what is anal sex like?
 

Hi, I'm sure this has to classed as a very newbie question, but, what is anal sex like? Is it smelly, is it painful, is it messy? What do people do to make anal sex better? If you use lube, what's your favourite?
I'm yet to experience anal sex, but I've just started looking to see if anyone in the south of the UK is interested (no joy yet) any advice will be warmly welcome, thank you xxx

Here's some insight:

If you're top it feels tighter to fuck an ass because it's naturally narrower than a pussy.Your cock will feel squeezed harder and you should take it slow if the receiving partner doesn't do it often /is a first timer.

However if the receiving anus is well worked and open (that is if the receiving partner has anal sex a lot) then it's easier both for you and the other part.

If you're bottom things are a bit more complicated.As a man you will enjoy anal sex more than a woman simply because you have a prostate.

When you take cock inside your ass it feels great because her penis rubs against your prostate.

It's not only that however...When you have a cock moving in and out of your hole then you feel penetrated.I can't explain it better but it's the sense of being penetrated with a hard cock that makes you like it.

You feel your ass stretch and then you can feel all her cock inside you,in and out.It feels strange at first but after the initial pain is gone then it's all pleasure.

If you're asking only about physical stuff then it's painful in the begining but then you'll get used to it.You'll feel your hole stretch and then you get a feeling of being filled.

What you should pay attention to is lubrication.Don't use soap or anything like that,just use some baby oil or buy a lubricant from a sex shop.

More lubrication=less pain.

About the negative side effects (the brown ones) there are 2 things you can do:Shit well before you take cock (and wash thoroughly) and use an enema.

You'll find plenty of info for that both in this site and around the net...

Thank you aguy, very helpful. Well that hasn't put me off anal sex. I'll carry on researching until a cd/tgirl fancies helping me out with the real experience...I can't wait!:)

Finding an escort won't be a problem but you must clarify you're a virgin.

Hmmm. New business model? Enema's 'R' Us. Oh no, shit, I'd get sued over that one.

*** I am trying to penetrate myself with a dildo for a week now. I achieve only some cm (perhaps 7 or 8 cm). I feel no fun, no erection, mostly pain
I think I have to go further to reach the prostate, right?
Some advice?

Lube more,change positions,relax more.It's also a matter of angle.

It just takes some time to get used to it.

And he should spread his legs as wide as possible.

nice explanation. Like it

I never had anal sex either but one day I will

It's definitely painful at first. I was used to fingers when I tried penetration with a dildo for the first time. It hurt quite a bit, even with lube, but after that... It just feels really really good. It's nothing like having your cock stroked, it's an entirely different feeling. Personally, the best sex I ever had was anal, it's worth trying.

How big is the dildo? If you're trying something too large or if you're not using enough lubricant (not soap or lotion, real lubricant), then you will have trouble getting anything to go in. If you're not ready or lubed up, you probably don't want it to go in, it will just hurt like hell. It also helps to insert fingers first. Go for at least two before you try to insert a dildo. A bit of incremental stretch will prevent injury.

*** Sure, it is a small dildo. I can enter not more than 8 cm. And now I am trying for a week. Still not funny... some get an erection when getting f***d.
But for me not only funny but far away from ANY erection.

Lube properly and RELAX.Maybe you should try a smaller dildo too...

maybe the user Mike50 just isn't into it. My first experience was when I was very young and tried silly things like a pencil or pen, and stepped up to a small carrot/etc. The reason I tried these things is because I was interested, and I didn't jump the gun into it.

If you are a top and like being a top, just "let it be" if you don't enjoy receiving anal. Everybody is different, and nothing should dictate your personal desires in your sex life. :)

the narrow hole make you unforgettable

that depends....if you are pitching or catching

Top or bottom, if done right either can be heaven.:coupling:

Anal sex just feels better all round. Giving and receiving.

What's anal sex like
 

Well it can be either really painfull or pleasant. It comes down to how relaxed you are. My advice would be to start fingering yourself with lots if lube. 1 finger untill you get used to it, then move to two and three. Then use a butt plug, then a small dildo. Do this over a week or two untill you feel relaxed enough to have penetration. Always lots of lube. As for being messy.. If you know you are going to have anal, empty your bowels early on in the day... The drug store can give u enema or laxative. You will get wind up there, don't worry it's normal.. If you are prepared than you will have a great time.. Relax is the key and go slow... I love it

This is my opinion as a t-girl that has been having anal regularly for about five years. Besides having a partner who is STD, HIV and otherwise trustworthy the most import thing regarding anal sex is preparing your tush for receiving a cock. I diddled my ass for years with various toys and objects before I attempted the real thing.

The first thing you want to do is make sure your rectum is empty before engaging in anal play by yourself or with a partner. I know this aspect isn't for the squeemish, but it's reality. I eat a high fiber diet which is a good idea for anyone but particularly anyone that wants to enjoy anal play. I don't think it's neccessary to do enemas before anal play but I usually cleanse my ass with an anal douche I bought on line. This is especially important if you become a "Size Queen" like me and develop a penchant for big black cocks! If you take a 9" cock balls deep in your ass you had better be clean "down there" of the results are pretty yucky!

Start by getting comfortable fingering your ass and exploring it gently with a lot of lube. I suggest purchasing an "anal trainer kit". It consists of a small, medium and large butt plug to train your tush for accomodating a dildo or a cock. I purchased one at the recommendation of Mandy Mitchell when I decided to date a partner with a large cock. Mandy correctly stated that it would "help stretch me out down there" I generally use the medium size to "prep" my tush for anal sex. I want to remain tight for my partner but not feel like they are going to "split me like a log" when they slide their cock inside me. If I'm feel horny before I go out for the evening I prepare my body for anal in the shower and insert a butt plug before going out for the evening. I also have an "anal jewel" which is a stainless steel butt plug that features a green rhinestone that protrudes from my puckered ass. I like to surprise new partners with it. When I'm buns up and they work there tongue between my cheeks they get quite a surprise! Yes, I know I'm kinky .

Dildoes are a lot of fun and come in a variety of sizes. My favorite is an 8" latex brown cock with a set of balls. They are fun for solo play or with a partner(s) Jelly dildoes are hot too but don't look as realistic and seem to be harder to clean. It is a must to clean your toys with hot water and soap after use. I generally use condoms on my toys and always if I am playing with partner(s). Toys are a lot of fun and can enhance anyone's sex life! The choice is up to you and your preferences.

Once you decide to let someone butt fuck you prepare your ass with a good cleansing and shower before you have sex. Don't eat anything that will give you gas either! LOL! Farting is natural sometimes when your parther is really giving it to you but there is no reason to encourage it unless that is your thing! I usually squirt a liberal amount of Astroglide in my asshole unless I know my partner is going to rim me. In that case I have some flavored water based lubes that I enjoy.

I recommend straddling your partner at first. That way you can control how much of his cock enters your asshole. When you begin anal session your partner has to take it slow and so do you! Make sure he's wearing a condom and use a plently of good lubricant like astroglide. Take his cock head in your hand and push it gently into your bum. Bare down on it like you are pooping. This action helps relax your sphincter ease down on his cock slowly and it should slide painlessly into your derriere. Just remember to take it slow! Most guy's cocks are around 6" or so I wouldn't recommend taking on some hung stud for your first anal experience. There will be time for that later!

Once your ass is accostomed to having a cock inside it you can begin to ride your partner and move up and down. The rythym of his cock sliding in and out of you is very stimulating you might get a raging hard on and or ejaculate while your fucking him. This is natural and part of the pleasure. Once you are used to the idea of a cock in your ass you can switch positions. Whenever you switch positions check his condom to make certain that it's in place and hasn't torn.

I recommend trying doggy or lying on your back. Doggy is good if you really want your partner to give you an incredible fuck and you should most assuredly get a total body orgasm. Also try "reverse cowgirl" like in the photo. It will give his cock a different angle inside you ass making for a different sensation for both of you. Once you experience your first anal orgasm you'll discover a whole new aspect of your sexuality. Good luck and let me know if this helps.

Wow!
 

Dear Melissa! Wow! ithats some geat write up. Make me want to run out right now and get the practice set. i would if i wasn't just finishing up the order on Amazon!

Sounds really wonderful, and alot of good information! :coupling::inlove::turnon:

[QUOTE=ZoeyWilde;239600]It's definitely painful at first. I was used to fingers when I tried penetration with a dildo for the first time. It hurt quite a bit, even with lube, but after that... It just feels really really good. It's nothing like having your cock stroked, it's an entirely different feeling. Personally, the best sex I ever had was anal, it's worth trying.

Hi Zoey--like you, I just love being penetrated. I love it that my dick gets rock hard and ooozes pre-cum without being touched!! And the pleasure of feeling your partners cock sliding in and out of your ass and stroking your prostrate just keeps building slowly, but strongly. The pleasure is so intense.........the best!!

So a quick answer is--anal sex can be really good!! Find a partner you trust, go slow and use lots of lube. Melissa's comment is excellent, recommend you follow her advice!!

With someone gentle and experienced
 

Definitely it should be with someone sensitive and gentle who had anal sex himself. So he knows how does it feel.

Before you do it google "preparing for anal sex" and also remember lots of lube!!

Two words...Fucking amazing!

Backdoor loving is fantastic even if the penis isn't involved at all. Add in a reach around or oral, and you can go to another planet. One of my favorites is to receive anal while being flipped up and being stroked, such that I cum into my own mouth.

Something to add
 

I read this thread with little interest. I had experience, with girlfriends strapons, but after reading this thread I got my toys out. :drool: It's all about your attitude, if you want to get fucked, you will enjoy it' if you pull your panties down and spread your cheeks you will love what you get. I have loved taking a giant dildo up my ass, it went in easily. Now I wear my fem clothes and I love it. Thank you DANNOH:yes:

You are right on the taking time. I broke down this past weekend because I have fun with a bullet in me and a small but plug but the larger ones hurt and I get a burning sensation.

I went to a Adult bookstore that was off the beaten path and talked with the clerk and was very shy about it. I explained that I love anal play for myself and that I had no issues with the bullet and small plug but when I tried the next size up it burned and hurt. She suggested a relaxing lub instead of a numbing one and said that a numbing lub would keep me from feeling pain and I could get hurt and not know it. but a relaxing lub would help me relax to where I could take the larger toy and it not hurt as much but let me know when enough was enough.

that night as I watched my favorite shemale movie I inserted the larger vibrating plug and what a rush.

Long story short find a store that will take the time to help you and take the time to explain things to you.

Many people don't feel ok when they realize they like to have things in their ass.This alone does not make it easier (relaxed anus that is) simply because it's the first time and they feel "new" and "shy" to this part of their sexuality.

Lubes,positions,fingers first,small dildos won't do crap if you're not ok with it mentally.

First time I had sex with a tgirl felt quite normal simply because I knew it in my mind it was right.

First time I took a tgirl dick in my ass also felt normal for the same reason.She was quite hung and I was not used to taking large dicks in me but I was so eager for it that after the initial pain and stretch I could take her hard.

Mindset is quite important too,sure you should start small and work your way to bigger dildos and dicks but you first need to be ok with it mentally.

what a good position for anal mak
 

what a good position who male u feel very good when u get cock in u

My first time anal was very painful. The guys cock was fat and we
used many lube. As he try to put his cock in my pussy i couldnt breath.
I wanted to tell him he must stop it but cant. The guy enjoyed my tight
hole and that its hurting me. After he was ready and out of me it stil hurts
over days. Today i enjoy anal and love it getting fucked harder.
Jenn

My first time was sort of painful, sort of pleasurable. :yes: It hurt for just a minute, and then there was this deep burn that felt really good. I had been prepping with a few different vibrators (3, going up in size) and even slept with a butt plug for a few nights prior to my anal cherry busting. Now, I love anal! My Filipina tgirlfriend has a nice brown 7" cock that's rock hard and just perfect! :coupling:

I only have experience in topping... and good advice has already been given here.

Before I go in I prefer to get her relaxed, lubed and ready to receive my cock. I start by gently stroking my tongue around her anus and poking inside with the tip of my tongue while swirling it around. I generally get really turned on and begin to salivate quite a bit, producing more than enough "lube."

When she's ready I like to slap the head of my penis on her anus and gently press in, sometimes I'll spit on it some more to get a little extra lube and let it slide in. I just work it in little by little until its sliding freely and begin going at it balls deep. :coupling:

anal sex
 

No, you should be able to reach it with fingers. It's not in very deep.

As everyone else said: lubricate and relax. Don't rush it.

Use lots of lube and go slow the first time and it can be enjoyable

You don't need a lot inside to stimulate the prostate- a finger can do it just fine.

Taking a cock in me was one of the most wonderful, erotic experiences ever. I absolutely love feeling a cock opening me and sliding in and out going fast and slow, deep and shallow until finally my partner can take the pleasure no more and shoots a load of sperm into me. It gives me a feeling of great satisfaction to know that my body has given pleasure to another person.

So far I've only been fucked by guys, but I hope to one day be fucked by a tgirl (or two or three or more).

with proper lube, i like the action, with a like minded shemale sister

Starting with one finger i had moved on to using a dildo. I gt my First opportunity wen i met an ol fren frm school. At d back seat of his car, i realised that a real cock(6 inch) even with a lot a lube wud cause a lil pain but nly initially n with each thrust of cock sliding in an out stimulating my prostate was in no way even near a dildo insertion. Precum, handsfree cum so damn pleasurable.. For me anal has been like that.. With a lil practise, lube youl enjoy it so much youl never wana stop..:yes:

Great thread. Anal sounds really fun, I'm looking forward to it.

Reading this thread make me wish I had internet back in the 80's when I was a teenager and sexually active... ! I could have enjoyed it so much more... and damn! make me wish I m born this generation...!

Depends on the lubricant but generally speaking no,it doesn't cause irritation.

I feel the same way as you do . Your post sounds pretty clear to me. After the initial explosion of pain dominated by shemale. I has found myself a submissive man could see yourself on the floor bent over with a shemale fucking me from behind. 7 inch erect cock of Thai shemale in Nana Plaza.

How does it feel..?
I think you are referring to physical feelings & sensation.
As a former ladyboy I too have pondered on this question before but never have the guts to ask because it was a lot different back in the 80’s. Anal sex was a taboo and acceptance of transgender is not like today.

Anyway, as far as physical sensation goes, the explanation given by others are pretty much accurate but I find my own experience is not always as what they say. And for you to imagine how it feel like, you must have some sort of reference,… like experimenting with a good realistic dildo - not those hard plastic type or those vibrating type, real cock don’t vibrate. A good quality realistic silicon cock type dildo, as a point of reference.
Playing with fingers insertion don’t even come close. Things that I have tried - plastic toy baseball bat, carrot, banana, hammer handle, screwdriver handle - none of these come close.
Now from my own experience it ranges from wanting it to last forever to ass bleeding discomfort - but bare in mind that this was the 80’s and we have no internet, no knowledge of how to prepare for anal sex, no Lube (we used shampoo or Vaseline -yucks !), no butt plug, I was so n00b & dumb that the thought “would I get pregnant” had crossed my mind! Not kidding! All I knew then was to shit 1st before fucking which I learn it from inserting stuffs into my ass. And also I m a typical asian size, so at 16y.o I was only 157cm tall weighing about 50 kg - so cock size does matter. If I wrap my hand around his cock and my finger and thumb have a huge gap; I won’t want to put it in my ass. But a few of those alpha-male got aggressive and it really hurts, i literally shit out vaseline, blood and cum mix for the whole day & pain and sore for the next few days! So much for joy right?

But when I’m with the “right” guy, it is really like in heaven. Now if you have used the right dildo, you know how it feels inside your ass right? Then let’s imaging a step farther… take your hands off, not holding the dildo, but it magically slide in and out your ass…! how does that feel? …Now imaging this… there is a pair of stranger’s hand grabbing your upper thigh with his thumbs pulling open your bum cheeks and you feel his hand pulling your thigh towards him at the same time his cock sliding deeper and deeper into your ass and when your bump hit the base of his cock you felt his massive balls hitting your balls as you bounce back out feeling his cock sliding out your ass and it repeat over and over… get the idea?
And with that cock sliding in and out your ass… now, imaging… you have no control over how deep he slide his cock into your ass…. and also… you have no control over how fast his cock is sliding in and out your ass…

Do you get the idea now? and that’s just in doggy position!

There is another aspect which people rarely talk about is the emotional and psychological sensation. It makes a big different in overall feeling. I get no enjoyment from those rough fuckers who treat transgender like dirt or less than a human being. But however, even if the guy have huge cock like in 1 time, I think his must be about at least 7” and I have long finger nails and my thumb couldn’t touch my nails when I wrap around his cock, but him being so kind so nice, polite and gentle with me, it just melt my heart and I won’t resist him and do what he wishes. I just felt totally submitted to him. When he 1st penetrated me I cried out stop and he stop and the feel of know someone would listen to you… I think the pain it worth it and it is a different way of enjoyment, not the physical type but the emotional and psychological one. This is harder to explain.
So I hope this helps! ;)

re:anal
 

:rolleyes:good info here for the beginner, the silicon lubes are great but the less expensive ones will work but dry out or feel greasy while used. I shudder when a previous writer mentioned vaseline and blood. No, you don't want blood, it indicates a tear in the intestinal wall and you certainly do not want a tear, certainly use a condom on your penetrator. However, most tears will heal in 2-5 days if not severe, but avoid them by using a butt plug to expand anus and enough lube. A large dick (over 8 inches or very wide) should be avoided until you are practiced as a rough lover with a big dick can cause bleeding in a novice. Anal is wonderful to experience but takes a little getting used to to avoid pain and the dirtier aspects. To avoid the dirt practice cleaning until you are confident you are clean and use an 8 inch rubber dildo to check to see if you are clean. Everyone is different so practice with yourself or an understanding partner. Happy butt fucking to all, no matter which end you are plying.

Lol... I know it was stupid of me but in the 1980's the situation was a lot different, I don't have money then. When I told my parents that I want to be a girl, they reduced my allowance to bare minimum and nearly dis-own me.
Vaseline, soap/shampoo were the only things that's affordable and I didn't know about sex lube until the 90's.
As for condom, I assumed condom were only for preventing pregnancy but since I m genetically a male - don't need it and usually the guys will bring their own. And then there were "creampie", Why most (if not all) guy unload it inside the ass? It is because we can't guaranty 100% clean rectum/colon and sometime they got poop on their cock and they do not want to hold it in their hand and jerk-off at the final moment. So they rather unload it inside and quickly go to the bathroom and wash it off. So it is not because we like bareback and creampie, it is just lack of knowledge.
An here is a kicker, you want to know how we (or at least I) clean our colon/rectum in the 80's? We use a 1/2" hose and squeeze a bit of mild shampoo (Johnson&Johnson "no more tear" baby shampoo - alert! advertisement! lol) and insert it into the ass and turn on the tap!
Ok enough... too embarrassing to talk about my stupid past! I m out of here!

It can be very painful for the one recieving if you are not careful. Be prepered for some surprises pulling out and you should definately use lube!!

Anal sex is, put simply, heaven !

Subjective
 

Though it may vary. Atleast for me its mainly about the feeling of being treated like a girl and also the realisation that hes deriving pleasure from it. The feeling of being gripped in his control is what actually excites. Apart from that the size of cock, thrust, lube.. etc does play a role.

Hello a little about me
 

I have never had anal sex. But ever since I was 7 I started using like, my Mothers eye brow brush handle. Then moved up to tooth brush handles. OMG it felt wonderful. As I aged over 50 years I used homemade dildos, from toilet paper rolls, original small coke bottles (this was neat because the poop would go into the bottle) The biggest candle I ever used was 5" long and 21/2 inches wide. Lube used was either soap, Vaseline, or baby oil.

At 10 I gave my first blowjob to an older boy in the park. The next time I saw him, he called to me, I was afraid and ran away. At 11 a boy in my building and I began fooling around. I do believe I gave him blowjobs but I can't remember (is this normal?) doing it. It's like my mind won't let me remember. I do remember he tried to but fuck me. But I told him it hurt and made him stop.

Over the next 30 years I used all kinds of home made dildos. I got good at making them and no one ever knew. My Aunt almost caught me when she found some leftovers I had not yet thrown away. Her question was "Are you OK? Do you need help? Can I help you?. I told her everything was OK. I loved her very much and to this day wish I had asked her for help.

To this day I've never been able to have real anal sex or knowingly give a blowjob. I don't like men, don't find them attractive at all, but I do love cock.

My fantasies are all I have now. I can't get it up (Severe case of ED) anymore. But if I finger it like I do/did to my wife I ooze out a kind of nice tasting clear liquid or maybe it's pre-cum. I do have an organism when I do it. My wife hasn't been interested in sex of any kind since 1998. I have no anger for her she has her own problems and we have made a decent life for us these many years. Is this wrong of me to keep our relationship together all this time. Deigning my true self for us. I hope not. It may have been the one good thing I've ever done.

I know for all of my life I've been and am sexually :confused: confused. And forced myself to fit into the social norm. And still do for all of my 60+ years

When the time comes (not for a while yet I hope) I may leave instructions to put a nice brunette pixie wig, some sexy underwear, stockings and a slinky dress in my box.

Is all this crazy or what? What do you ladies think?
Bye Loves :inlove:
Gretchen