I always use the term he or she when referring to a person
where their appearance demonstrates how they wish to be identified.
Where it is ambiguous or they are genger-fluid or gender-blur
or as in this case de-transitioning with a huge range of compromise,
Out of respect, I refer to the person in the non-gender plural.
This way I am not imposing my own perception onto them.
It remains neutral.
When I talk to a stranger and the conversation turns to their significant-other
I always refer to this person as their partner
as I don't know if they are married or dating, nor the gender of the other person.
Not everyone is in a g=heterosexual relationship.
I myself am Polyamorous, having both a male and a female significant other.
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