anal penetration yourself or having someone else do it?

[Imconfused]

not to long ago I found out my BF liked to watch shemale porno. He never got into what about them he liked etc..or how much.... One night during sex I "played" with his back end. To my surprise, he didn't stop me. Anyways I wanted to know something. For some reason lately we haven't been having alot of sex and for some reason he hasn't been watching his shemale dvd either. So the other night when we were 69ing. I just went to his arse and noticed well, I wouldn't have needed any lubricant at all. So I am curious....Playing with himself back there or maybe found someone to do that for him. I mean the first time I "played back there you needed a gallon of lub and now you could do without. What's your opinion????????????????????

[mykel73]

Well I would think that the first time you played back there was his first time to and he really enjoyed it. Now I don't believe that he has found someone else to do it for him I think that he is doing it himself. Have you ever talked to him about it I know many male and female couples who enjoy anal play together.

[BlueRaven88]

hooooooookay this is a messy topic (no pun intended) to deal with. Truth is, no matter what mykel73, myself, or anyone else says here, the fact is that we are all just pulling guesses out out asses (again, no pun intended. i really need to stop punning lol)

Instead of asking a bunch of total strangers on what it sounds like purely based on your P.O.V (Point Of View), go and talk to him and ask him where, when and how he loosened his ass up. Explain to him that no matter his answer you will accept him etc, and he will tell you, though he may be lying. If he says outright 'I've been masturbating with anal play' or something along those lines, without hesitation, then he is most likely telling the truth. If he tries to avoid answering, or he hesitates alot and/or stutters, then he's most likely lying.

To me, it sounds like he's either doing it himself, or he has found a shemale, or possibly another male, around town to experiment with; But as i said, it is just a wild guess. All in all, it depends on how good you are at reading people when the react. Also, watch his eyes when he answers. If they point down and to the left, he is lying through his teeth, but if they point up and right, then he is telling the truth. Just my 2 cents :innocent:

[Imconfused]

When I bring the subject up he usually denies anything.
When the times we do have sex and I am going down on him. Just to see what he will do I put my hand around his ass. Most of the time he moves his ass to where my hand would be at his crack. Is he trying to tell me he wants that?
Why can't he just come out and say it if he does? If I am willing to do it, then he should just be honest right?
I know I am only going to get guesses, but talking to other people who like what he likes well, it does help.
I do know an ass doesn't stretch out on its own though, so something is going in and out of it.....

[ila]

When I bring the subject up he usually denies anything.
When the times we do have sex and I am going down on him. Just to see what he will do I put my hand around his ass. Most of the time he moves his ass to where my hand would be at his crack. Is he trying to tell me he wants that?
Why can't he just come out and say it if he does? If I am willing to do it, then he should just be honest right?
I know I am only going to get guesses, but talking to other people who like what he likes well, it does help.
I do know an ass doesn't stretch out on its own though, so something is going in and out of it.....

If he is moving his ass towards your hand then I would say it's safe to assume he wants you to at least finger his ass. I know that when my partner starts to play with my ass I will move towards whatever she is touching me with as I would like to be penetrated.
He would really have to discuss this with you though.

[tsgirlfan]

I would like my gf to play with my ass, but i think she would think it was weird

[Kakariko]

When I bring the subject up he usually denies anything.
When the times we do have sex and I am going down on him. Just to see what he will do I put my hand around his ass. Most of the time he moves his ass to where my hand would be at his crack. Is he trying to tell me he wants that?
Why can't he just come out and say it if he does? If I am willing to do it, then he should just be honest right?
I know I am only going to get guesses, but talking to other people who like what he likes well, it does help.
I do know an ass doesn't stretch out on its own though, so something is going in and out of it.....

I think sometimes people don't want to talk about what they want, as it can be awkward or embarrassing. He may find it easier to just move himself towards you and hope you take the hint and go further, that way he doesn't have to ask outright. If you do something he doesn't want or like, he'll either pull away or let you know that he doesn't want it.

As for the other part, it would probably be rather embarrassing for him to talk about. My guess is that nothing too serious is going on. I wouldn't worry too much about it. That's just me though, I don't know either of you in real life, so this is just guess-work. Good luck though!

[Be_my_nude]

Try massaging his lower back just above the cleft, then circle round, using scented lube-oil to his perineum ( the ridge between his balls and his arsehole ). Caress this up and down lightly, then spiral slowly in towards and round his arsehole. DO NOT HURRY. Let him suck one of your forefingers as you do so. The press the knuckle of your bent thumb into the hollow of his back-passage. Do it SOFTLY but in a slow Regular Rhythm. If you combine this with pressure on his Perineum with the fingers of your free hand, he will beg for more. No words are needed to get him going this way ! His body movements will tell you how much further he wants you to go ! This method has worked well for me on a number of occasions, BUT Remember while he may enjoy all of this, it may not mean he wants finger penetration. A lot of men enjoy the sensation of pressure against the Ring-muscle, but only that.

It might be worth your trying to talk him into giving you exactly that sort of massage, by telling him that you will demonstrate on him. 20 cnets to a dollar he will want to go on to fuck your arsehole, which will entitle you ( well, sort of ) to do the same sort of thing to him later !

Have fun