Society should stop shaming guys who date transgender
 

Hi all, I just read this very interesting article here: http://janetmock.com/2013/09/12/men-...-women-stigma/

Basically, it comments on the recent admission by Mister Cee, who admitted he had oral sex with a transgender woman & was basically shamed into resigning from his job as a DJ @ Hot 97 because he solicited sex from a trans woman.

After seeing a not insignificant number of post on this board about people questioning their (or others) sexuality because they're sexually attracted to transgender women, whom society at large sees as not really women at all, I started to ask myself if I would be comfortable with people knowing about my attraction to transgender girls.

For the record, I consider myself straight. I see transgender women as women not guys. But my sexual encounters have been limited to pre-op transgender women . I'm not attracted to CDs & I don't find guys attractive at all. I don't feel that liking transgender women means I am gay or bi-curious. And even if it did, is that such a bad thing? I don't think so. But I have to admit I would not be comfortable with my family & friends knowing about this side of my sexuality.

How do you guys and girls feel about this issue? Do you feel you have to hide this part of yourself from others? If so, do you resent that fact?

I have it clear enough

What I do and who do so nobody cares.

But that's easy to say it when you're not a person publishes.

I fell in love with a Ts and she left me because I hid from people that she was a Ts. She felt she had to hide her true self when around my friends/fam, and felt too much pressure to "hide" the fact she was a Ts.
Ultimately my love for her was too much and I told all my family who she was and we are back together and enjoy a very happy life together. She didn't want the world to know, just the families.
None of my friends know she is a Ts, and she is happy to leave it with just family.
The laws in Aus are changing, essentially as a pre op Ts she has "female" sex in every government department, including birth certificate.

I have met other Ts and they are all different in what they expect from a partner. Some want the world to know they are Ts, so u have to accept that she will flaunt it to everyone, some hide it from even close family of the partner. Some Ts don't look completely passable, so u have to deal with that as well.
I remember walking down the street with my gf and being a little shy that people would spot me. She was my first experience and I had a lot to learn about being with a Ts.

Where I work I often see Ts and from the comments from my work mates I can tell you I would never tell them I have a Ts partner.
People still get stoned to death for being gay, loose political positions in western countries for being gay, and trust me, being Ts is even more taboo than just being a "gay person". Views have changed for me in even just a few short years, but it is still a massive taboo.
I can convince myself all I want, and every Ts I have been with has told me they are attracted to me because i am a "straight guy", but common... How can I truly believe that when I am gagging on dick? Lol for me, I wouldn't have it any other way, but yeah, I do consider it at least a little gay being attracted to a cock, albeit on the body of a woman.

I know a lot of celebs in Aus that have sex with Ts on the side, prob in the same way that many people of my parents generation had gay sex while being married on straight relationships. People didn't really talk about, people didn't really care, and ultimately, it's your life.

Why did your girlfriend feel the need to let people know she was TS?

I have only once been asked about the state of my genitals when I was in my junior years dating gf's, and frankly, I found that situation kind of weird.

Telling My Family
 

Hey all, been a while since I've posted. Just wanted to share this with you.

I'm 26 now and I've been struggling with my attraction to transgendered women for 10 years and have been unconsciously punishing my self by drinking and generally not taking good enough care of my well being. I was worried what my family would think if they found out and so I shut myself away from the world. That is, until today when I realised I shouldn't punish myself for who I am. There's nothing wrong with me and the shame I felt was completely irrational.

This was proven to me when I finally decided to tell my mother and sister that I was interested in TS women, my mother didn't even bat an eyelid and she told me she loves me no matter what. It's like a weight has been lifted that's was there for a long time, now I can live the rest of my life free of shame (however irrational). I feel now that I can move forwards and enter into a meaningful relationship with a woman and do so without any emotional baggage.

I'm not writing this to brag or to encourage people to tell their families about their preferences. I just wanted to share this story with everyone so that they know, you may imagine the worst possible scenario when contemplating telling your family. But if they truly love you then it won't matter if you tell them. Thanks for reading hope it helps.

Re:
 

To me it is a pretty normal part of society today and more and more people i talk to are becoming very accepting of this.