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Land_of_dogs 11-30-2008 06:19 PM

another interesting question
 
I have a problem. I used to watch regular porn and stuff until I got into shemale porn. I knew about shemales before I started looking at the porn, but they didn't turn me on until about a few months ago. Now, I think I'm more turned on by transsexuals than regular women. But that's not really the problem, now I can't get shemales out of my head, but I've tasted semen and cock and I don't like it. I'm also not fond of sucking cock either and have stuck a finger in my ass and it hurt like no tommorow for a few days. Despite this, I can't seem to get them out of my head and I get really turned on when I see a good looking shemale, but I don't think I want to have sex with one. What does that make me here? Also, I want to know if it's possible if someone can lose attraction to shemales and go back to regular women? No offense to some of the transsexuals out there, some of you are very very good looking, it's just I've had this crush on this one girl for a few years and I really would like to have the old sexual attraction I had for regular women back so I can love her like I used to. Anyone have any answers or words of comfort for me? I'll take any at all.

randolph 11-30-2008 07:51 PM

shemales?
 
A very good question. I seem to have the same "problem". I like girls but my mind is obsessed with shemales. I love thinking about sucking their big shecocks.
I suggest you stop looking at porn and focus on enjoying the beauty of young girls. I haven't tried this yet.:lol:;)

cyba 11-30-2008 08:10 PM

You're beginning to define the 'problem'..
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I really would like to have the old sexual attraction I had for regular women back (and this one girl) so I can love her like I used to.
Make the decision to leave everything LB/Trans behind. Focus on alternatives, especially physical activities - gym, running, swimming, cycling, etc.
There's a reason, exercise raises blood endorphin and, probably, serotonin levels, counters depression and helps create a general sense of well-being. It will help break your preoccupation with LBs -
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now I can't get shemales out of my head
Be aware, these images and thoughts will continue for a while but will lessen and subside over time allowing you to reorientate towards 'regular women' However, that won't happen while you continue to engage. Simple reinforcement. This statement is important -
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I think I'm more turned on by transsexuals than regular women
Why?
Cognitive psychology (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) works with loss of self-control/addictions/compulsion-obsesive by unravelling the relationship or interaction between thoughts, feelings, and actions. The idea is there are 'core beliefs' which precipitate thoughts which precipitate feelings which precipitate actions (watching, wanking off to, (and eventually) meeting and having it off with LBs.) I'm picking up it's leading to guilt and shame, with you, or at least, confusion. I suggest, if you find you can't handle 'breaking away' from what you don't want using your own resources, then you see a good CBT therapist, nail and disempower those core beliefs and the distortions in thinking (e.g. minimising, denial - 'It won't hurt to have another look', 'these images just help me have a quick wank..', etc.), and replace them with healthier alternatives.
I could go on, there's a lot more that can be said, but this is the wrong forum.
Cheers :)

Land_of_dogs 11-30-2008 08:43 PM

So, your basically saying excercise more and get some endorphins flowing and stop looking at porn. Right?

racquel 11-30-2008 10:39 PM

See if you can get hooked on some kind of deviant straight porn. Something this love interest of yours can fit into, like tying girls up or peeing on them.

cyba 11-30-2008 10:47 PM

If that's enough to do it, sure:)
If you find you're still 'compelled' to continue on with LB 'stuff' and
that disturbs you then folllow up with the rest. CBT is practical but somewhat specialised, It will cost. But most people get a handle on/unravel their issues in 10-12 sessions. Others become so interested and enlightened they continue on.

Sheesh..
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..like tying girls up or peeing on them
Thanks, racquel.


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