Introduction and Request for Advice

[valentinetabitha]

My name is Tabitha. I'm a bisexual and a casual crossdresser. A few weeks ago I found this forum and have been amazed by the level of comfortability it instantly gave me and is helping me to understand this side of me. Unfortunately this new-found comfort level has made me more adventurous to the point where I'm scared.

I need advice because I'm married. I love my wife deeply, but she is not aware of my secret. She knows that I'm bisexual, but that's it. As I get more and more comfortable with this side of me, I feel like I owe it to her to tell her. Like all of you that are open with your situation (couldn't find a better word), I'm terrified that this will end our marriage.

I don't want to lose her, especially because crossdressing is only a part-time, largely sexual thing for me. I only have homosexual feelings when I'm in "Tabitha" mode.

So the question is: do I put away the panties and just occasionally enjoy my tranny porn, or do I find some way to tell the wife where she won't lose it? And if I'm going to tell her, how do I go about it?

If you don't want to share here, but would rather talk privately, PM me for my online contact info. Thanks in advance for the advice!