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Default Bionca if that same man was in bed after sex with a women

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Originally Posted by Bionca View Post
http://laughriotgirl.wordpress.com/2.../19/that-look/

This is how that guilt looks from a trans woman's perspective.

As far as the fakes contributing to allowing the angsty guilt-filled fantasies of guys and making real life actual trans women's bodies inferior specimens of .. ... trans women's bodies. I don't know, I'm not fond of blackface either.
Bionca I took a look at the blog if that same man was in bed after sex with a women for the satisfaction of his lust then that women would have a similar experience. Different but there is a correlation between the two. Especially if it had anything to do with something off beat like a strait man having a gay lover night of a man cheating on his wife with a prostitute. That's one reason that past generations felt so strongly about courtship, a long courtship. I found myself very broken some years back, and I was willing to listen to advise and take action on it. One of the things that I had trouble with was relationships and the therapist suggested that I date girls and leave sex off the table and to do this for at least two years. Like I said I was very broken and was much more willing to try the things that were suggested from that experience I found that when I thought I was falling in love, I was really falling in lust, and that I objectified woman as nothing more the sex objects and conquests. I had no idea if I even liked women. What I mean by that is what a woman really is and is not. I never got past the lust. After the climax, I had little use for them until the next time I wanted to satisfy my lust. So I would tolerate them because they were a convenient means to satisfy my lust. All the while I thought this was love. I had a roommate that I could identify as having the same confusion with lust and love. He once told me that if woman did not have pussies, we would be shooting them in the street ; that there would be bounties on their heads because the only thing they were to him was a means to satisfy his lust after the women would observe him like a dog in a room full of bitches in heat they would do like all women and get mad and he would not get any that night , now the were unlovable for him and he would fixate on his next victim.. However, every two too six weeks he was madly in love (lust)with another one.
After I did spend the two years dating half dozen women over the two years. I found that there were other things that I really loved about some women. The women that I liked the most were women that demonstrated a loving, nurturing, forgiving and accepting spirit. but I also found that there were women that had none of these qualities and were more territorial and conquest oriented, obsessive and selfish. I also have found that transsexuals have different personalities some are very defensive and even more difficult to understand than any women,Think about it and all that they have had to deal with throughout their confusing early years and then their transitional years the rejection and the hurt the loss and the uncharted days weeks and years. I do not pretend to know all they had to deal with. I can only relate as far as the inward turmoil that I have dealt with in Quit desperation. For someone to be out there for all the cruel worlds abuse is beyond my comprehension, and I believe that for all of us, it depends on the emotional baggage that haunts us from past relationships , not just sexual relationships and of course a whole host of other things comes into play as well. For a man that has been play acting that he is strictly heterosexual it will be a whole lot of things to overcome before he could give himself to the relationship in any meaningful way. Basically, he would have to out himself to all of his friends, coworkers and family and be comfortable with that before he could take the first step in the direction of a relationship with a transsexual the man that would try to have sex with a transsexual before he was ready to do all of this is just siking himself up, giving into his lust, casting caution to the wind so that he can try something that he has secretly wanted to do for a long time his lust will convince him that if it is all he hoped it will be that he would make the transition, but as soon as he satisfies his lust all his motivations is gone and the only thing that is left is fear of what he just did, and what it in tails. You know that a transsexual lifestyle is a commitment that one sets their mind to do, and I am sure it took time and a whole lot of courage. It can be no less for the promised convert, otherwise he is just kidding himself and for him its one night, and he will go into a self protection mode and do all that he can to keep what he just did in the dark, tucked back into its secret hidden place and yes if he feels threatened he will become first angrier than hostile. And if necessary violent to protect his perceived integrity. I am sure that I am not telling you anything that you don't already know. This kind of thing is but one of the things that keep people like me in the closet. There are transvestites that dress and find others that will join them but most don't and many that do live in fear of exposure or violence perpetrated against them. Let's face it any of this kind of lifestyle is much more filled with pitfalls, Sorrow and danger than the heterosexual lifestyle to expect this type of person to act any different, under these circumstances would be contrary to human nature and has little to do with what type of shemale porn he looks at.
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