Just wanted to say hi and welcome to the site Ellen.
I don't think you will find many girls on this site though mostly men here, shemale lovers.
I have been very attracted and interested in hermaphrodites for quite some time now even written little post here some time ago - hermaphrodite or shemale.
http://forum.transladyboy.com/showthread.php?t=109
So i'm a little jealous of you:D
You must have an incredible and exciting love life together.
Ive not heard of any sites dedicated to married hermaphrodite couples as i think your situation is quite unusual, most sites i think are for advice for families with hermaphrodite children, sorry i cant help you more mabey someone else knows more.
I do have a question - do you fancy a threesome?:D:D
Seriously welcome Ellen and hope you and your partner enjoy the forum.