I think it depends on the point in the realtionship. Just meeting one and fucking them? Condom yes, no sense in adding to my troubles, and those of the partners I have/will have by messing with an STD.
But I have never been the slam-bam-thankyouma'am type. I like having long term relationships. If I found a T-girl I'd ask my gf for permission to fuck her (and the T-girl would know of my monogamous realtions with my marriage-shy girlfriend) and if it was good for both of us (the T-girl and I) I'd ask if she would like to enter into a stable relationship. If agreeable to the t-girl and the tests came back neg its
Bareback for me
every time baby!
Looking at what I typed, I can see some folks seeing this as pie-in-the-sky, but my g-friend has given me pre-permission for an outside relationship as long as I am careful, and I have advised her that this sort of relationship is what I am after. So she is aware and she hasn't left me (yet).