For many years
 

I have been an admirer of Trans for many years and have on the rare occasion to spend time with a few. My main problem is I haven't found anyone that wants to be part of an equal love making relationship, that is being both top and bottom. Mostly they have just wanted to be the one to suck and be taken. I guess my main question is other than in the movies are there any real Trans that like to share in the love making as both top and bottom? Am I wrong to want it both ways?

Hi Sacdan ..

I think it all rather depends on your definition of "equal" ...

To me .. "equal" (in this context) means the giving & receiving of pleasure on a mutual basis .. both partners doing whatever pleases the other ..

There's no "right" or "wrong" .. I think you just need to meet a compatible partner .. someone who wants the same things from a relationship as you do ... And I'm sure there are lots of Girls like that out there ...

Like the old saying goes .. "For every Jack, there's a Jill" ..

I must confess that in my own relationships with Trans women .. I'm the Man .. She's the Woman, simple .. None of the Girls I've ever dated wanted to assume the "male" role, they wanted to express their femininity & be loved as women .. which suited me just fine ..

I'm afraid that the Porn industry has a lot to answer for, creating stereotypes & reinforcing popular misconceptions about Trans women ..

Good luck in your search ..

Yes you are completely right that she should be fem in all of her actions, but to feel her inside of me making us one as well as me in her is the grandest of all feelings to me. Feeling the real thing is so much better than a dildo on a gender woman.