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Bionca 05-17-2009 02:58 PM

A tip for the lust-lorn
 
Just a small observation for the fellas looking to meet a gal like me. Posts from guys with only a single post, no personal information aside from a newly created yahoo address, no pictures, no... nuffin... probably won't get much in the way of a response.

1) Gals look to date aren't going to be impressed
2) Gals looking to hook up aren't going to want to take the chance (after all you might just not be to our liking)
3) Gals likely to cam with random faceless guys *dum dum dum* GET PAID TO DO THAT.

Put some time and energy into the site if you want #1
Put something enticing if you want #2
Put up or shut up if you want #3

CreativeMind 05-18-2009 09:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 83610)
3) Gals likely to cam with random faceless guys *dum dum dum* GET PAID TO DO THAT.

Put up or shut up if you want #3


And bring your wallet and prepare to have it raided! :p

MikeyNice 05-19-2009 12:02 AM

let me be the first to say I agree. I've been a member of many forums so I know how they work for the most part. This is my first of the topic though. Over time people will see that I'm here to stay and I've been loving TS since 2000!

aa2239 05-19-2009 10:11 AM

Good observation Bionca... but I'd add another point... this isn't the ideal place to come looking for a hook-up! Firstly, there are at least ten times more guys than there are TG's or even TV's. Secondly, the main purpose of this forum is to discuss TG matters and share experiences/materials... there's little point in looking for a hook-up here. These guys would be better off joining a dedicated site for that, there are several on the internet.

liesjeversteven 05-19-2009 10:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 83610)
Just a small observation for the fellas looking to meet a gal like me. Posts from guys with only a single post, no personal information aside from a newly created yahoo address, no pictures, no... nuffin... probably won't get much in the way of a response.

1) Gals look to date aren't going to be impressed
2) Gals looking to hook up aren't going to want to take the chance (after all you might just not be to our liking)
3) Gals likely to cam with random faceless guys *dum dum dum* GET PAID TO DO THAT.

Put some time and energy into the site if you want #1
Put something enticing if you want #2
Put up or shut up if you want #3

Any tips for girls bionca?

Love

Liesje

new believer 05-19-2009 11:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aa2239 (Post 83918)
Good observation Bionca... but I'd add another point... this isn't the ideal place to come looking for a hook-up! Firstly, there are at least ten times more guys than there are TG's or even TV's. Secondly, the main purpose of this forum is to discuss TG matters and share experiences/materials... there's little point in looking for a hook-up here. These guys would be better off joining a dedicated site for that, there are several on the internet.




both made valid points, but Ms B is more observent than aa2239. And I say that because this forum is an ideal place for 'hook ups'. This forum offers more info, shares more ideas, and allows others to 'know' each other moreso than a web site which only goes to a 'quickie'. This forum has the potential to understand what others go through and offers an education to those who are seeking a 'relationship'. Reading what TG's have to put up with helps everyone outside their world understand their fears ,hopes, dreams as well as their desires. Even better(?) helps other TG's & TV's realize that their not alone with their problems. But back to meeting others, What exactly does someone want, a totally unknown or someone who they can perhaps bond with before meeting? If it's just a 'quickie' just cruise down where they 'associate'. If you want to have a friend, isn't it nicer to start with others you know have the same intrests?
But I could be wrong, all I want is to broaden my knowledge and if I share some pen pal assciation's ,I'm even better. One can never have too much knowledge or too many friends.

CreativeMind 05-19-2009 02:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by new believer (Post 83947)
Both made valid points, but Ms B is more observent than aa2239. And I say that because this forum is an ideal place for 'hook ups'. This forum offers more info, shares more ideas, and allows others to 'know' each other more so than a web site which only goes to a 'quickie'. This forum has the potential to understand what others go through and offers an education to those who are seeking a 'relationship'...

I'd definitely have to agree with New Believer on this. The advantage to a message board forum -- as opposed to a dating site -- is that over time you can read and absorb what someone else is saying, and thus you can get a much better sense of their overall personality. So, over time, you can figure out if they're someone you'd actually like to know better, even if its only to become online friends.

And let's face it: most dating sites are a "hit and run" situation at best. They're specifically constructed to showcase a person's most positive points and do it in the quickest way possible, which ALSO means they consciously know that they're trying to HIDE a person's biggest shortcomings. Plus, toss-in the fact that most people at a dating site will bend the truth a bit about certain things to seem more attractive, and you've now got an equation for things going sour pretty fast.

On the other hand, sites like Adult Friend Finder are actually MORE honest than the average dating site. That's because a sex site like that makes no bones at all about "who" is meeting "who". Basically, everyone there IS looking for a fast hook-up and some immediate sex. So if that's all that you're after, you're better off just admitting it to yourself and going for it.

aa2239 05-19-2009 06:58 PM

Hmmm... I guess I stand partially corrected!

But one point I'll still quibble over: Newbeliever and CreativeMind are both talking about the potential for starting proper relationships over time on this website, and I agree with their assessments.... but I think Bionca was mainly referring to those horn-dogs who are looking for sexual encounters with their chosen objects of desire, i.e. TG's, in which case they are in the wrong place (as CreativeMind has accepted).

There.

Bionca 05-19-2009 11:10 PM

Good points all around. The point of this post is that real connections can happen everywhere - even a site dedicated to discussions of porn. It isn't that hooking up or *ghasp* more meaningful relationships can't happen here, but the tactics employed aren't going to do the job.

A single sentence and a yahoo address (if that) comes off as disparate at best, more likely insincere.

hankhavelock 05-20-2009 07:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bionca (Post 83610)
Just a small observation for the fellas looking to meet a gal like me. Posts from guys with only a single post, no personal information aside from a newly created yahoo address, no pictures, no... nuffin... probably won't get much in the way of a response.

1) Gals look to date aren't going to be impressed
2) Gals looking to hook up aren't going to want to take the chance (after all you might just not be to our liking)
3) Gals likely to cam with random faceless guys *dum dum dum* GET PAID TO DO THAT.

Put some time and energy into the site if you want #1
Put something enticing if you want #2
Put up or shut up if you want #3

I guess it isn't unfair to say, that I have quite some experience in this field... in the sense that basicly 90% of my lovers and friends have been initiated via the internet over the last ten years.

I agree completely with Mizzy B's good rules.

But the fact is, that while the internet is a grand way of starting a contact, then it can never exchange the thing that happens when folks actually meet irl.

There's NOTHING better than the butterflies in my stomach when I have to meet a date... there's nothing better than doing my best to please her... and there is nothing better than when I finally take her home...

Dating-sites may start this, but you you have to finish it irl yourself.

H

hankhavelock 05-20-2009 08:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aa2239 (Post 83918)
Good observation Bionca... but I'd add another point... this isn't the ideal place to come looking for a hook-up! Firstly, there are at least ten times more guys than there are TG's or even TV's. Secondly, the main purpose of this forum is to discuss TG matters and share experiences/materials... there's little point in looking for a hook-up here. These guys would be better off joining a dedicated site for that, there are several on the internet.

You're quite right. This is not a dating-site. There are other dedicated sites for that.

The problem, ofcourse, also is for you Western guys that there only are 2 trannies in the entire Western hemisphere (and 50% of them are trans lesbians). And unbelievably, they still have troubles finding honest guys...

Oh... my nightmare is that I should ever be condemned to live my life in the West... but even so, I'm sure I would seek out the remaining trannies and posses them immediately :-)

I'm rambling...

H

aa2239 05-20-2009 08:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hankhavelock (Post 84158)
The problem, ofcourse, also is for you Western guys that there only are 2 trannies in the entire Western hemisphere (and 50% of them are trans lesbians). And unbelievably, they still have troubles finding honest guys...


H


LMAO! Sad but true mate, sad but true! About 9 million people in the Greater London Area, I'd hazard a guess that about 0.0005% of them are TG.... not exactly great odds for guys like me!

A gold star for anyone who can work out what 0.0005% of 9 million is.....

YoungLuke 05-20-2009 11:51 AM

Very true analysis

Natalie_J 09-16-2014 07:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aa2239 (Post 84159)
LMAO! Sad but true mate, sad but true! About 9 million people in the Greater London Area, I'd hazard a guess that about 0.0005% of them are TG.... not exactly great odds for guys like me!

A gold star for anyone who can work out what 0.0005% of 9 million is.....

And, more than 5 years after this was posted:lol: I'll give you the answer:

45 - which I think might be a little low...

There's at least 50


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