Firstly, there is a skill to giving advice and taking advice. I claim no special knowledge or training; only you know what of the following will be of use for you and how best to implement that advice should you take it.
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Originally Posted by Imconfused
I just found out recently that my boyfriend like shemales. He wont tell me why though. I don't know what to think.
Another questions is, lately he would rather watch his shemale video and "wank" his self off rather then making love to me, could there be a reason for this?
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Taking the questions in reverse order, I cannot think of a reason he would wank rather than have sex frankly. I love/adore/am-franatic-about sex with my girlfriend, I don't get nearly enough of it because we live a fair distance apart (75 miles or so). When we do get together (like a will later today for the holiday) we have sex once or twice a day. Now that you know about it, could it be guilt? If he feels guilty over your awareness of his interest, masturbation might be a way to release his secual tension without that associated guilt. I dunno though, that is just a thought.
To your first question, as to why he likes shemales, I think the real question you
might be asking is whether or not it has something to do with you. I frankly cannot say not knowing anything about your situation, but I can tell you this: my attraction to shemales has not come from anywhere but within me. My girlfriend has done nothing "to" me to make it that way (nor did any of the other women I have been with). Now that might not have been a fear of yours at all, I oly say that to lay anything you
might be worried about along those lines to rest.
Why do I like chubby girls? Why do I like women from a wide ethnic cross-section? Why do I like women with small breasts and wide hips? I don't think that there is a reason beyond the fact that this is just something that turns me on immensely along with all of those other things and more.
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Originally Posted by Imconfused
I am kinda hurt by it and I don't know how to approach him about the subject.
Could someone please help me out here
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I would NOT suggest doing anything that you are uncomfortable with. I have not been penetrated by anyone else anally and my GF, despite my requests does not wish to do that to me (or for me to do to her in fact). I will not push her or accost her over this, I want her to be comfortable in anything she does with me. Sex is about joy and love, I refuse to push or "guilt" someone into sex.
If you would not be averse to multiple sex partners, maybe that is the way to go (you, him and a shemale or CD male). But there aren't many people that do go that route. Even I, who have fantasies about having a three or more-sum, don't know if I really want to do it. If and when I am faced with the choice, I frankly don't know what I will do at the moment however. It is siomething about which I am fearful and yet still find it enticeing.
While having sex, do you talk dirty? Maybe some filthy language is in order, and it doesn't have to be something that you actually will do. As I mentioned, my present girlfriend does not want to have anal sex, but we talk about it while we are having sex (she cums instantly when I perform analigus on her, I think that she is drawn to it but afraid) and she gets very aroused when we do talk about it "in coitus". Ditto with multiple partners, which we feel the same way over (i.e. both of us are drawn but fearful). But it makes for some hot sex talk! If he is feeling guilty and that is the reason for his avoidance, maybe this will help him overcome that.