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Originally Posted by angela671

... But it would be nice to be seen as more than a sex object. To know that i mean more than that to someone. To be with one, who doesn't care if others see if we hold hands. And isn't afraid of what others might think. Maybe i'm asking for too much..maybe that's perfection? If it is, then i guess, beam me up. ...

Don't despair completely. There really are guys out there who are decent. I look at a lot of porn in large part to "get out of my system" the shit you describe above. And I don't see escorts. The transwomen with whom I've had relationships are a graduate student I met in a non-bar, non-sex situation and who I spent a long time having mostly "academic"-related discussions with before even kissing, a woman I met on the local subway and had a discussion with when the train broke down (later going out for coffee three times before even holding hands), and a friend who I invited to Boston as a getaway from some family problems, made not a single "move" on, and who -- after a few days -- fell asleep in my arms after a long discussion about life's toils and troubles and then woke up to kiss me and make love (something she said she'd never done before).

I mention this only to show that there are decent guys. I've met others. True, most men are dogs and they think primarily with their dicks, but some manage to overcome that ... even if only fleetingly.