Would a TS escorting rule out romance?

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

[ila]

No it doesn't rule out a relationship. The big question for me would be "if this relationship develops into a commitment to each other would I want her to continue as an escort?" If we were truly commited to each other and we took the relationship all the way to marriage then of course I would not want her to continue working as an escort.

[briwo]

Originally Posted by ila

No it doesn't rule out a relationship. The big question for me would be "if this relationship develops into a commitment to each other would I want her to continue as an escort?" If we were truly commited to each other and we took the relationship all the way to marriage then of course I would not want her to continue working as an escort.

I would not be put off by the fact she was a sex worker, but if we fell in love, I would think she wouldn't want to continue if we've made a comittment to each other.

[bigforarse]

No it wouldnt bother me at all. The same rule must be applied to my future (i hope) tgirl lover as I do to my wife, ie if and when my wife gets into sex work it doesnt matter cos we have a full trusting relationship and she would have a job that she really enjoys and makes a lot of money so there is no reason why I would have a diffrent attitude to a tgirl lover of corse not.

[merelypink]

yes yes yes

[hankhavelock]

oh pleeease... wake up, melissa baby... this is a weird question! you don't get it, do you?

[twotap]

how could any one tell lia no what a lady

[Limegirl]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

U must be kidding..

Originally Posted by Limegirl

U must be kidding..

how am I kidding? this is a totaly legitimate question from a TS escort.

[HelgaTS]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

how am I kidding? this is a totaly legitimate question from a TS escort.

I'm a TS Escort in her 60's and have no trouble attracting girlfriends. I'm upfront with them some dont like it, who cares

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

MEL,

Girlfriend, you really know how to push buttons. Nothing wrong with your question, but sex sells is the saying. On this forum that seems to command the lion's share of attention to the exclusion of the biggest sex organ: the brain.

First, a man that falls in love with you will know what's between your legs, and liked it, enjoyed it.

Second, he'll be very sexually oriented: think cannot get enough.

That leaves 3 ways to go.

1. No way.
2. Yes, with the escort business being over.
3. Anything goes. Open relationship for both partners.

If you want to continue, you give up 1 of 2 possibilities.

A question for you. He is okay with your job, but he doesn't want to limit having sex with only you. He says it doesn't mean anything, just like your job. Are you okay with him having an unlimited numbers of sex partners, as long as you're special?

Good hunting,

TAL

[twistedone]

I had to join the "Depends" crowd. Anything is possible. I try not to look at things in black and white so to speak. I fail at it regularly though. LOL

One side of me says, If we developed strong feelings for each other. I actually would prefer if she left the industry behind.

The other side of me, the kinky and submissive side. Says this could lead to a hell of a lot of fun for the both of us. Of course mutual consent between her and I would be a rule of thumb.

Sooooo......It depends.

[ladyboyadmirer]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

Absolutely no problem Malissa. Your poll shows the majority understand your situation. I would even like to fly over there to meet you....and Im not joking. rgds lba

[smolderingtemptress]

If you get infected with an STD, would you stop hooking, or would you choose to continue despite the risk of spreading what you got? If you got infected by a client, would you tell them? What about the person you're in a relationship with? What would happen to your "business"?

Originally Posted by smolderingtemptress

If you get infected with an STD, would you stop hooking, or would you choose to continue despite the risk of spreading what you got? If you got infected by a client, would you tell them? What about the person you're in a relationship with? What would happen to your "business"?

If you were losing an argument, and saw that your position was crumbling beneath your feet, would you fight dirty? Don't try to divert the spotlight squarely fixed on you and your remarks, which supposedly come from a member of the TS community.

Your questions are aimed at a person's character, not one's vocation. The question itself is laden with insult and I have no obligation to be put in such a defensive posture. Not to you. Your questions say more about you and your convoluted cartoon-like impression of escorts in today's modern world.

Fact is, I provide a service. I know that blows your theory but that escorts are lowly bottom-feeders. Fact is, I defy the norm having been a succesful corporate professional turning my back on it for a different life. A life that affords me more free time, more money, more autonomy. What dignity is there in the corporate world anyway? Isn't it a dog-eat-dog world? Aren't people expendable and isn't the idea of job security a joke? What are the great benefits to being a player in the 9 to 5? And do people really hold their head high in bumper-to-bumper traffic after a miserable day's work and say, "I will be remembered for this." LOL, it is a fucking hamster wheel and the corporate world is the hamster cage. Try to draw outside the lines for once and go now, hurry up, you'll be late for church.

[smolderingtemptress]

The irony is you find this job so empowering to yourself when really you're playing into the hands of your circumstances. You think you've gotten this amazing freedom but you're actually right where people have expected you to be, as far as being transsexual. You're being just as insulting, as if morality is old news, and I suppose a good work ethic has gone away with that as well. You took the easy way out and you're surprised when someone disagrees with it. Not all of us are going to be pinned down like that, as much you think we should "work with what we got" as it's said, because sex and fantasy fulfillment are not the only things we're capable of. Don't you see? Any man with a 9-5 may be handing you their paychecks, but at the end of the day you're just the prostitute he went to on the side, more than likely not wanting anyone to know about you. Empowering to know you're reduced to a bottom shelf paper bag? You are a bottom feeder, you had a legitimate career but you were too lazy to hold anymore ambition.

Oh, and I don't even go to church.

[ila]

Originally Posted by smolderingtemptress

The irony is you find this job so empowering to yourself when really you're playing into the hands of your circumstances. You think you've gotten this amazing freedom but you're actually right where people have expected you to be, as far as being transsexual.

I wonder, smolderingtemptress, why you think that society expects transwomen can only be escorts. I expect a transwoman will be what she wants to be and go as far as her capabilities will take her. Most other people are the same in that they will be what they want to be and go as far as their capabilities will take them.

Melissa has said that she is an escort and she likes it. That is her decision and I'm sure no one told that is all she is capable and expected of doing. I'm not sure why you feel that you are being negatively impacted because of what Melissa has chosen to do. My only advice to anyone would be to get on with your own life and worry less about what others have chosen to do with their's. The career choices of others in no way impact nor reflect on you.

Originally Posted by smolderingtemptress

The irony is you find this job so empowering to yourself when really you're playing into the hands of your circumstances. You think you've gotten this amazing freedom but you're actually right where people have expected you to be, as far as being transsexual. You're being just as insulting, as if morality is old news, and I suppose a good work ethic has gone away with that as well. You took the easy way out and you're surprised when someone disagrees with it. Not all of us are going to be pinned down like that, as much you think we should "work with what we got" as it's said, because sex and fantasy fulfillment are not the only things we're capable of. Don't you see? Any man with a 9-5 may be handing you their paychecks, but at the end of the day you're just the prostitute he went to on the side, more than likely not wanting anyone to know about you. Empowering to know you're reduced to a bottom shelf paper bag? You are a bottom feeder, you had a legitimate career but you were too lazy to hold anymore ambition.

Oh, and I don't even go to church.

I am first and foremost an artist & writer. My vocation, and I guess I need to repeat that word seeing as you don't understand (my job, how I pay the bills, my money-making apparatus), is not my career.

I'm playing into nobody's hands. Yea, I am the chick with a dick Mr. Businessman comes to see secretly. And yea, that's how I make my money and here's the point Mr. thick-as-a-brick-can't-see-my-third grade level-point: it doesn't matter how you make money. It doesn't matter if it's legal or illegal, highbrow or lowly, it only matters that you make it.

It's what you do after you make the money that matters. For me, painting, writing, selling my art, running, cooking, being in love...these are the things I fill my days with. This is what matters to me. But you don't know that because you never took the time to read my story or visit my website. You thought you could trash me on a discussion board because I had the gumption to announce my vocation as escort. And show not only my face, but my name, my hometown and my personality. There's nothing anonymous about me. Unlike you. Do you know how worthless your words appear coming from a blank facelss profile?

I play into nobody's hands, they play into mine. I know thats hard for you to accept because it blows a gasket in your life-comprehending device and then you would have to admit your views of society are mis-aligned. This is anything but the easy way out. What's the "hard way"? You have yet to cite one intrinsically valuable thing about doing the 9 to 5. There is nothing more dignified about sucking up to a boss and being a wage slave than spreading your legs for a half hour with a stranger.

Morality as history shows us, is constantly redefined but you can't see that because you get your values from an old issue of Reader's Digest. You should go to church, you fit right in with those zombies.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

No, certainly not - hence my initial respons.

its imposible for me to say, my initial reaction to the question is no i would try to look past it. but i think if it came down to it i might find i couldn't deal with it. no one wants to be sitting at home knowing their girlfriend is out somewhere getting fucked. the more i think about it the more i think i couldn't do it. particularly if she was an escort. no man could sit calmly at home knowing his woman is out putting her life on the line fucking random strangers for a living. even if i tryed to accept it i think i would end up doing something crazy like beating the shit out of one of her clients.
i also think if a woman realy loved her man she wouldn't expect him sit at home while she's out getting fucked here there and everywhere.

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Well lets not forget, Creativemind is, according to him, a working actor, a published writer and an exhibiting artist, lol. Where he finds the time to write his dissertations is beyond me.

Why is it that no one on this board can actually prove that they are what they say they are?

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

Well lets not forget, Creativemind is, according to him, a working actor, a published writer and an exhibiting artist, lol. Where he finds the time to write his dissertations is beyond me.

It's called having talent, a brain, and being smart enough to juggle your time.
You should try it some time.

For crying out loud, I'm not starring in a weekly series, Melissa. Besides, it's not THAT time consuming. In Hollywood, you can often have a shooting time of 8 AM and be done by 3 or 4, thus leaving you the rest of the afternoon and the evening to do other things. Plus, in person, most people find me to be a pretty darn nice guy (mirror held up to me) , so having a pleasant "easy to work with" attitude on a set and not a Drama Queen personality (mirror held up to you) also helps you to land repeated work. There's a valuable tip in that for you, if you're actually smart enough to pick up on it.

As for my art, I've drawn all my life and by the time I was a senior in High School I had already won different contests and state awards. I then turned down a college art scholarship to pursue other interests instead. But I've never stopped working on my art and -- like most people who have an artistic side -- I continue to do it even as a way to relax. Which means I always find spare time to sneak in working on a new piece or project, even if it means burning the midnight oil just because it's important to me to work on something.

And finally as for my "dissertations" -- well, see, that just proves MY background is true unlike the claims you make. You see, when you're REALLY a working writer (i.e. you actually get paid for it) it means you can think conceptually on the spot, you can type relatively fast or with comfortable ease, and then move on. For example, this post took me all of a whopping 2 minutes to write. See, that's what a PROFESSIONAL writer does unlike some people (mirror turned on Melissa again) who make similar claims and yet who can barely manage one sentence replies -- which even then are usually filled with typos galore and pis poor grammatical errors. Which certainly speaks volumes about your own so-called "professional" background.

Translation for the perpetually dim: with a bloated ego like yours and since you walk around with such a chip on your shoulder -- and since you talk and type so horrendously, too -- I guess it's no wonder you got shit-canned from so many jobs and were reduced to becoming a sex worker.

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

Why is it that no one on this board can actually prove that they are what they say they are?

Well, gee, Einstein, here's a staggering thought for your pea-sized brain to TRY and get around -- maybe because this is a public web board where most people want their privacy protected? Maybe because people are here to simply share in a common interest and that's all there is to it? IF I wanted you to know everything about me, Melissa, I'd direct you to my professional web page, much like others that are here could do as well. But given the topic at hand, there's really no need for that, now is there?

Or as I've posted before, did it ever occur to you that there ARE people here who HAVE become friends...who DO trade emails or pictures or chat away from the site...once they personally found that they liked each other? And while doing that, they likewise realized there was no need to tell the rest of the entire world?

So, when it comes to this constant and now incredibly tiresome Drama Queen rant that you continually whine about -- namely about people revealing "who" they are -- let's just cut through all the self-deluded, outrageously stupid, and egotistical bullshit that you spread like fertilizer on these boards and just say the REAL truth...

At a sex site, the ONLY person who would actually benefit from immediately "showing all" and giving out their real name and photos and private, personal contact information would be a hooker openly trying to solicit herself and thus pick up another cheap trick and some cash.

Oh, wait -- light bulb going off over my head.
I guess that explains why you're always so desperate to tell all, now doesn't it, Melissa?

[ila]

Enough of the name calling, character assassination, and denigrating people's occupations. Any more and I'll close the thread to further posts.

[franalexes]

oops

[moonwalkermoon]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

After all the heated up discussions:

Simple answer to a simple question: YES!

And it doesn't matter whether she is a TS or a GG.

I'm not talking about "being together" or other sorts of loose relationships. If I am truly in love with someone I want everything related to love (and that incluces all sorts of sexual activities) to be exclusive between me and my loved one.

I would rather tend to work harder to compensate for the loss in income if my loved one gave up escorting because I would assume it to be "just a job to raise income".

If she would insist in continuing escorting I would suspect it could be more than a job.

Apart from that escorting is as much an acceptable job as any other.

At some points in the debate you sound a bit outraged but that may be attributed to the experiences you have made with "guys".

I can assure you that you have my FULL respect as a TS or escort or whatever because in the first place you are a human being and as such as valuable to me as any other human being as long as you don't prove to be an asshole.

And up to this point I have no evidence that you are.

[dirty30]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

i love whorish sluts,and i don't give a if i have to pay for play ,at least i don't sit home fantasizing about romance and love,all i want to do is fuck and suck...........

[oldawg]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

How about it guys,

If you met a TS, fell head over heels for her, but then found out she is an escort/adult entertainer does it rule out the chances for a relationship?

to get back to the original question,
for myself, if a ts is an escort/adult entertainer that does not automatically rule out romance. there are many levels and ways to romance someone, & i am certainly agreeable to a good number of those ways, if, of course, the girl & i find our space to groove.
however, i know myself well & if i felt the desire to take the relationship to a deeper level, or if it naturally was becoming something more intimate & personal, i could not live with my girl giving herself to others. thats just me. maybe thats selfish, but that is what is important to me. i also hold myself to the same standards though...i dont want to be with others when i have my girl by my side. to me, thats the best part of life, when i find a girl that is my best friend, lover, playmate, kink-explorer, buddy, trusted partner, teacher, student, etc, all rolled up into one great relationship. ive had a few longer-term situations in my time, & im hoping to one day find the one who will go the distance with me. for these reasons, it would hurt me too much, id get jealous, upset, & crazy if i felt this type of deeply for someone & they were lying down with someone else.

so, romance, no problem...deeper relationship, no way...& the past is the past, ill never hold that against her.

this is just my honest answer to a tough question, sorry if you dont agree, but its my answer.

ok-so now i see that the question asks if she told me after, or as i was getting head over heels for her. in this case, unfortunately, i still couldnt live with it. if i tried to put up with it, i just know id end up raising hell, so i couldnt stay. however, if she was head over heels for me too, then she would know this & she wouldnt want to put me through that anyway.

i feel that if its true love, that is whats most important (to me), & any occupation pales in comparison to true love.

again, just my honest answer,
oldawg