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miguelx42 04-07-2008 12:08 AM

How do meet my First Shemale?
 
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Never been with shemale before and would love to try for my first time also wpould like to be bottom with her. Can someone help this virgin bottom with his first time in Orlando Florida and give me some clues!
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TXguy4ever 04-07-2008 11:59 PM

mmmm escort?

drowsuck 04-10-2008 04:11 AM

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Originally Posted by miguelx42 (Post 19803)
Never been with shemale before and would love to try for my first time also wpould like to be bottom with her. Can someone help this virgin bottom with his first time in Orlando Florida and give me some clues!
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new crimson 04-12-2008 03:17 PM

I guess you could try an escort but also are there any bars, clubs in your area where shemale babes hang out? Check the papers, etc.
Perhaps you can make contact via the internet. I guess there must be shemale chatrooms about...

osborne2091 04-22-2009 10:11 PM

i second that - check papers / ads / internet in your area - good luck?

aa2239 04-29-2009 01:37 PM

internet internet internet.... if you don't meet a t-girl on the internet, you'll at least find out where they all hang out in your area.

sowman 04-30-2009 01:50 PM

I've met T-girls through craigslist but you have to be carefull. i've been lucky and the girls i've met only wanted to hangout first. there are a lot of really nice girls out there that dont sleep around. there are also a lot of TS dating websites.

merelypink 05-01-2009 06:13 AM

LOL(lots of lube) and play it safe(condoms)

charlietwobeans 05-01-2009 03:26 PM

i recommend the TS dating sites over craigslist
 
I think they're better - more serious minded people willing to put up a whole ad with pic and everything, whereas craigslist is one of those "middle of the night, horny as hell, I don't care who I dupe as long as the lights are turned down low" type of sites.

(Gee, have I had a bad CL experience or what?!?)

(I know I'll get crap for this) squirt is like mainly a gay site for hookups, but I've have witnessed some pretty cool TVs and the like on there.

DocFeelGood 07-30-2010 09:58 AM

Where can you meet a T-girl?
 
I don't know if this will help.

A year ago I met this gorges T-girl in http://www.ladyboykisses.com we became very good friends and we been chatting for almost everyday. In a couple of weeks I am takimg a vacation and I am going to Bangkok to meet with her. Probably you should do the same if you are series in meeting a T-girl!

Bionca 07-30-2010 09:00 PM

Let's see... I'm having morning coffee in a local coffee place while I wait on the bus every week day. I have my job then usually have dinner and take the dog for a walk. I do some food shopping on the weekends and every once in a while I'll go to a club.

I meet people every day - so obviously meeting a trans woman isn't a big mystery *shrug*

JodieTs 07-31-2010 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 153966)
Let's see... I'm having morning coffee in a local coffee place while I wait on the bus every week day. I have my job then usually have dinner and take the dog for a walk. I do some food shopping on the weekends and every once in a while I'll go to a club.

I meet people every day - so obviously meeting a trans woman isn't a big mystery *shrug*

I think it is.
This is why.
Generally 50% of people are men or women.
Ts's are 0.003% of the population

I'm attracted to say a type of man
or a woman.
I meet said type in various ways from intros to work colleague
to supermarket to night club/ bar to a social function.
Then love and romance stuff starts or not.

With me so far?
Right, I'm now a man
{bare with me on this :rolleyes:} {I'm with a bear? WTF?!!}
I'm into pre-op ts's.
So much so that I even know Transexual is actually spelt with two "S" 's :p
Oh, I'm only interested in pre-op's who generally "pass"
and are "quite attractive" through to "very attractive".
Um, ......this % is getting really tiny.....

I identify as a predominately straight man, with a bit of a twist
& read psychology books on the subject which show that everyone has an attraction to both male and female characteristics.
With a hetro identifying man this would be most aspects of female.
And with me that would apply, but there would also be some leaning to male aspects which I find attractive. But not men overall. {too much masculine, too little feminine}

Now as it happens, I live within 2 miles of where you live
and on occasions we pass each other both at a distance and close up.
We use the same coffee shop
and last week in the park I was buying an ice cream while you were walking your dog.

I would be attracted to you, partly coz of your gender history
& physical stuff, as well as your mind ---suggested by your posts on this site {& your blog*}.

For this post, you are only into men, and if we interacted, it would transpire that we are really good together, as friends or lovers...to be explored.

But the bummer is that despite us possibly being potentially good matches as life partners, we are not even aware of each others existence.

Why?
That little thing called stealth.
So, that rare ts background is hidden & men wanting to date ts's coz of that are not likely to meet you in real life.
And if they did
would have no idea you are ts...

As well as some of the very things the men are attracted to are the very things we loathe about ourselves. Physical mental & reality of our history.

Now away from this thread and back to reality.
I would guess like me most / all the people you date, initially interacted with you in a trans space;
  • be it a tg forum /chat room,
  • tg club/bar,
  • or from a group of friends and friends of friends...where the suitor had the heads-up on your past,
  • or they used to date a friend of yours who is also Ts,
  • and so on.

Very few people date Ts persons, without there also being the trans space background, somewhere.

Bionca,
There is one way for men to interact with large number of Ts's,
Like:
  • hang out with
  • have ts's phone you
  • watch movies
  • have Ts's come over to look after you when you are ill
  • let you crash on their sofa,
  • Insist you look & feel their breasts after the boob job
  • and so on....

Not sure we should tell them, they may not be ready for it...

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* hey it's gone quiet on your blog;
Write more, it was good shit. :)

smc 07-31-2010 01:01 PM

^ My god, Jodie, where's the romance? Where's the romance!?!?

But seriously, you make excellent points based on thoughtful analysis. Perhaps you'd like to join the research team I'm putting together. We could use your skills. It's been mentioned recently in other part of this site. ;)

By the way, I'm just wondering: is there some kind of TS visiting nurse association (re: "have Ts's come over to look after you when you are ill")? If so, I'd like to become ill, STAT!

JodieTs 07-31-2010 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 154035)
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By the way, I'm just wondering: is there some kind of TS visiting nurse association (re: "have Ts's come over to look after you when you are ill")?

Actually yes there is.
Seriously...

But I'm not sure the men on here would be up for that.
Bionca would probably agree with me.

I'll wait to get her take on things,
till I explain how:
PRETTY MUCH ANYONE HERE can have all the Ts connections....
of every sort;
Probably more than they would really want, in all truth.

smc 07-31-2010 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 154041)
Actually yes there is.
Seriously...

But I'm not sure the men on here would be up for that.
Bionca would probably agree with me.

I'll wait to get her take on things,
till I explain how:
PRETTY MUCH ANYONE HERE can have all the Ts connections....
of every sort;
Probably more than they would really want, in all truth.

I'm guessing you mean a "visiting nurse association" by and for transgender people. That's not what I meant, and although I was clearly joking around I find the idea rather intriguing. If it is a support community of a sort, that is a wonderful thing that I would celebrate.

The Conquistador 07-31-2010 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 154035)
By the way, I'm just wondering: is there some kind of TS visiting nurse association (re: "have Ts's come over to look after you when you are ill")? If so, I'd like to become ill, STAT!

I don't know if she'd take your temperature rectally. Just make sure that it's the right thermometer if it is orally.

shadows 07-31-2010 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 153966)
Let's see... I'm having morning coffee in a local coffee place while I wait on the bus every week day. I have my job then usually have dinner and take the dog for a walk. I do some food shopping on the weekends and every once in a while I'll go to a club.

I meet people every day - so obviously meeting a trans woman isn't a big mystery *shrug*

It's a shame that some people don't realize that there isn't anything different with trans women and that they enjoy the same hobbies and regular pleasures in life just like everyone else in the world.

Bionca 07-31-2010 11:39 PM

@Jodie -

Yes, you are 100% correct. Most of the guys I have dated were connected in some way to the trans scene. It's funny though that my two longest relationships have been with guys I didn't meet in a specifically trans setting. My current BF and I met in a gay bar because a good friend used to date his brother. We just hit it off and it turned out he was a bit "curious". My first guy met me as a boy and while we dated I started to transition. He had dated trans gals before, so it wasn't a big issue with him.

However, aside from those guys, yeah pretty much all the dudes I've been with were introduced in one of the ways you mentioned.

The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

Now, yes any man here can have any type of relationship with trans women. He just needs to do a couple things, so few of them seem up to it though *shrug*

JodieTs 08-01-2010 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 154102)
@Jodie -
Yes, you are 100% correct.

The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

Now, yes any man here can have any type of relationship with trans women. He just needs to do a couple things, so few of them seem up to it though *shrug*

The problem is that trans is a curiosity / fetish for most of society.
And who shares that sort of thing with their family & friends?

One of my partners {polyamorous} does that all the time
but as I'm 100% stealth & he hasn't discussed the T thing with anyone else,
I'm not sure if that counts.
[It did when we started dating, as stealth was hyper-important; now I'm chilled out & not bothered. The further along I've gone, the better I've integrated, the less I worry about the T thing or people knowing...it would be so much easier if I was chilled throughout transition & immediately afterwards]

JodieTs 08-01-2010 02:52 AM

J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.


Oh, be prepared to put lots of time and ? or $:
Think flights, hotels, food, car rental
Because of our rarity, you will probably have to put a lot of effort into travel and resulting costs.
J lives 1400 miles from me,
Yep, he had to go that far just to meet for an afternoon, to see if we would be friends. He combined the trip with some work stuff.



*Fail! He ended up with me, after-all. Quack!

JodieTs 08-01-2010 03:01 AM

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Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 154041)
I explain how:
PRETTY MUCH ANYONE HERE can have all the Ts connections....
of every sort;
Probably more than they would really want, in all truth.

Bionca, I ran this past Evil Helen, a friend with a T history.
She agrees with the following & I bet you will as well.

Look in your address book or mobile phone.
Full of other Ts's, you hang out with, have as friends, know...and so on.

The way that you can, 100%, have all the Ts connections....
of every sort;
you could possibly want,
is to....
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You sure you guys wants this?
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Transition. Become a woman.
Oh, and as a bonus you also get tits!
And great hair
and a lifetime of HRT
and a bunch of "chasers" which you WILL FIND VERY ANNOYING!

There you go, easy! :lol:

JodieTs 08-01-2010 03:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 154102)
@Jodie -
The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

This is both very true and also strikes a reminisent / uncomfortable note within my self.

From another message board:
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LORRAINEDAWE said:
Be honest non of us wanted to be trans did we ?

My reply:
Um....
I did. Seriously.

I bought two shemale porn mags, 15 years ago.
Wanked off over them for months, still have the mags.
[Though these days, it's mainly Tigger who 'reads' them]

Slowly I realised that you don't meet these pre-op porn star hotties in real life.
So what to do?
Eventually I figured that it would be fun to actually be a shemale porn model.
A few packets of contraceptive pills,
some ACME: "Ultra-Fast hair grow?" liquid,
A set of saucy undies,
& waited two weeks for the tits to grow {with pert sensitive nipples }
to the same size as the blond model on the cover of the mag above on the RHS.
A few phone calls, & hey presto
I'm livin' the fantasy.
You know, the fantasy that I took a bit too far.
{between you & me yes? don't tell my shrinks }


Tongue in cheek? :innocent:

smc 08-01-2010 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 154113)
J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.

My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

shadows 08-03-2010 03:01 AM

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 154124)
My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

Not to mention the anonymity factor. It is really hard to find out a person's true personality through contact via the internet and the phone alone. A person can say that they are one way, but be totally opposite in the "real world"(heck, they might not even be the person they are purporting to be!) Even webcams aren't a sure bet, since they have been used to perpetuate a falsehood in the past.:confused:

If this helps at all, I think you're a good guy smc.:respect:

aw9725 08-03-2010 11:32 AM

You are right that it is hard if not impossible to verify someone?s identity over the Internet. I have never been one to participate much in ?on line? discussions or ?chat rooms? or anything else precisely for that reason.

However, after my divorce, I joined e-Harmony and for the most part had a positive experience, finally meeting someone who is now my fianc?e. While that experience had a happy ending, there were some cases of people not being who they said and even a ?stalker.? :(

I still participate on ?TLB,? mostly because of friends I?ve made and because of my activities in the LGBT community in ?real life.? My other ?on line? activities include a technology blog and a Twitter feed. They are related to my teaching and I don?t share them publically here. My profile information is accurate. There are a few members here who I?ve communicated with outside of ?TLB? who can verify most of it.

My experiences lead me to echo what smc said earlier. People that I come into contact with in real life tell me I?m a really nice guy. I?m used to being a natural leader and my professional reputation at my university is stellar. Sorry, modesty was never my strong suit! :lol: I guess it?s someone else?s loss if they are too scared to take a chance. Unfortunately, as smc has correctly pointed out, the ?haters? have contributed to these fears. And the threat of violence against transwomen is very real. A sad situation indeed!

Enoch Root 08-06-2010 10:29 AM

Finding a cute transsexual woman presents the problem of the proverbial needle in a haystack... a haystack the size of the planet, and the woman can bite back if you're not careful about what you say.

alex37 10-09-2010 03:51 PM

I found a lovely girl on Backpage. She was real nice had a place downtown. Only experimented with oral on the 1st time. But I too am looking to try more in O-town.

Jennangelina 10-09-2010 07:15 PM

a site for ya
 
heres a site to check on your quest,

www.floridatgirl.com

its a start, or just take a trip to South Beach, now git out there.

XOXO Jennangelina :kiss:

asiandatezone 08-04-2013 09:25 PM

I met my first Shemale on a Ladyboy dating site. The dating sites are a good way to search for Shemales because you can get to know them easily. All you have to do is sit at your computer,search for Shemales you like and message them. It's a good icebreaker.

rasel10002 08-07-2013 05:13 AM

Yes i agree. Internet is the best way to meet them.

dibble 12-11-2016 05:05 PM

its hard to meet ladyboys
 
I find it hard to meet transgenders or ladyboys in the UK, going to Thailand is fine but you can t meet one for any serious relationship as your only there for a few weeks so don t see the point unless its just the experience you want. visited a transgender club a while back, it was like entering the hammer house of horror with the main star s being Vincent Price in drag with his side kick Boris Karloff in a skirt, there were many other corpses and walking dead in skirts.

JamieTS 12-12-2016 10:20 AM

Really? You just said this on a trans forum?
 
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Originally Posted by dibble (Post 264053)
I find it hard to meet transgenders or ladyboys in the UK, going to Thailand is fine but you can t meet one for any serious relationship as your only there for a few weeks so don t see the point unless its just the experience you want. visited a transgender club a while back, it was like entering the hammer house of horror with the main star s being Vincent Price in drag with his side kick Boris Karloff in a skirt, there were many other corpses and walking dead in skirts.

Really? You do know that transgender is a umberella turn for drag queens, cross dressers, genderfluids, transsexuals, shemales, trannies, intersexed and any other gender variance, right? Also Androgynous and non binary. If "men in drag" disgusts you then you really need to stick with the fantasy type of porn. I mean they are women most probably (a lot of drag queens are men psychologically but there are exceptions to that rule just like cross dressers. Some are more non binary or genderfluid but usually it is an entertainment type thing or a relief of stress, psychologically speaking.) and not every one can look like Bailey Jay, Bruna Butterfly, Beatrice Velmont or Bee Armitage.

Like someone else said, make sure it is a something that you want besides just experimenting and so on. Just please be respectful because not every man is a Greek god either.

BTW a transgender club will cater to all types of gender variants, not just full on transsexuals on HRT and so on. They will cater to everyone from Drag Queens to full on transsexuals. A full on transsexual is like me that lives as a woman. I just happen to be a freak of nature and my boobs are natural and so on.

But as for the OP, do a search for your area about trans areas. Google is your friend so search for trans clubs. Visit them, but make sure it is something that you are willing to deal with. Hey, unlike dibble thinks we are women. Some of us are beautiful and some of us are average. Some of us are skinny and some of us are fat. Some of us have a cups and some of us have b, c and d cups. I mean there are girls that you may not find physically attractive but when you get to know them on a deeper level that physical attractiveness isn't so important. I find some guys that are not physically attractive but if I take the time to get to know them and they make me laugh and feel good about myself then that far out ways the extra weight they may carry, the not so gorgeous face they may have, That little bald spot that will just spread eventually, Or all that body hair that gets in the bed when he sheds. I can deal with all of that and will fall in love if you have the right attitude and personality. Looks attract us in the beginning but personalities make people actually fall in love. So if you go to a trans club and expect all women there to be totally passable or in the category of Bailey, Bruna, Beatrice and so on then... Stick with the fantasy porn. But if you go there expecting to meet normal women some beautiful and some not then you will have much better relationship with her. No matter who you flirt with.

Dibble. I don't really care for what you said and I find it extremely insulting. But you can voice whatever opinion you have. I am not even going to give you a negative rating for what you said because you have that prerogative to say what you want and think how you want and feel how you feel. But it is really very low class to come on a trans forum and trash trans women of any variation. In my opinion you just showed your true colors and just how shallow you are. If you are not attracted then you are not attracted. There is no need to insult anyone no matter what you think of them or how they look. I mean I could totally trash you but after what you wrote, I don't really need too. You trashed yourself baby. OMG you could still go meet the most beautiful trans woman in a club but saying shit like you said about other trans women, she would probably just blow you off and not in a good way.

Seriously dibble, you can talk to all these gorgeous trans porn stars and say the same thing you said here. They all have sights and social media pages. Tell them the same thing about "hammer house of horror" and girls looking like "Vincent Price and Boris Karloff in drag" and girls looking like "walking dead" you would be either banned from their sight or blocked off their social media pages.

Oh you find it hard to meet trans women and lady boys in the UK? I really wonder why with your attitude? Well I know why with that attitude. We do stick up for one another. Trash one tranny and you trash us all.

Alphadmw 01-14-2017 01:38 PM

You can try Grindr. That's how I found my gf


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