This has been addressed in other threads, but I don't mind answering it again. The answer ranges the full spectrum of sexuality and also depends a great degree on the dysphoria of the transgendered person in question.
1. You have some trans that don't mind using their penis, and a variety of trans are non-operative for any number of reasons and have no plans to ever get rid of their penis. I don't know what the stats are on operative versus non-operative transsexuals, but I think the porn industry leads many to the mistaken assumption that most trans are in this "woman with a penis camp."
2. You have trans for whom the "woman with a penis" meme will NEVER be reconciled in their own mind. As much as they feel to have been born in the wrong sex, so too do their wrong genitals remind them of this painful reality. Using their penis in the traditional, masculine way that men use their penises creates a disconnect for them that overrides any sexual pleasure.
3. You have people that fall between the two ends of the spectrum. They may be more comfortable with their penis than people in camp #2, but perhaps not as adventurous as some of the porn stars that you'd see in camp #1.
Personally, I find myself falling more toward camp #2. It's sort of complex, in that I have never necessarily identified with the "born in the wrong body" analogy that seems so popular in describing the trans community. I don't even know if it'd be fair to say I "dislike" my penis. But I HATE using it for anything that I perceive to be masculine sex. I have always abhorred traditional, heterosexual sex-- it just feels wrong thrusting my butt in and out, fucking like some manly animal. That type of sex always made me feel dirty (and not in a good way). So it doesn't matter if we're talking about a man or woman-- I do NOT want to be penetrator in the relationship. But I guess I'm a bit of an oddball too, because a "fulfilling sex life" is about the lowest priority I could imagine in a relationship. I really have so many sexual hangups, that for the most part sex seems like a lot more trouble to me than it's worth.
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