Questions after so many years...
 

This might appear odd to some of you but I've got this "problem" (not sure, if it is one at all) for quite a while, now. I've been into transsexual women since I saw one for the first time. It happened to be at the "right time" when I was 12 and in my early puberty years. That was in 1997. However, I was not obsessed with t-girls during that time since GGs got most of my attention. Another reason was the absence of internet or any other access to "sufficient material". The first transsexual I've seen was, I'd find out a few years later, Lilienne Li. I was hanging out with a few friends after school in a video store and stumbled upon this VHS with Lilienne Li on the cover. I thought she was hot and did not think much about the whole thing. Later, when I was 15 or 16, I began to explore porn online and there you go, I stumble upon t-girls again. But this time I got much more into the whole shemale porn thing. Actually, I was much more interested or turned on by t-girls than GGs.
Like most of you, I used to ask myself what that was all about, what's attraction or if I was gay, blah blah. My conclusion was that I'm not gay, not interested in men and t-girls were just as women as ggs for me but I wasn't really happy about it. It took me some time until I fully accepted my passion for t-girls and went on without thinking about it anymore. And now, for more than a year, I've noticed that my attraction to t-girls has pretty much vanished and I can't find the reason for this sudden change. I thought it might be a problem with my sex drive but that's obviously not the case since I'm crazy for GGs like never before. :lol:
The cock was never really the point of the whole t-girl attraction for me but the whole package. My ideal t-girl had to have a very feminine and pretty face, feminine body, breasts and ass. The cock made it more perfect for me and did not hinder my perception of being straight. Flat-chested t-girls, CDs, femboys and men of course have never been my cup of tea.
And now, here I am and completely fixated on GGs like I was before I found out about transsexuals. Has anyone had similar experiences? Any thoughts are appreciated. I actually think it's too bad that I'm losing the hots for t-girls but I'm still curious about what caused all this. :confused:

:confused:You grew into it, now you are growing out of it.

I hope you remember we are still people.:respect:

Reading your post, I?m not sure that you have a ?problem? or really anything to worry about at all. You, like many of us here, discovered that you were attracted to transwomen as well as ciswomen. Rather than abandoning your passion for transsexuals, I hope that you will continue to cherish and embrace that part of your sexuality. Although recently married, and committed to one woman, I still appreciate the beauty of ALL women and have never considered my interest in cis or trans women to be a case of ?choosing one over the other.? Finally, to support what Fran has said, I also hope that you will continue to have respect for all women. :cool:

Don't worry about that. TS women are as women as ggs for me. But when it comes to sexual attraction, it's not the same anymore. Since I began to become aware of my passion for TS girls, I have strictly viewed them as true women with that little difference, primarly because it was the only way I could lived with it and convince myself I was as straight as any other straight guy who isn't into TS women. But with the years passing this notion was not necessary anymore. I think I progressed and didn't care about categories as I used to. But now when I'm more fixated at ggs (again), I began to think if TS women were just a fetish for me. This is not the way I'd like to view TS women, downgrading them to pure sex objects.
Even if I wasn't completely into TS women, they'd still be girls for me and no freaks. I'm not losing respect for them.

Only you can really say if your attraction to trans women was a fetish or not. It doesn't sound like it is/was - but that's not really my call.

As far as desire waning for trans women - I've heard about that happening before. It's part of liking any particular physical attribute - like hair color or ethnicity, sometimes one goes through periods where some physical stuff is more attractive and periods where it isn't. For example, I have a specific type of guy I'm attracted to on a purely physical level. The problem is, that type changes pretty darn often,

Some months or years I'll love a scruffy dark haired guy, other times I am drooling over read-heads, still other times I have a thing for Latino men. If I genuinely dig someone, though, none of that actually matters (well, usually doesn't matter ;) ).

Well, I wish it was that simple, Bionca. Sexuality is not an issue of taste but attraction may be. I used to be very excited about transsexuals. It was never the penis alone but the whole "tranny thing" with its almost exotic contrast and the call for breaking sexual barriers and tabus. When a man is masturbating, it's not just the woman he's focusing at in his imagination but the ambient and circumstance. Well, that "tranny thing" doesn't turn me on as it used to. Thanks for all your comments. I almost thought this thread would remain unnoticed. Of course, more thoughts and suggestions are welcome.

a few thoughts on this
 

I think Fran, aw9725, and Bionca hit several nails on several heads as far as this dilemma goes for you Cyborg. My personal take on the issue is that you're giving the situation too much thought...not that you're "worried" about it so to speak, but I think this is another one of those human experiences that you're never going to be able to pin down the exact why's and what-for's.

I too went through a phase where I didn't think too much about t-girls, for a few years in fact. I never had anything against them or demonized them or anything, but when it came to the realm of fantasy and self-gratification my boat sailed in other directions; bondage/bastinado fantasies, really really skinny girls, tiny-titty flat-chested girls, barefoot 24/7 girls, barely legal girls, hot and sexy MILF's, the list can go on and on. Because you, like so many other people (including myself) have so many different likes, sometimes and for some unknown reason(s) certain likes precede others, and naturally those thoughts in the forefront will get more attention.

To make this easy, think about your sexual desires like your tastes in food. Personally speaking, I could eat hot wings five times a week and never get tired of them, even had myself a big box of them for dinner last night, but on the flip-side I grew up on Kraft Italian Spaghetti dinners and as a result am a total pushover for anything pasta-related. If I sat back and analyzed what I've consumed in the last several months, I can truthfully say that a good ol' box of tried and true Kraft Italian Spaghetti has not made it to my stove top. It doesn't mean that I'm burnt out on it or that I loathe the stuff, it's just that because I can't live life on one single dish all the time other dishes get consumed while old favorites get put on the back-burner.

So to make this fun, analyze your "current obsession" with g-girls the same way. See if the same girl you're particularly digging right now will float your boat with the same magnitude a few months from now...or think about a favorite girl from years ago and see how she holds up to a new discovery. I believe you're going to find that your tastes in g-girls will flow much the same way. Right now, because you're categorizing your overall basic desires, (and a lot of us are guilty of that, especially me) you're noticing that t-girls aren't really doing it for you. No big deal...odds are they'll come back around one day...it's just human nature; we're all fickle, and to some degree are always looking for that next big discovery.

I hope this helps. :cool:

Deep words, Gor Gar. I really appreciate your contribution.