How do you release your sexual desire?

[WudLuv2try]

How do you release your sexual desire?

Do you have sex with your wife?

Or your girlfriend? Boyfriend?

Do you masturbate?

Do you visit the 'massage' parlor and get some oil massage?

What ways are there, to release my sexual desire? Provided that I actually HAVE sexual desire... -__- ,,

Do you make fuck buddies? Have affairs? Prostitutes?

I'm just curious because since I'm married, my options are pretty much down to zero. Even masturbating causes concerns.

It's been so long since I had actual desire to fuck.

I mean, I used to want to have sex every hour when I was young...

When I was riding a bus... subway... at schools... at theaters...

But these days it's hard to imagine getting it up.

There is no 'inspiration'.

Life must suck.

That's when I smoke a joint...

And somehow, I can imagine a wonderful sex, the kind that can only be found in this site, Transladyboy Forum...

I mean where else can I 'discharge' so much sex other than this site?

I'm so glad this site exists, and I feel extremely thankful to the people who made this and maintain this website.

Thanks, guys... or girls... or wherever you are in between...

[foreskinlvr]

I have a long term gf and I masturbate almost everyday and have sex around 3 times a week. I would have sex more, but her libito isn't too high, but its increased as of late which is nice. I've never cheated in any way and don't ever plan to, but I do enjoy looking at porn quite a bit which can fulfill some of those darker fantasies.

Sounds like you need to figure some stuff out. Is sex with your wife still fun? Are you turned on in the moment? Maybe you guys should go to a sex therapist or try some new things.

[jodarling]

Partners been few and far between at the moment so I mainly masturbate over this site.

[kilgoretrout]

Lots of self gratification looking at pictures of shemale oral.

I would love to have another shemale encounter, but I do not like using pros and do not know how else to meat one.

[paulmal32]

Sounds you are depressed and have low libido. How old are you? Have you ever had your testosterone levels checked? I was sort of the same way and I started using T and everything is so much better. My BP and resting pulse rate are down my libido is at an all time high. Life is much better

[WudLuv2try]

Thanks for all replies.

Hm... sex with wife huh... Sometimes it's OK, but most of the times, I have sex with her just to prove to her that I still find her sexually attractive.

I don't 'enjoy' it very much, but I like the calm and peacefulness feeling I get after I do it with her. She's more relaxed and much less edgy after sex.

Honestly, I think my wife is pretty bad at sex. She doesn't give me blow jobs, she doesn't let me eat her pussy, nothing. We just do it like a monk and a nun.

HOWEVER,

It's not like I'm very sexually active either. I can go weeks... months without sex... with another person. I can just live with masturbating to various porns and I can keep myself horny by jacking off at oddest of places.

But lately, my wife said something that made me feel uncomfortable about masturbating.

She said (in a sarcastic and pissed off tone),

"You have sexual urge, but you don't think of me... you'd rather jack off than have sex with your wife."

So after that, jacking off lost its thing... Just thinking about jacking off makes me feel uncomfortable. And after that, I lost all my sexual desire.

Suddenly I feel like I'm in a therapist session........

But really... I need to vent....

[foreskinlvr]

Well, it definitely sounds like your not in the most ideal sexual state of your life.. She shouldn't make you feel bad about masturbating, if you're horny you'll get the urges out one way or another. I'm definitely no therapist, so I definitely don't know everything about relationships, and don't want to give you that impression. All in all, it seems to come down to the fact that you're just not being fulfilled sexually. Sex can get boring in a long term relationship even with oral sex and trying to be spontaneous, let alone the situation you're in. I think the sooner she knows that things need to change sexually between you two the better. For me, if my gf and I don't have sex at least occasionally (once a week or so), the sexual frustration builds up for me and we get irritable with each other. I think if you're wife is willing to hear you out and potentially step out of her comfort zone to make sex more interesting, you'd be on the road to a better sex life. Good luck with everything, I don't envy your position as I think its going to take a bit of work to get things back on track.

[avrilfuck]

Actually, masturbate.
I can´t go no more with shemales....
I miss them

[racquel]

http://www.amazon.com/Hitachi-Wand-V...dp/B001QVY7ZQ/

[Katie Girl]

As I don't have a gf at the moment, I have been visiting Working Girls (Females) as I need female stimulation. I visit 2 WG's on a regular basis and one of them loves me to dress up for her. Last time I visited I wore a pink pin striped matching bra & thong, hold up stockings and 5inch heels. I bought her the same bra & pants set, which she put on, and we decided we were sisters!!
We didn't have sex last time I visited but she gave me the best blow job I have ever had. I spurted my cream into her mouth and she let it dribble over her 32d tits, fucking lovely to watch. She videoed our time together, so I can play it back any time and have a nice wank thinking about it.
I think I need to book in to see her again soon!!
Love Katie Girl xxx

[CuriousGirl]

Being a bisexual female I have a nice menu from which to choose; My BF when I want a nice lollipop to suck or need vaginal or anal intercourse; My bisexual GF; The Asian T-girl I've known for several months now. "She" is cute as a button, lots of fun to just hang out with. She isn't very serviceable so far as intercourse goes since she has a tiny penis and was castrated maybe three years before coming to the USA but we do have a lot of fun in bed.
If there are no "friends" available I can simply masturbate manually; use my assortment of toys; or ride the Sybian I bought a while back while I watch erotic vids.
Since I'm only in my 20's I feel I've experienced a lot more than most women of my age have and that's fine with me.

[franalexes]

Strange; I don't chat much but I've made a lot of guys bang their cock on the keyboard. They must be having erotic fantasies. What about , I have no idea.

[The Conquistador]

Originally Posted by franalexes

I've made a lot of guys bang their cock on the keyboard.

I've only done that once when I stubbed my toe on the desk. I got the "double whammy".

[randolph]

Originally Posted by franalexes

Strange; I don't chat much but I've made a lot of guys bang their cock on the keyboard. They must be having erotic fantasies. What about , I have no idea.

Ahh, Franchesca of Avalon, bless me with your mighty sword and I will be your knight forever.

[EdwardSinclair]

I feel I am in the same boat! I have a long-term gf we have been together around 6 years now!

She gets really agitated when we won't have sex for a long time. We sometimes go a good 3 months without doing it, and she is a very beautiful lady and I do feel attracted to her physically. Although she constantly makes me feel guilty for masturbating when we are not together, especially because she noticed some nude pics on my mobile (not the trans kind though).

Then of course I have had the same problem with other beautiful women too, sex with them doesn't seem quite right, I don't know how to explain except that masturbation seems to feel better is some respects. Either I have been with the wrong women, or maybe it's something psychological.

There was a time I was afraid, I would only be able to get it up to jack off to a trans ladyboy, but I soon found out that isn't true! I'm attracted to women, but I haven't managed to understand what is wrong yet.

It's not like I need viagra, because I can get really hard powerful erections when I'm excited. It's just that if something awkward happens during sex, like she says something ridiculous I immediately lose my erection and it won't come back so soon.

This never happens when I'm jacking off to internet porn! Once I did it for 4 hours straight online, but if I last even more than 30 mins with her she will complain that the reason I last so long to cum inside her is because I don't find her attractive anymore... or that I don't like her, which isn't true , because I love her to bits!

Also I made the mistake of getting one of those FL to help me masturbate, now instead of orgasming in 3 minutes it takes me ages to do it, almost 35 minutes or so, sometimes more... I thought this would be a good thing, only apparently it isn't, because now when we have sex I can't orgasm in time with her.

Maybe I'm really messed up now...

True honest story...

[WudLuv2try]

EdwardSinclair : We are in the same boat...

I see your gf is pretty tough one...

"...but if I last even more than 30 mins with her she will complain that the reason I last so long to cum inside her is because I don't find her attractive anymore..."

Shit like this is exactly why you have hard time having sex with her. Same for me too.

I'll tell you.

I can't be 100% sure, but I swear my wife was feeling for how much cum I injected into her after sex. She's trying to see if there's enough cum to convince her that I haven't had sex with anyone on that day.

And that is such a turn off!! You know what I mean?

It's like this.

When I come home late, after I take my customer to dinner and stuff, or after I take my customer to golf, my wife will seduce me in most obvious way, and have sex with me. (Whether I want to or not.)

And when I cum, she will see if there's enough cum or not. If I had visited sex shop with the customer, then there should be very little cum. If I only had dinner, like I said I did, then there should be more cum.

I mean, I can't say for sure if THAT was what she was doing, but there are some things you can tell...

I don't know what I'm going to acheive by saying all this, and I hate to feel I'm talking crap about my wife, but I don't know....

[EdwardSinclair]

It just sounds to close to home for me, I can't give any advice on it but I can sure relate to it.

My gf will call me randomly from time to time, and if I don't pick up, she starts saying I'm with someone else, and is always suspicious I'm gonna leave her for someone younger... I think that's very similar behaviour to what your wife is doing to you!

Then sometimes she cries me a river, and I just feel powerless, completely and utterly useless! I hate feeling useless... how can I be expected to perform feeling useless??

I talk to her all the time, that I care and love her and reassure her. I mean I do that everyday, and I'm still doing this everyday for the past 2 or so years since all this started!

And I don't mind doing that, except for when I'm accused of something I haven't done or she starts acting weird and freaking out for no reason, then I feel like crap.

Frankly I just want her to be happy, I just wish things could be like they were 3 years ago, it was fantastic. I mean sometimes it still is, but there's a lot of annoying things in between.

It's a little selfish of me, but somehow I find a little comfort in reading about your experiences, because it makes me feel as if I'm not alone out here struggling with this crap. I wish it all works out between you and your wife. If anything I feel better for venting some of this stuff out, hope you do too!!

[WudLuv2try]

EdwardSinclair : "It's a little selfish of me, but somehow I find a little comfort in reading about your experiences, because it makes me feel as if I'm not alone out here struggling with this crap."

Same here man... :D

I've never had sex with anyone after I got married. UNTIL... -___- ,,

But that's another story... for another time......

But I'm telling you. Shit could happen in such a way, that you find yourself in the middle of it, and you don't even know how you got there.

[EdwardSinclair]

Well, I can relate to that too I'm afraid
I have been in this situation once in my life. Although I find myself thinking that, for all the guilt I got from it in the end... that one time is enough for a life time!