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I am not sure if you mean fake as friends that you don't know offline(online friends) or fake as in people who only pretended to be your friend and then stabbed you in the back.

Either way, I disagree with whoever said it doesn't hurt. It does. I have felt both the loss of an online friend(she was from Russia and I think something bad happened to her) and I have also been betrayed by someone who I thought was my friend and turned out not to be anything of the sort. I know how bad it can hurt, but it can help talking to other friends(or just writing it out for yourself in a journal or something like that).

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Jen, loss hurts, plain and simple, and because I think of you as one of my online friends it hurts me to know you're feeling a loss. You deserve nothing but joy, with no pain. My PM box is open, too, even if you just want to get a warm word of support back for a tiny boost.
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I believe you never truly know anybody , if you look upon it this way you will never be disappointed , we can only hope people stay as they are , but most things change
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I've been told you don't loose when you loose fake friends
This may be true but it still hurts
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JEN:

When reality breaks the perception of someone, like when someone falls out of love, that's how fragile friendships and relationships are. They are a reality based in perception. That's why the pain is always real and not perceived. The perception of you changed, and with it the reality of your friendship. It isn't right but it is reality none the less.

Hopefully this reality will speed your healing, if not the scar it left.



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Thanks everyone,
At this time i don't want to really talk about it in great detail but this was a friend that was very dear to me and this one really hurts
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At this time i don't want to really talk about it in great detail but this was a friend that was very dear to me and this one really hurts
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Did it have anything to do with you being trans?
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What a bastard! Don't worry Jen! Even though we may not see eye to eye on certain subjects, I consider you to be a friend.
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tell me about it... a lot of people tends to pretend, and it's terrible.

All I can tell you is, too not let it destroys you, and keep forward

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Well after a while you realize that you can get the "feeling" that they are fake. So you distance yourself.

I hope that helps.


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Isn't that the dilemma for the Transwomen who are living in stealth ....

When do you tell people about your past .... ?

Tell them after you have established a relationship this happens .... they feel cheated, feel it's a lie, they question their own sexuality. It says far more about their own security than anything about the Girl.

In saying that, if they have never encountered a TS Woman before then perhaps you can understand it being a bit of a mindfuck. They have grown up with the standard concept of gender and sexuality .... invested their time in a relationship with a genetic girl .... and suddenly they have to question their own morality, take on board some of the issues that the Transwoman has had to face .... What will other people think, family and friends etc ....

The Trans-woman has come to terms with herself over a long period of time .... slowly built up her confidence and come out to the world when she was ready ....

Perhaps they will come round and see the person behind the "status" ..... but if not ... it says more about their lack of character.

On the flipside .... The Transwoman tells the friend/partner early on .... before the relationship has started, before the bonds of trust are established ... and they can't take it. They split and suddenly she risks being outed to everyone where she may otherwise have been completely living in stealth.

It's not the same as where the TG is open about it and forms a relationship and friends with this in full knowledge .... perhaps the guy is into transgendered women and comfortable and secure in his own sexuality.

My heart goes out to you Jen, it really does ..... surround yourself in friends and chocolate ..... Time is the healer.

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Isn't that the dilemma for the Transwomen who are living in stealth ....
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to me it depends on you,,,how you think and feel,,,, not on whether or not the friend is 'fake' or not. Either on line or in real time too,,,if you hurt, then you do and for sure there's nothing wrong if you do....
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