That's a damn good question there ericman69, I WISH I knew the answer.
There are TS/TV nightclubs and such in every major city, but not every t-girl goes to the ones I am able to find. I suspect a LOT of t-girls don't go to the typical TS/TV and/or gay bar, a suspect a lot of them are very much like "g-girls" and are just hard to find.
I do know that I, and a whole lot of other men, would love to have some clear way to meet REAL t-girls. I KNOW they are out there.
The internet based dating services are almost universally a scam, just a way for creepy rich cyber-geeks to get richer by posting a bunch of fake "dating profiles" and collect memebership fees from poor horney men.
I WONDER... I wonder if the various TG counselling services would allow you to post your name and number as a "TG friendly" person. I know that every major city has some sort of "GLBT" club, that maintains a list of businesses, employers and such who have said that they are "GLBT friendly."
for example in Phoenix AZ, try:
http://www.gpglcc.org/
If the GLBT community center in your area has that list of "GLBT friendly" businesses and employers, that list might be a good place to look, and, as I suggested, you might as them if they have some sort of bulletin board where you can post your name and number as a "GLBT friendly person" (who is looking especially for the right "T" person to be friendly with).