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Originally Posted by Mel Asher
Yes, I agree that this question of Porn-driven opinions versus Personal Witness needs plenty of Thread time, and has indeed been the subject of many posts. I don't think the majority of hormone-driven males who enjoy T-porn can possibly imagine the pain and endurance needed for anyone who has ' misplaced sexuality ' - let alone the courage required ( and the money, as Bionca so sharply reminded us ) and the endurance to cope with the process and social aftermath of Transgendering. I include here F2m's although socially they attract a lot less attention. It is not to be wondered at that M2fs, whether they proceed to complete Transition or not, become obsessively preoccupied with their condition and acquire a burden of resentment and sometimes paranoia. By comparison the semantics of market T-porn must seem trivial to say the least.
But I don't think the average male means to be insensitive in his use of teminology when it comes to seeking out or referring to Transexual Porn. It is just that that they don't appreciate how highly sensitised M2fs can become to their casual use of terminology. And, after all, I guess that average means me, too, as indeed quite it must a lot of us who share in the pleasures and discussions of this Forum.
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Mel, this is a very good comment.
There is a mix of emotions and sensitivities here and perhaps they can be discussed without hurting anyone's feelings.
First, the Transladyboy site is a porn site with financial support from a sex cam site. It is designed to encourage participation in cam porn (which is very expensive).
Second, the site forum provides the opportunity for anyone to share comments, sexy stories and erotic images of transsexuals / shemales.
Third, the forum allows anyone to share their experiences with transsexual partners.
Transsexualism is a strange phenomenon. Why do males that have loved females for years become converted to lusting after shemales. Also, some males are interested in a loving relationship and possibly marriage with a transsexual. There are obvious limitations to this relationship. A transsexual partner is unable to bear children.
OK, is there a difference between transsexuals and shemales? I would suggest that shemales are a subset of transsexuals. Transvestites on the other hand are separate from transsexuals in that they are males that enjoy dressing up as females but remain essentially males. Transsexuals believe they were born with the wrong body, their mind tells them that they are female. Shemales, although they often "look" very female and retain the male capability to have an erection and possibly ejaculation of semen. In a sense they are a hybrid. Also, shemales often participate in the sex trade as models, escorts or prostitutes.
It seems, for the most part, male participants in this forum are interested in looking at shemale images and fantasizing about having sex with the shemale portrayed. Since these fantasies are highly sexual, the verbal expressions are often crude and objectify the shemale as a sex performer and nothing more.
Now this forum is unusual in that we have transsexuals actually participating, with comments. Their comments about the "reality" of being transsexual are very enlightening. However, they challenge the sexual fantasies encouraged by shemale porn on the site. The accounts by Bionca, Fran, Pixie, Jen and others testify to the difficulties of being transsexual. I believe most of the participants here have the utmost respect for the transsexual women trying to make their way in this rather hostile environment.
I know these comments are simplistic, so perhaps they can be discussed further.