LF possible relationship advice

[SDX918]

Hello I'm new here, I lurked for a few days before I decided to register and make a post about my current situation. I'm a straight male that discovered an attraction to a transsexual woman. I'm going to try my best to explain as to hopefully receive the best insight possible.

I connected with pre-op transsexual girl online recently, which led to lengthy text conversations and phone calls. She's so stunning and beautiful, it would be difficult for anyone to determine or even question she's anything other than a genetic girl. She's funny, sweet, intelligent and has all of the qualities I normally look for in a woman. My reactions towards her are according to her personality and appearance, just a girl. She seems to genuinely appreciate that. I'm actually in the process of making plans to go see her hopefully this week.

Now my dilemma is the fact that I have a slut radar and for some reason or another she's found her way on it. I'm not one to pass judgement but I feel the same sense that I get when I believe any girl in general is slutty. Is it normal to feel some type of way about this considering it killed a small portion of my attraction because of the thought she's been "out there"? I wouldn't be asking if I didn't like her so obviously something else is there than just on a physical level. It may seem weird to develop those type of feelings without meeting the person first but I'm sure it's not so uncommon within online dating.

This is my first ever attempt to date a transsexual woman, exciting but quite nerve-wracking. I'd love to see her and continue getting to know her but it does put a damper on things when you feel that a person you're interested in is more sexually active, or has been, than you wish. Maybe not for some, but it does for me. I believe she feels the same way about me to some degree, more than just a physical attraction. I don't think it's something I directly want to ask her though, especially before an initial meet-up

Also, there's nothing wrong with being a "slut" and if that's something you enjoy, then more power to you. I used to be somewhat of a man-slut myself, according to some females. Hence my ability to sense the sluttiness. But I don't condone that type of behavior anymore from myself, or the person I'm talking to. I'd truely like to build a relationship rather than a fling or friends with benefits. Should I ask her straight up...or wait it out and test the waters before jumping the gun? Any advice or $0.02 would be appreciated. Thanks

[franalexes]

First impressions are usually wrong.
Let's just say, "your guard is up." Nothing wrong with that.
Why are you questioning your built in guidance mechanism?
Don't search for someone you can live with.
Search for someone you can't live without.

Go ahead and have a first date. Just don't put yourself in a position to ,,,,"wet your whistle".