Happily Married

[firsttimecharlie]

Hello all,
I am a 34 year old man happily married with a beautiful child. Yet I still have an intense infatuation with transgenders. I don't think this is a problem? Mainly when I masterbate, when I have any alone time, which is very rare, I love to search and admire transgender porn on the Internet. I love my wife with all my heart, but I think this is my time to do what makes me happy!!! Recently I have considered an encounter with a local transgender, I have never cheated on my wife, but I really feel this is something I need in my life, something I desire and fantasize about often. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
Thanks,
Firsttimecharlie:

[tslust]

Originally Posted by firsttimecharlie

Hello all,
I am a 34 year old man happily married with a beautiful child. Yet I still have an intense infatuation with transgenders. I don't think this is a problem? Mainly when I masterbate, when I have any alone time, which is very rare, I love to search and admire transgender porn on the Internet. I love my wife with all my heart, but I think this is my time to do what makes me happy!!! Recently I have considered an encounter with a local transgender, I have never cheated on my wife, but I really feel this is something I need in my life, something I desire and fantasize about often. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
Thanks,
Firsttimecharlie:

Firstly, you have to ask yourself if you really want to throw your marriage. This is something you really need to discuss with your wife and get her feedback, then decide what to do.

Honestly, I hate it when guys cheat on their wives. If he's so willing to break his vows, how can I trust him? That's why if I know that a guy is married, I won't play with him.

Now, to give you a "back door", (not to enpower any infidelity) cybersex IMHO is not cheating.

[Melissa Pink]

I don't date married people, period! It's a bad pratice all around for everyone!

[rockabilly]

I am happily married now.

I am lucky in that my wife knows about my previous relationship with a tg and interest in tg porn. She accepts it because I was honest and upfront about it, I didn't try to hide it and made it clear that I am hers and love her with all my heart.

[GRH]

It sounds like you have more of a fantasy than an actual "need" to engage in sex with TG's. You've said yourself that you're happily married. So why risk throwing that away? If you're willing to cheat on your wife, you clearly don't love or value her as much as you proclaim. Especially for your supposed "need" for indulgent sex. Sex is not a need. Period. It's a choice. You can certainly make the choice to cheat or not-- but I don't have a lot of respect for cheaters.

On a different level, I can also relate. My wife and I have had a threesome with an old beau from my childhood. I always thought the guy was a cutie to begin with and I had fantasized about having a threesome with SOMEBODY. Well, one cocaine-binge induced night, that fantasy became a reality. I won't go into the sordid details-- but it was fun. I was horny. I don't regret it.

But it was also weird. There were things I hadn't counted on-- like my friend having body hair (I'm not big on body hair). His penis was also much smaller than I was expecting. The next morning was sort of awkward-- we chalked it up to having been on a cocaine binge. My friend and I ended up drifting apart (not solely due to this), and we no longer talk.

I guess where I'm going is that the sexual fantasy and the sexual reality don't always match. Yes, the threesome was fun on some levels. But the reality of it just didn't live up to my fantasy. There were too many weird and awkward things about. This is often the case when comparing fantasy with reality.

I'd hate for you to risk your marriage chasing a fantasy which may not even live up to your expectations. Conversely, you may have so great a time that you decide to chase nothing but TG tail and you end up divorcing your wife. You can't really say what will happen. But I think some things are best left as fantasies-- particularly when we've made commitments to our partners. Now perhaps your wife would be open to a threesome or an "open" marriage-- I don't know. That may give you some options.

[firsttimecharlie]

Thanks for the feedback! All of you made valid points. I know it is a fantasy and not a necessity by any stretch. I have been masterbating to transgender images and movies since the age of the Internet. Fortunately back then I would cum before the entire image would load. Its just nice to have a place where there are people to speak with openly and honestly. I would never cheat on my wife. I know that in my heart. Now what about a massage by a transgender? These are questions I have always wanted to ask. I hope it's not annoying. I am a very successful self employed business owner with the house In the burbs, a great wife and kid, and even two dogs. But I have all these emotions and thoughts that are constantly in my head. Again thank you all for your honest and caring feedback. Thanks