and contribute towards retirement
-Parenting (currently have a son, who is the joy of my life)
-Etc.

With that being said, if you are only interested in sexual intimacy I might be able to give some insight. I don't mind being fucked, so long as my penis isn't involved. I tend to think of my anatomy as similar to a woman. Getting fucked...My ass is like my pussy. For me, my penis is like a clit. Do you stroke a clit? Not really. I don't mind a bit of stroking or sucking, but I don't want to be INSERTING it anywhere, as women don't exactly insert their clits to fuck people.

[franalexes]

GRH
I read your second post before I read the first. Thanks for agreeing with me.
Understated and over simplified; a relationship with sex but no respect, honor or commitment can be erotic but not rewarding. A relationship with respect, honor, commitment, closeness, caring and some body contact but without sex can be rewarding and even erotic.
I sometimes have been asked here,"which way to your bedroom Fran?"
Making a judgement about the person asking, I say, "through the church."
It always seems to "deflate" the question. (amoung other things.)

[franalexes]

For Larry

Make out your list of everything a girl wants. Certainly include that "emotional foundation" and put sex as number 1 if you wish.
Now for a gurl ( note spelling ) keep the same list but put sex far down the list, not necessaraly last.
Good boy! You get A+

[LarryP]

Fran & GRH, thank you both for your reply. You both make some very good points, which are greatly appreciated. Peace, lp

[haroldge]

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

[smc]

Originally Posted by haroldge

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

Try putting yourself in the place of a person born with the "wrong" gender, and then see if orgasms are the most important thing you seek in your life.

[StrangeFool]

Originally Posted by haroldge

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

The paradox is, if anything, only going to make it worse.

Think about how some guys would feel about anal sex (receiving end)- they're not claiming that one can't get pleasure that way, they're claiming they don't want to experience that pleasure. Nope, not interested, do not want to do that for recreation. Not even if, just talking about the anatomy, it would be a physically pleasurable act.