UKTony
You've got a serious problem with motivation. I agree strongly with Bionca and Franalexes. Trouble with this Forum is, if there is to be a specific criticism, it caters for both Porn-hunters and Transition-seekers. It seems to me that at the deeply emotional level the two are diametrically opposed. This is very sad, as it leads to some wretched misunderstandings, especially for the hunters. Don't get me wrong - I'm all for the thrill of the chase, but there is a serious side which cannot be ignored, in fact, MUST not be. This is where you, UKTony, seem to be at.
For myself, I would be very reluctant to undergo F2m without one hell of a lot of soul-searching and consultation.
Advice ? UKT - get some counselling and feedback for the compulsions you have - they might lead to a sadly wrong decision, and then, if you still want to Transition, then do it with GUIDANCE.