Yeah it pretty much stinks on ice. My only issue with the sentiment expressed so far is that it's a shame it's soooo hard for guys like you to be honest about your attraction. I, frankly, think that's a load of crap.
I'm as open about being trans as I can without wearing a shirt that reads "Tranny". To me being honest is important for me, as well as the gals who can't be, or who will be starting transition soon, or who haven't been born yet. If it's treated like a "dirty secret" by us (you guys and us gals) how is the world supposed to look at us other than freaks, delusional, hell-bound monsters, whatever?
I know hundreds of openly Trans* women in all walks of life. I can count on one hand the number of guys who are open about loving/dating/fucking us. It really seems like guys are hiding under my skirt.
For some stories and pictures in various languages of open TGs from all over:
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conw...successes.html
Note: the list was limited to post-op gals to keep the size of the page managable