Taking the plunge - having a TS gf

[hurleur]

Hi all,

I have been seen an escort TS for now more than 1 year. We get on v well both sexually and personality-wise. We often chat after great sex. We have hinted several times at seeing each other on a non-professional basis. She said half joking i could stay overnight with her. I also hinted half jokingly that i would like to take her out. Despite all of that we have not yet crossed the line.

So the question i have for all is whether i should cross the line and if yes how.

Thanks

Hurleur

[JodieTs]

Hi Hurleur
I'm a Ts escort so I can give you an "inside" view.

I am in two long-term relationships and very happy.
My job is just that, a job.
I'm very good at what I do
and I love my work as well.

We are actresses. Often very good at what we do.
Sometimes my clients loose perspective of that.
When a client steps outside the business relationship
it becomes difficult for me.
I have to manage his expectations;
this is often sadly, by no longer contracting with him.

I don't know either you or your Provider.
But I would suspect she would connect with both my words and thoughts.

If you ask you may well get knocked back.
Are you ready for that?
Also, if you did date, are you ok about her still whoring?
Having sex with other men.
If you would want her to stop escorting,
are you equally prepared to quit your career as well?


I would say though that it may happen.
I dated a client, and we occasionally hang out.
The thing is, I asked him out. This is important.

As a way forward,
You could say to her that you would like to see her outside work*
But that you could not ask her
for fear of misread things.
If she feels the same, she could ask you out.




*As in go out. Normal places like restaurants, bars, the park for walks. Every day date type things.
Later, meet and socialise with each others friends.

[DEFENDER]

Why the doubt,...it seems like you really like each other and get on well,...so it only seems right that you should ask her out for a date and take it from there.
Maybe take her for a nice meal,..then a movie/club/bar and treat her as the lady that she deserves to be treated. Perhaps, (and this may sound odd), that on first couple of dates, just see her to her door and no further....build up to that "first" night of intimacy together.
I wish you both well. It CAN work,...trust me.

Originally Posted by hurleur

Hi all,

I have been seen an escort TS for now more than 1 year. We get on v well both sexually and personality-wise. We often chat after great sex. We have hinted several times at seeing each other on a non-professional basis. She said half joking i could stay overnight with her. I also hinted half jokingly that i would like to take her out. Despite all of that we have not yet crossed the line.

So the question i have for all is whether i should cross the line and if yes how.

Thanks

Hurleur

[jolo]

Originally Posted by hurleur

Hi all,

I have been seen an escort TS for now more than 1 year. We get on v well both sexually and personality-wise. We often chat after great sex. We have hinted several times at seeing each other on a non-professional basis. She said half joking i could stay overnight with her. I also hinted half jokingly that i would like to take her out. Despite all of that we have not yet crossed the line.

So the question i have for all is whether i should cross the line and if yes how.

Thanks

Hurleur

Hurleur,

In light of Jodie's honest posting (and I greatly appreciate her honesty), I think you have nothing to lose, as long as:

• You are prepared to handle the potential rejection and hopefully not personalize on it.
• The truth is that you never know what is on her mind and what her personal situation is, unless you respectful ask her if she would like you in her personal life.

I actually have a tip that I got from a friend of mine, after a long time relationship broke up and I really didn't know what to do.
Ask her to lunch. It is great, non-committal, informal, short, no pressure.

Without having to ask her out for a date, I would find out her situation and see if she was open for a date. Many times I would really get surprised and at worst, I had a pleasant hour.

I have to say that if it was me, the worst thing would be not knowing and not sending her a signal of some sort. Who knows, she might be thinking the same and would like to "let you in".

Think positive, but keep Jodie's remarks in mind.


Jon