pal, I think a lot of what you talk about makes sense, and basically you sound like a good guy who will definitely do well for himself later in life... keep that attitude of respectfulness, strong desire, and even semi-worship... it will be VERY attractive to the right t-girls!
I second Percival's comments... the girls in these videos have made a choice to get paid for porn, so inevitably they will have to put up with some unpleasant situations, such as working with ugly fat white guys lol.
Take a long-term view, you're still so young, and I was a bit like you at your age when it came to sex... I wanted it all, and I wanted it straight away, not when I was older. Look after yourself, keep in good shape, make yourself the best catch possible... together with that good attitude of yours, you will have success. Don't get mad or jealous, it will soon be your turn to be with an angelic t-girl!