Smc has made a very good point. One that I have been thinking about a lot today (OMG! that means a long post ). Most people on here tend to “overgeneralize” (is that like, even a word?) and assume that their situation, feelings, or beliefs apply to everyone else. There is almost never any hard evidence presented and what should be *questions* are often stated as fact. Also since I do not know most people on here personally, I cannot tell whether you are well educated, rich, tall, short, have a background in Psychology, are serving time in prison, really 12 years old, or someone’s grandmother. Same thing applies to me: I might be a high-school dropout, 5’4” 120 lbs, bench press about 75, never played football, ride a scooter--not a Harley, don’t really teach at a college--but the mental institution I was committed to lets me have a computer, and oh yeah, I might be an 80 year old woman too. Unfortunately this lack of “knowing your audience” contributes to why we have problems communicating on the Internet. In my professional life (you can figure out who I am if you try) I have written elsewhere about some of the problems with Internet communications. Additionally it is hard to discuss complex issues in what amounts to a form of “texting.” I much prefer “face to face” conversation.

I can only presume to speak for myself. If I say I think Kelly Shore is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen and find her equally attractive with or without a cock it’s because it’s true--for ME. You need not agree with me but you do not have the right to question it or ascribe things to me that I did not say. If you find Kelly equally attractive then it would be nice to share that in a discussion. If you do not, then you have no business criticizing MY choice. You should either keep silent or share who YOU find attractive. We have a lot of different tastes and it can be fun to share what we like. Additionally, you have no right to impose your beliefs on others. If Kelly one day decides to have SRS, for example, then you have no right to complain that “I liked her better with a cock” or other childish nonsense. That is her choice alone as a woman. Please also spare us the tired and mistaken excuse that you were “only stating my opinion.” What are you? Two fucking years old? My dad would have whipped my ass if I had ever used that excuse after saying something inappropriate. There was one member a while back who kept insulting a certain performer and her fans using the lame excuse that he was discussing the “quality of her product.” Jesus Fucking Christ! Was this guy watching a hot babe having sex or was he buying a goddamn washing machine at Wal-Mart?

So as far as the question of what attracts us to transwomen... I believe it is an important question and one who’s answer is crucial to self-understanding. I joined this forum in hopes of answering that question and have shared some personal anecdotes about myself and my own journey to self-understanding. Many other members have also shared very intimate details of their lives and we must be extremely respectful of each other. After all aren’t we all here for basically the same reason? As for the answer to the question: I think it differs for each of us and is equally valid as applies to who we are. I enjoy reading about other’s experiences and reasons. I have been helped by many of the thoughtful posts on here. Hopefully some of my posts have helped others. I see I am approaching 900 posts. As many of you know I am getting married March 5. I will probably stay around--maybe not. My fianc?e knows of my participation here but frankly I am growing tired of the disrespect shown toward other members. I would like to think we could talk like adults about such sensitive things--some of this is pretty intimate stuff. Imagine if you were in a group discussion talking about what you are attracted to--like in a therapist’s office or classroom or something. Would you be so insulting and disrespectful? I didn’t think so.