People try really hard to define what TG means, but everybody's coming from a different perspective. TG people generally have all kinds of issues and ways they've dealt with them, and they all feel a little differently.
Crossdressers often try really hard to define what their lifestyle is so as to defend their hetero male-ness while trying as hard as they can to be female. I've had many crossdressers approach me at bars, and the first thing out of their mouth will be how straight they are and that their wife just doesn't understand them, then a couple drinks later they're trying to blow me. That's not the majority of crossdressers, but oddly enough in my expereince, it is the majority of ones that feel the need to say how straight they are (when they're hanging out with me in a gay bar).
A lot of trannies try to define themselves as having always been a woman trapped in a man's body and are dismissive of anyone who doesn't want full SRS. I've often heard TS girls refer to themselves as intersexed. They think claiming to be XXY somehow makes them more of a real girl, yet they refuse to be tested for any genetic intersex condition.
I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the sexuality of tgirls. The ones who say they're totally into genetic females are usually the more flaky ones, though.
Interestingly enough, gay men who tried to date women before they came out usually didn't have much fun with it. Tgirls who dated women exclusively before coming out usually seem to have enjoyed it plenty. Personally, I've had several women tell me a few years later that I was the best lover they ever had. I think it's because I always identified with femininity. As a male, sex with a female was more of a vicarious out-of-body experience with me, and I was much more in tune with what the woman was feeling. As a female, sex is more about my own body, and I think that makes bisexuality more natural. It's not about what's between your legs. It's about what you can do for me.
I really can't define myself any better than a quasi-celibate bisexual tgirl who likes estrogen, hates spiro, and is addicted to tsseduction.com and shemalerevenge.com ...
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