what do you find offensive

[optimusmike123]

so this question is to transgenders only

i have read a few threads recently and there always seems to be someone getting told off for being offensive and lack off respect.

so as a trans person what names or actions actually offend you?

and like i said i want answers from transgenders

[smc]

Originally Posted by optimusmike123

so this question is to transgenders only

i have read a few threads recently and there always seems to be someone getting told off for being offensive and lack off respect.

so as a trans person what names or actions actually offend you?

and like i said i want answers from transgenders

The question of language and terminology has been taken up in many other threads, and many of our trans members have weighed in on the subject. I suggest you do a search.

[transjen]

the term Gurl bugs me mainly because it's like someone saying you are not a girl you're a gurl meaning you are not a real girl just a wanna be hence we'll call you a gurl
Santa's naughty elf Jen

[smc]

Originally Posted by transjen

the term Gurl bugs me mainly because it's like someone saying you are not a girl you're a gurl meaning you are not a real girl just a wanna be hence we'll call you a gurl
Santa's naughty elf Jen

There is an interesting point to be made about Jen's response. Many men and even some TS members here, when they first begin to post, use the term "gurl." (I've even see some self-identified M2Fs use it on the site.) I was one of them, when I first joined the site. I learned from Jen and others that it was unacceptable. It had not occurred to me that one letter in one word could carry so much negative meaning ... but it's easy to see, from Jen's explanation, how it can and does.

That is why we are diligent on this site about ungendering language. To the degree that I play a role in enforcing our rules about ungendering in my capacity as one of the moderators, I do it precisely because I know that Jen (and others) are as much women as any other women who walk the earth.

(Jen, as a hockey fan, is actually in a very special and rare class of women ... my kind of woman! )

[Amy]

TBH, me and my friends don't really tend to be offended by "Tranny" or "Shemale", as we tend to use them among ourselves in the same way many young black men (And far too many stupid-looking white boys who think they're so "gangsta" ) will use "Nigga".

Well as SMC has stated. Anything that suggests that me or any other trans person on this site is anything but what we are. I.E. Shemale, not a real girl, ladyboy (even though thai girls use that word to describe them selfs), dick-girl. Anything that assumes we are like the girls in porn, or what have you. Everyone is different, so everyone will be or not offended to different things.

For a safe bet, don't ever assume anything, and just use the terms transsexual, TS, trans-girl, or just girl.

And I never really noticed the use of "gurl" before, but now I know it's used to distinguish between trans girls and *rolls eyes* "real girls". I find it offensive as well. It's like world of warcraft players asking if I'm a girl or a G.I.R.L. (guy in real life).

[Amy]

Yeah, "Gurl" pisses me off.

[Melissa Pink]

Originally Posted by Amy

TBH, me and my friends don't really tend to be offended by "Tranny" or "Shemale", as we tend to use them among ourselves in the same way many young black men (And far too many stupid-looking white boys who think they're so "gangsta" ) will use "Nigga".

I'm on board with Amy on these two terms. I'm not at all ashamed of who I am but there are times when the terms "tranny" or "shemale" are perjorative. My girlfriends and I may refer to one another by these as terms of endearment but it's different when if comes from a males who often don't know the difference between a transvestite and a transgender. A couple of club or chatroom come on lines that trip my trigger are "How long have you been "dressing"? AND "When are you going to have the operation?" My reply is usually I try to see the best in people but some individuals make it hard to see anything positive about their personalities. My recommendation is to treat a transgendered woman just as you would treat any other woman and you will make a new friend and maybe more!

[franalexes]

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Don't call me late for dinner.
I am not offended by the words unless they convey a disturbing attitude.
I understand that some of you guys are like being lost in the woods and come across a clearing. You don't know quite what to do with it. I understand you're search for words.

Mostly I am offended by the thought that because we are TS we also must be sluts and 'ho's.

[Aust1n]

Originally Posted by transjen

the term Gurl bugs me mainly because it's like someone saying you are not a girl you're a gurl meaning you are not a real girl just a wanna be hence we'll call you a gurl
Santa's naughty elf Jen

What about t-girls who call themselves gurls?

[transjen]

Originally Posted by Aust1n

What about t-girls who call themselves gurls?

All because others us the term it doesn't make it less offensive to me

Santas naughty elf Jen

[Aust1n]

Originally Posted by transjen

All because others us the term it doesn't make it less offensive to me

Santas naughty elf Jen

Understandable.

[ImAlittleCurious]

No matter what you try to say. You will always offend someone. As you "enter" a world seen as... taboo. "Wrong" in the bible. It, all falls into how open you're mind is. How you view each person, regardless of sex. WE all have our own views.