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Originally Posted by Imconfused
I would use a strap on, on my boyfriend if he asked and yes it would make me happy cause I am making him happy. I don't know exactly what he is into or how far he wants to go with anal. The only thing I have used is my finger, he seemed to like it. Im a bit afraid that if I put on a strap on and go into the room he might be like get f&ck out. Then what.
The only reason I told him about me not telling anyone if him and I were to break up is because he brought it up first, I just wanted to reassure him.
Before he left for work just a little bit ago. I had asked him all that stuff about why he hasn't been making love to me and the strap on, the only thing he said was to get rid of the dvd it wasn't important to him, but I know it is. I know he watches it everyday when I am at work or go to the store or just when ever he can. I told him I wasn't mad that I watch it but a little hurt that he doesn't make love to me anymore. So then he denied watching it. Why would he do this when I already know? Why would he say his shemale dvd isn't important to him when I know it is?
If you all knew me personally, you would see that in reality if I was your real friend...you would have a person to talk to about this and wouldn't judge you, make fun of you, call you names .....etc...you get the point. someone said labels are for canned foods not pepole. they are right. an ex boyfriend of mine that dressed in womans cloths told me..I was too good to be true he couldn't believe how well I accepted him, I went out to eat with him in public many of times while he was dressed, walked around the block did whatever. I saw the person he was on the inside and thats who I loved and I accepted everything that came along with him.....So being that I was too good to be true, he dumped me. I was crushed. I bought him womans stuff etc... I guess he couldn't handle the fact that I knew I guess.
So really, obviously he likes shemales but to what extent?! I have no idea. He wont be open with me about it. SO for real if I were to wear a strap on and walk into the bedroom, you don't think he would freak out? I do have to say that after fingering him and asking him if he wanted me to go further or take it to another level I would and when he asked I told him toys and he said yes. So I got the toys but we haven't used them yet. Is it because he is afraid of what I might think if we do use the toys?
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I think its mainly about him being afraid of what you might think of him and the consequence's, and its not all about you, in the outside world there is a very big stigma attached to this kind of thing for a man.
Maybe instead of trying to talk to him you should ease off for a while and just attempt to make love and slowly introduce more anal play, mabey you could ask him to do it to you as well to ease the situation.
Before long you might get to this
with him:D
Good luck
