Thanks Joebad, I guess I understand why guys react the way they do... but I'm surprised at how common the reaction is. For example, the guy who I went out with twice - he was so keen to get things started, to the point I almost didn't put out because I was feeling a little pressure from him to do so, but after the first non-sex date I figured he was cool. I just don't know. Every T-girl I know is single, all of them who are actively seeking a relationship get offers for dates promising that the guy is "relationship minded" and all of them end up feeling like they were just used for sex.
It's hardly unique to T-gals, genetic girls get the same treatment. But the number of GG's in a relationship is much higher than TGs. It's a bit baffling to me.
You are 100% correct about safety. Women get beat and raped on dates, gay guys get beat and raped on dates, and TGs get a to deal with both sides. I have a friend who will call my cell phone while I'm on a date, just to let my date know that I have friends watching out for me. I also would never ever meet someone for the first time in private. Always meet for coffee, if things seem cool and safe.. then maybe we can go someplace more quiet. The meet me for coffee bit also weeds out the guys who are expecting an escort or who would be afraid to be seen with a girl like me in public.
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