I've had guys tell me ( quite a few of them actually ) that speaking to a t girl on the phone first is a wonderful ice breaker to the whole thing, and the much larger step of "actually doing it".
I play through such things with men who want to have some idea what it will be like, but aren't *QUITE* ready to do this "for real" ...sometimes fantasy helps, sometimes it makes all the difference in whether the man really does seek out one of us in his life or not .....