advice on coming out

[aussiepride]

ok a little serious therapy/advice plz

i have been living with my gf for the past 12mnths. she is a pre op ts.
I have fallen deeply in love with her, shes makes me so happy.
and she is 100% passable girl.

recently we broke up, she moved out and although we remain friends, the "partnership" is over so to speak...well at least for now.

many issues going on, but one major one is that i have not told anyone in my family or friends that she is a tranny.
All my fam and friends have met her, they love her, but they have no idea that she is boy.
we recently spke about this, and this is something that she cannot stand for anymore....

anyway...some other points to consider.....
1. sex with her is ordinary to say the least... she is a goodess to look at, but unfortunately is only into sexual contact at a minimal level (i am opposite i suppose, when i love someone, i cant get enough of them)
2. my brother is gay, been with a male partner for the last 10 years. even my uncle is gay (left his wife and children for gay partners)
3. it has little bearing on me... but i still hate to think that my dad does not accept my gay brother.... what would he think about me?
4. i am straight. i like cock yes to suck on (only if it is pretty), but essentially i love girls, the look of girls... and to have sex with girls.

do i out myself just because i love probably the best ts that i will ever know in my life?

[JodieTs]

What does your ex think about your intention to "out" her?

You call your ts ex-girlfriend a boy
and want advice on outing her to your family and friends?
You do know stuff like that regularly gets ts women assaulted and at times killed?

I am in a relationship with a man who has introduced me to a wide range of people:
from his family and friends, to celebrities and several Heads of State.
None of them know my trans history.
He would never consider revealing my trans stuff to anyone else.


Your ex is better off never having any contact with you ever again.


Oh and finally, You are soooooooooo not straight!

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Everything Jodie wrote, and

Could we have her contact information so we could ask her opinion of sex with you? Just sayin' ...

[aussiepride]

ok

she had issues with n ex, was also things she needed to sort out, was also something she had to sort out, and yes she moved out after living with me for a year 2 days ago.

but what she did say is that our familys can not meet at present.
her fam calls her her boy name... her son, her brother etc..
she told me she always worried when she met my friends or fam that she had to be "on" and try to be female, so that they wouldnt notice, so that i wouldnt be "outed"

strangly however...she works for a large national company, and only the people she had in the interview know she is a ts, all other workers think she is female, a thing she does not correct them on.

and as for sex.... ahaha i nearly dumped her numerous times over the sex thing, because i didnt believe how her attitue towards it. but:
1. i have to turn away people im that good in bed
2. she maybe 39, but her ass is literally the size of a 16yr old... can hardly fit a finger in her... not to mention that i am thick
3. she has never cheated on me in 12mtns, even though she has had half of australia chasing her

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Originally Posted by aussiepride

ok

she had issues with n ex, was also things she needed to sort out, was also something she had to sort out, and yes she moved out after living with me for a year 2 days ago.

but what she did say is that our familys can not meet at present.
her fam calls her her boy name... her son, her brother etc..
she told me she always worried when she met my friends or fam that she had to be "on" and try to be female, so that they wouldnt notice, so that i wouldnt be "outed"

strangly however...she works for a large national company, and only the people she had in the interview know she is a ts, all other workers think she is female, a thing she does not correct them on.

and as for sex.... ahaha i nearly dumped her numerous times over the sex thing, because i didnt believe how her attitue towards it. but:
1. i have to turn away people im that good in bed
2. she maybe 39, but her ass is literally the size of a 16yr old... can hardly fit a finger in her... not to mention that i am thick
3. she has never cheated on me in 12mtns, even though she has had half of australia chasing her

I'm so torn. Do I beg you to fuck me? I mean, look at the stuff above, in bold. I'll even wear a dress!

Seriously, though, you read Jodie's response and this is what you write? Talk about missing the boat.

[aussiepride]

you assume the prob was MY sex contact. read what i wrote.

i am really torn. i love her yes, i love her more than i have loved another person.

but she has told me that if i tell fam n friends that she is TS then she would feel more committed to me.... OPPOSITE TO WHAT JODIE WROTE.

some people dont want to escape their past. My girl only become a TS when she was 35, prior to that she was a gay boy.

and unlike most TS, she takes horomones like clockwork.. it really lowers the sex drive as well

[JodieTs]

Ok that is curious.
If that is what she wants,
and if you go back out together
then if she is sure
it is up to her to tell your family
with you by her side, quietly supporting her.

If you got back together,
would you be ok about doing this?
If not, then it really isn't gonna work long term.

My man just said this:
From her reaction,
your partner is not a ts but a gay man, on hormones, playing the role of a woman..
If you are comfortable about both that and sharing it with your family, then there is no problem
But real Ts's feel comfortable in their female role
and after transition, look forward, not back.
[BTW, I don't agree with my man's take on this]

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Pay attention to what Jodie says, aussiepride. I have it on good authority that she has an advanced degress in transsexual psychology from the University of I Got It on the Bloody Streets!