FPOV*** on Shemales and men that love them
 

When I first found out that my boyfriend was watching shemales I was a little upset. See I knew he was watching porn and like alot of woman at first felt a bit insecure, but that was because he was jerking off to porno more then he was having sex with me. I felt (at the time before I knew of the shemales) I can not compete with these beautiful woman he is jerking off to. When I found out he was jerking off to shemales, well I said some not so nice things and told him I thought I couldn't compete with the woman you were jerking off to now I know I can't compete because I don't have a dick. Then I asked him if he was bisexual or something. Plus a few other things...
His response was he bought the dvd for me. See what I had done after I found his dvd "she d!cks" Well I went online and bought a shemale dvd and a pretty regular dvd. He kept watching the shemale dvd. I got upset and I threw both the dvds away. Then he obviously went out and bought another dvd. So we had gotten into a big argument and I asked him if I could look in his truck. He wouldn't let me. Well the next night he said...Want to look in my truck..I knew he had moved or gotten rid of the dvd. So yeah I looked and there was nothing in there. But the next day I found "F***ed by a shemale" That's when I had said the not so nice things to him. He said he bought that dvd for me. Which I knew was a lie. I knew he was trying to hide the truth from me. So I went online and read a bunch of stuff on men who like shemales and such. I also read about why men watch porn.
Now that I have a better understanding, well I am more accepting. However, my boyfriend is still hiding his true feelings. Which I don't understand why. I have told him I am here if he needs to talk.
I know I probably should have gone about it a different way from the begining and he still probably fears that if he tells me the truth that I will up and leave him.
In many of our conversations I told him if he can't be honest with me. (cause he pretty much denies he likes shemales) and I found out later that he is lying to me and can't be open and honest with me..The shemale obsession won't be the reason I leave but I will leave cause he can not find it in himself to be open and honest with me. Right now that I know of he doesn't have any shemale porn or any porno for that fact.
But to sit there and blame me for the reason he bought it and blame me for us not having sex well....I had been through that in my first marriage and will not go through it again...
Not all woman are as open to the subject shemales and the men who love them. But I can tell you this...If my bf and I hadn't been together as long as we have and I didn't love him as much..Yeah I would have left..But that is apart of him and I accept that. Woman are more open and accepting to things more then men realize it. When we love someone so much...we accept things that when the love isn't as strong. I told my bf if I didn't accept that of you, why would I still want to marry you? Which is a whole other topic
But anyways ask away
BTW is there any more females here?

It's no wonder he clams up about it after your verbal onslaught and integration of his life, he probably feared the consequences afterwards, now hes afraid to say too much, as ive said its a big stigma for men.
I think you need to give him a some space for little while, his head is probably all over the place.
Watching porn for men is no big deal its just a sexual release, doesnt mean they are cheating.
I now you feel upset by it, when ive watched porn with my gf and shes got aroused by some guy in the video ive become a little insecure and upset, but i know at the end of the day it me who she cares for and its just a porn movie, just fantasy.
You have to accept we all have our secret desires and fantasies outside of our relationships, it normal and there's nothing wrong with that.
He might want this to be privet, mabey he doesnt want to shear it with you, is that so bad, can you accept it if it is what he wants?

My question for you - How do you think my gf will react if she found out i like shemales, how would she feel about me?

I can not really say how your girlfriend would react..Personally if she loves you and cares for you and you have time together....I would say something like..I watched this show today and there were shemales on there...and a guy told his girlfriend and she was completely accepting of his "obsession" see what she says...if she says gross...blah blah blah..then you might just have to keep it a secret...If she says anything that leads towards acceptance..then tell her....I love my bf and even if he wanted to wear womans cloths or whatever it maybe..I would accept him.

I like the fact that you are so open (well sounds like now you are) and I like your little picture of a strap on...I used to watch a lot of lesbian porn involving strap ons and I guess after that I moved to watching shemales. My wife has used a strap on on me so I think she might be open to the idea of me liking to watch shemales...what do you think? She is very open and always ready for new ideas but i dont know if this one is maybe too much. I would love it if she watched shemale porn with me and just make it our fantasy.

I think if she has used a strap on, on you before then I don't think she would be horrorfied by the idea that you like shemales.

I had dated this guy awhile back after my divorce. There was something about him...We got along so great...Everything was perfect and stupid me I started to fall for him. He was "different" then most men. I really haven't been with alot of people..my current bf is the 3rd person I have ever been with. But anyways. This guy I was dating...He was very fem...He shaved his arms and legs...Though I have seen men do that. So I didn't give it a second thought. He also had long nails and I thought cause he was on the chubby side..well I figured that's why he had boobs..Not big but they were there. Well one day I went over to his house and he was completely dressed as a woman...I mean completely. He looked wonderful and everything..I kept my date and even a few weeks after that we were still seeing each other. I accepted him. I cared for him a great deal and if that's what he wanted to do then I am all for it. He told me he wanted to become a woman...He would start out by getting boobs and he said he would have to wait to get his packaged "removed" that he would basically be a shemale before that happened. I told him I would accept him and support him in anything he wanted to do. Well later one down the line...He just slowly kept going away...not calling etc...I later found out that he did that because I was too good to be true. But to be honest I think it went much further then that. After I found out well...He was talking about being with men. So I think that's what he wanted....
I wanted to understand what he was going through so I went to a TS/TG forum and there I met someone and we talked about everything and such...We have been friends for 3 years I guess. On this forum I seen where alot of men who have actually gotten boobs, and have beautiful faces and still have a package, they have "fallen in love" with themselves and have changed their mind about going through with srs. ( though some still go through it....anyways...Alot of men who do become tg feel there is no one out there that would love them because they have fem uppers and male bottoms....
I know I can not be the only woman out there that would accept their partner for their love of shemales.
I love my boyfriend and have since the first day I layed eyes on him. I accept anything and everything about him....The only thing I could never accept is..If I found out he was with a shemale or another woman while we have been together....Other then that...I am open and I feel very accepting....

finding a woman like you is a true gift, not alot of woman would understand, or want to, they would see it as real bad thing.. becasueits wrong or, out of the norm with things.. someof us just love the idea of having a woman that enjoys eachother and are honest, and as a couple do things togther.. i do beleive that must guys would be afraid for fear of losing the love of his life , because of his fantasy or enjoyment of shemales.. ihave only met one woman that i have been with that is ok withit,, of course she lives far away from me, but hse loves the idea of it withme..of course i have never been with a shemale but i would, and to have someoen to share that with would be the best.. you are so understanding and if someone would just be upfront with you they would find that wow, things would heat up fast, and you both would have the best sex life ever..not sure if this even made sense, but just said what was on my mind..

by the way what part of florida you in? daytona here..

Trouble
 

Only one person ever suspected I am into tgirls and that was my exfiance. She and I came from two very different backgrounds.

See, my very first exposure to the world of sex was through porn as a small boy. My babysitter showed me magazines and videos and taught me how to masturbate. Needless to say I always looked forward to being babysitted..babysat? So as a kid up until now pornography has been the main source of stimulus for my sex life. Somewhere along the way my interest in tgirls developed.
My exfiance on the other hand was never exposed to porn let alone alternative sexual lifestyles. Apparently she was a little good two shoes. When she moved in with me she discovered my porn and made me get rid of it. Major war. I was happy to oblige her but unhappy in that she tried to demonize me for having it. So it seemed the crisis was over. Then one day while away she discovered by digging around in my pc pics I had viewed of tgirls online. I came home to finding a big display she created by having printed out all the pics and such. I felt like some criminal being attacked by an evidence armed detective.
Her main question and attack was "are you a fag?!?" You can imagine the nature of the argument we had for days on end. It was distinctly one sided with her. Of course I wasn't a fag. To me liking tgirls is as normal as liking genetic girls. Ok, so their cocks interest me. Ok, so I would like to experience their cocks. It's still not a gay thing in my opinion. My exfiance, having come from such a different background than mine couldn't see it.
It came down to nothing but a clash of backgrounds, values and beliefs. Naturally, to her, I was some sick sexual deviant. And to me she was just a jealous bitch. You see, even though I like tgirls and porn, etc, doesn't mean I am unfaithful. I never cheated on a woman in my life and never would. And if porn is seen as cheating by my partner then I will not deal with porn. But my exfiance had already passed judgement and apparently unable to change her opinion.
As it turns out she decides out of the blue she is bisexual, says we can bring in another girl. Perhaps this was some attempt to keep me interested in her. Eventually she modifies all this into a free love thing in which we could both sleep with other partners. The thing is I didn't want any of this and so such hook ups did not happen. However, she didn't offer me the same loyalty and did fuck another guy and ran off with him breaking our engagement.
Now was this a result of my interest in shemales? Was it a result of my interest in porn?
I dont think so. Despite these things I'm a loyal man in a relationship. It was a result of clash of background, values and beliefs, BUT also her insecurity, jealousy, and perhaps her own issues.
So, if you have problems with a man who is interested in shemales do not rush to assumptions. Do not let your insecurity ruin it either. Ask yourself "My man likes tgirls but will he still want me and be true to me?" I honestly don't think sexual interests, fetishes, etc, should be the source of disaster in relationships. It comes down to your love and trust in each other.

I live in Ruskin florida

not sure where that is, im in daytona, i have never been with a shemale, the thought does turn me on, but i think i owuld have a normal life with someone.. not sure it will ever happen. but is a good fantasy at best..

doyou think you could be with someine that at the least love seeing shemales?

If he likes shemales and wants to see without touching, then yes..I could live with that, but if he wants to be with one sexually...well then no because that's cheating..

Oh Ruskin is in hillsborough county....you can find alot of shemales here

What about both of you with a shemale? I don't know how you get down, but the shemale or transgender as is politically correct, could please you as easily as your man. It's like getting a threesome with two guys, but one has boobs and is femanine. Protect. Condoms.

If not ask him if it's a fantasy only. It is for me, I want a wife and kids, I'll grow out of this eventually.