I see two issues emerging in this thread. One pertains to the original question. The other has to do with crossdressing and related behavior. If you fall into the second category, I suggest you find a way to share your interest with your partner. Eventually she will find out. Especially if you are wearing her stuff. Maybe it will turn out to be something the two of you can share--many couples do--and if not you will know that you need to find someone else to share your desires. If your crossdressing is indicative of something deeper? then you need to explore that further and be true to who you are. Remember you are among friends here!

As for the original topic of this thread. It really depends on you. Are you happy with your current partner? Do you really love this person? Are you happy with your life? Are you sincere about wanting a relationship with a transwoman? Do you actually know any transwomen?

It is generally NOT a good idea to tell your partner something that makes them feel less desirable to you: ?You know, honey, that Kelly Shore is really hot?? Unless of course you want to sleep on the couch. Or worse! To me this would essentially be the same as telling your partner you are having an affair or are gay. And do you want her to know that you spend all your time on the computer looking at porn?

Some of you have suggested ?threesomes.? Congratulations if you are in a relationship that is that open--you have my admiration and respect. If that is the case then where is the problem with telling your partner? Unless your relationship is not really that ?open.?

Some of you have expressed the desire to be penetrated anally by a woman. There is such a thing called a ?strap on.? Maybe your wife or GF can be talked into using one on you (sorry, you?re on your own here).

Finally, many of you keep insisting that those of us who like transwomen are really ?gay.? My own feelings about this are well documented elsewhere on this forum but let?s consider it. I suspect some of us are. Or bi. That?s OK. There is nothing wrong with being gay. Suppose you are? Then you most likely aren?t going to be happy in your current heterosexual relationship and you are already having problems. My advice is to end it and find the person right for you.