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It occurs to me that there is a real danger in these ongoing "am I gay" discussions by the worriers among transsexual admirers. Some of the discussion is certainly on a purely intellectual level. But how much? More important, though, at least in my opinion, is this concern: if one reads the stories of TS-bashing on other threads, such as the one started by Bionca not long ago regarding the Transsexual Day of Remembrance, one finds example after example of men having sex with a TS and afterwards becoming violent. Why? Could it be a reaction to the internalized homophobia that these men feel after acting on their sexual desire? Of course, that's a very likely answer.

This compels me to plead the following with all of you who keep asking, with such worry in your tones, whether your attraction means you're gay. Keep your attraction to looking at pictures and videos on the web, and perhaps webcam sessions. Do not pick up a date at a bar or hire an escort. If you are worried about this making you "gay," you may be a potential basher after you've had your pleasure.

I have no doubt that a lot of shit will be generated by this post, so let it begin. But this is important.