Grumblings
OK I have been seeing this guy very casually. One-on-one he's swell and I think he likes me. He actually broke things off with me earlier because he liked me "too much" and wasn't expecting to. He came back and wanted to explore stuff slowly (including a dating relationship). His brother is gay and he hangs out with him and his gay guy friends - we actually met at a gay club because one of my friends used to date his brother's bf. So he's not unaware or particularly squicked about the whole "am I gay" thing I don't think.
My issue is.. His personality changes when we are in public. He is pretty distant in public and his way of interacting with people is to tease them and poke fun. Usually this isn't a big deal.. just the way he is. The thing is he doesn't exactly know when to stop it with me and I'm not sure where the humor ends and where veiled insults start.
New Years Eve we all went out. His brother and friends and a few of my guy's str8 friends (who may or may not know I'm Trans*). I got my guy to dance with me at midnight - then... His brother drunkenly stated "You and your drag queen need to go get a room" and called me a "Hot tranny mess". when I gave him a questioning look.
My fella then started in with the "drag queen" comments AND started to tell his str8 friends about my penis - odd since he was insistent that I not mention anything to them before. My feelings were hurt, but I'm more confused than anything. On one hand, he was comfortable enough to tell his friends (graphically and rather pornographically about our sex life). On the other his comments didn't exactly show the level of "having my back" that I would have preferred and left me feeling like he thinks I'm just a guy in a dress.. or a "fag with tits".
Any thoughts?
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