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Originally Posted by fionahavelock
most of my relationships are long distance relationship...yes it is so hard to keep it, but i believe it came back to the persons itself.
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Well said, and I totally agree. There's no question that long distance relationships have problems that are unique unto themselves. That there will be things that could very easily (and very quickly) bust you up as a couple...
...But at the same time, to maintain a long distance relationship, there are ALSO things that a couple will have to do that will ultimately ACCELERATE and EXPOSE the truth about each other. So, in other ways, you'll find out much, much quicker how much tolerance you have for certain things and you'll decide much, much quicker if you really are THAT interested in the other person and if you're willing to put in the time and dedication to make it all work out over time.
I've had two very serious relationships that started out as long distance affairs. One didn't work out, but the jury is still out on the second. However, in both cases, I can genuinely say that the distance didn't matter and the other person truly held my heart. And I can also genuinely say that there wasn't a day when both of our intentions to at least TRY and make it work out wasn't sincere.
So, I agree -- like any relationship, it's ultimately going to come back to the people themselves and what their REAL feelings are what their REAL sense of commitment is going to be. And the way I see it...at a time when divorce rates are over 50% and people call it quits so easily now...I'd rather find out sooner than later JUST how committed my partner was going to be towards making things work.
Oh, and by the way, good luck with your East Coast guy, FiFi!