Why The Shemale Attraction

[Talvenada]

For me it's
1. Something newer
2. Something different
3. Fantasy
4. Forbidden Fruit
5. The path not taken or regretted

I should point out that years ago in San Francisco, I had plenty of chances for shemales, femboys, men and real women. You cannot be a whore and a virgin at the same time.

What about you?

[Rick_]

Because they have cocks and are as hot as girls :inlove:

[inadaze]

You cannot be a whore and a virgin at the same time.




Nice quote. I think an element of this is I am a rebel at heart and its the ultimate form of rebellion against my perception of petty society. The rebellion which will gain no praise from anyone whom I know. Maybe a repressed anarchic appetite for self destruction . I dont know. I could probably live without ladyboy cock and not fantasise about it if I didnt want to. I think I can change my course if I really want to.
I am sick of hypocrisy and the way people seek to control others all the time. I am seeking a spiritual path (but not religious), free from jealousy and pettiness and I just cant imagine a spirit having a sexuality. I recognise my own sexuality is bound by my human condition of being male and straight and I wonder a lot why I dont find gay men attractive despite my total openness.
I also happen to consider a transexual as a real woman. I can accept a cock as part of the female person and respond sexually to it.
Like all women there are some who are attractive to me and some who are not. I could use the grandma (blood relative + body falling apart) versus nicole kidman (recognised by many as a beautiful woman) analogy.
Perhaps at the end of the day I am looking for an experience outside the box and am bored with life. I am always looking for new experiences. In one way I am an explorer and an adventurer. This is just another boundary to cross. There are a lot of ideas here. Beauty can shine from many unexpected places. Why limit your life experiences ?

[gunslinger1985]

I think it is because they have all the qualities of a woman, and also something extra. It's the best of both worlds.

[epj290]

because its a hot fantasy for me and they look like girls which makes it very itneresting and sexy for me.

[TheSkronkDonkey]

Nice quote. I think an element of this is I am a rebel at heart and its the ultimate form of rebellion against my perception of petty society. The rebellion which will gain no praise from anyone whom I know. Maybe a repressed anarchic appetite for self destruction . I dont know. I could probably live without ladyboy cock and not fantasise about it if I didnt want to. I think I can change my course if I really want to.
I am sick of hypocrisy and the way people seek to control others all the time. I am seeking a spiritual path (but not religious), free from jealousy and pettiness and I just cant imagine a spirit having a sexuality. I recognise my own sexuality is bound by my human condition of being male and straight and I wonder a lot why I dont find gay men attractive despite my total openness.
I also happen to consider a transexual as a real woman. I can accept a cock as part of the female person and respond sexually to it.
Like all women there are some who are attractive to me and some who are not. I could use the grandma (blood relative + body falling apart) versus nicole kidman (recognised by many as a beautiful woman) analogy.
Perhaps at the end of the day I am looking for an experience outside the box and am bored with life. I am always looking for new experiences. In one way I am an explorer and an adventurer. This is just another boundary to cross. There are a lot of ideas here. Beauty can shine from many unexpected places. Why limit your life experiences ?

Just as you say beauty can shine from many unexpected places, so can insight. Wonderful post!

There is definitely a sending-two-fingers-to society aspect at work, amongst much else (say, all those things already mentioned). It's one of the things that makes it all so exciting, but none of those things define attraction and interest in shemales exclusively. In other words, I think love / lust of shemales is genuine, and no one can tell you otherwise. Even if such a thing became common place and accepted, I bet 90% of shemale lovers would still love them.

The human body is an artful thing, actually -- despite many attempts to demonise sensuality and sexuality over the generations. Diversity is absolutely critical to life and should be celebrated at every turn. If you take a look at history, it's always people wanting to take diversity away that have posed the greatest threat to human life and liberty. Our ability to recognise difference and accept and love it is the way forward as a species. I think we could finally be on our way. The Internet is a major part in the transformation of our collective consciousness.

[shemalesgetmehard]

I'm very new to this site so please forgive me if I put this in the wrong place.
What got me attracted to shemales? I think the answer can be found on the TV actually, few years back was a show called ''There's Something About Miriam'', which if you haven't seen it yet is about this most gorgeous shemale(Victoria I think her name is) having a bunch of macho guys competing for her affection. Once they found out that she wasn't born a female they were disgusted and didn't want anything to do with her (since then they have been paid off by the TV company in order to air the show).
Anyway, that was the time when I realised how beautiful a shemale can be, done a couple of searches on the net to find out a bit more about them and I'm a bit addicted now!!!
I'm very glad I found this forum where I can say what I feel without fear of being branded or labelled and once I become a bit more savvy around here I'll post some pics of the gorgeous girls.

[jimudon]

T-girls offer it all and more. they give and receive. I just love the beauty of the shemale. But the cock is what it is all about. Beauty with a cock!! Shemales just put real girls to shame. Pussy is overrated.:coupling:

[inadaze]

Just as you say beauty can shine from many unexpected places, so can insight. Wonderful post!

There is definitely a sending-two-fingers-to society aspect at work, amongst much else (say, all those things already mentioned). It's one of the things that makes it all so exciting, but none of those things define attraction and interest in shemales exclusively. In other words, I think love / lust of shemales is genuine, and no one can tell you otherwise. Even if such a thing became common place and accepted, I bet 90% of shemale lovers would still love them.

The human body is an artful thing, actually -- despite many attempts to demonise sensuality and sexuality over the generations. Diversity is absolutely critical to life and should be celebrated at every turn. If you take a look at history, it's always people wanting to take diversity away that have posed the greatest threat to human life and liberty. Our ability to recognise difference and accept and love it is the way forward as a species. I think we could finally be on our way. The Internet is a major part in the transformation of our collective consciousness.


Thanks for the acknowledgement :respect:

Yeah I think rebellion was a huge part of how I got started with this scene. Not that I have had any shemale/trans experiences or become any more involved yet than simply posting on a forum :(

I went to an all boys school which was very homophobic and rough ( and I fitted in there quite well in fact) so I'd know if I had any feelings for boys or men. In fact my strength of mind probably gave me the ability to leave the safety of the pack and feel safe within myself and think independently which has helped me in life .

Weighing it up the pros and cons of choosing an open lifestyle or the suitability of that lifestlye is another issue which I think needs to be approached rationally and cooly. There are questions to be decided as to how it can affect ones career or social network, relationship within the community in which one already lives and relationships with genetic girls which also needs to be approached rationally and with a cool head. I dont give society the benefit of the doubt when it comes to being rational. We all stand on our own two feet or we dont stand at all. Its' Darwinism. You just have to open a newspaper to see how much bad shit there is in the world.

This shemale/trans adventure is quite a surprise for me, one which I hope at least will be pleasant.

[BlueRaven88]

interesting question. i suppose it would be because unlike real girls/genetic girls, shemales aren't judgemental, bitchy etc (all the reasons ive posted in the thread '1001 Reasons shemales are better than real girls', and reasons others have posted). they have all the best feminine attributes that GG's do, and none of the bad ones (periods/monthly 'pussy out of service' feature, mood swings, menopause, saggy boobs, thinking they are superior to men etc), as well as all the cool attributes of men (you can be best friends, interested in things other than shopping/shoes etc) and have a dick they can fuck you back with.

i reckon it would be awesome to fuck a shemale in the ass and give her a creampie, then she can return the favour, fucking me missionary, and looking in my eyes as she blows in my ass :D:inlove::drool::coupling::lol:

so yer thats my 'danced around the question somewhat cos im too lazy to type all the reasons why' answer to this thread :yes:

[lovegirlcock]

For me, it's the whole "best of both worlds" thing. I mean, they're made for sex if you truly think about it. Cock, ass, tits, face...it's all perfection from both sexs...Shemales are just...amazing.

[inadaze]

i reckon it would be awesome to fuck a shemale in the ass and give her a creampie, then she can return the favour, fucking me missionary, and looking in my eyes as she blows in my ass :D:inlove::drool::coupling::lol:

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theres always that reason too haha :respect:

[storm11]

Been a fantasy of mine for a few years.

[SweetCharmer]

right on i agree!

[piggyback]

Personally I think they are more feminine than genetic women. They dress so sexy, move so seductively, use make-up (unlike a lot of lazy chicks), have gorgeous hair and have tight bodies. To me they are super-women.

[TSLuva]

I think my attraction can be summed up in your first four options, I don't know whether I'll ever have the courage to realize option 3 though:

1. Something newer
2. Something different
3. Fantasy
4. Forbidden Fruit

[Jpone]

I stumbled across a shemale site one night and was instantly turned on when I seen one, not sure if it was her looks or the fact that she had a hard on popping out of her knickers, but I was attracted to them immediately, at first I thought I was gay, I might be, but the thought of sucking and fucking a man just doesn't do anything for me, when I look at shemales most look so feminine, bodies to die for, seductive, horny and all of this with the added bonus of a cock.
Is it a fantasy, at the moment yes it is, but it will one day very soon be a reality:inlove:

[Franc]

Personally,

I can't get turned on by shemales that are more 'male' looking than 'she' - don't know what that means in reality, cos I know they both have the same equipment under the bonnet :yes:.

Never had one though, so far have only been entertained by them online...

Franc

[magic.joystick]

For me one of the reasons is the fact that they dress slutty and behave slutty. I just love it. Note: for me slutty is a wonderfull thing :coupling:
Because of their past (pre-shemale), they know what gets a man crazy, they love it nasty and want it nasty, and more than most girls.

The other thing is their huge clit... hmmm...
A woman can use a strapon but I guess it doesn't feel the same way. And can a strapon give you some tasty juice into your mouth *yummy* I don't think so :rolleyes:

One thing that is a complete turn *off* for me are ugly shemales... They have to have a pretty face. They don't have to be perfect (because that's rare as well) but I've once see a movie were a guy was getting gangbanged by shemales and there were a couple of trannies so ugly (even if they were a man) that I just couldn't watch it... They need to be feminine!

IMO you don't have to choose, the best possible relation would be: me + girl + tranny. That would be a dream CUM true :coupling::coupling::coupling:
I asked that for christmas, but that old bastard (santa) didn't meet my demands :lol:

[Excaliborg]

:censored:that coz that old bastard had that for himself:censored:

[cocklover]

Because they have cocks and are as hot as girls :inlove:

Richard, I agree with you 100%. I couldn't have stated it any better.:yes:

[BrandonCGS]

Basically the same reason as Richard..Some are as hot as girls, but have dicks. I am more attracted to girls though.

[kissmelater]

no matter what they're gender is as long as they are giving the right amount of pleasure... and they both enjoying it... id rather choose real flesh than sex toys...

[Pedro DB]

What got me started? An advert for a nightclub in London Time Out magazine and sheer curiousity...

Why do I love Ladyboys (LBS)?;
1) LBs are far more sexy - they just have that 'naughty' look
2) LBs take far more care of their appearance
3) LBs (with cock) are as horny as men, and know exactly how to please a man
4) LBs are not shy & do not play hard to get - usually pretty extrovert
5) LBs are fiercely loyal - almost territorial
6) LBs (at least here in Thailand) are usually great Pool players (Bonus!).

I should add that I love ladies too - but in any given environment it always seems to be the Ladyboy that catches my eye.

[rhythmic delivery]

the obvious and most cliched answer is also the most concise, its the best of both worlds in my opinion.

[nemis1234]

why ask why. everyone is attracted to what they like. for me its always been bout the person, whether male, female, ts, etc. has never bothered me, always been bout the person

[katieayanami]

guys get the best of both worlds!

the attraction can also be a gateway to full on gay!

[randolph]

guys get the best of both worlds!

the attraction can also be a gateway to full on gay!

I wonder if that is true? Certainly, there is a very thin line between ladyboys and femboys. The gay issue has been debated here, ad nauseum, so I won't get into it.

[Trogdor]

It's simple:

1: They look better
2: Better personality
3: They don't take their femininity for granted
4: She's less likely to let herself go, especially with all the hard work and heartache they went through to get where they are today
5: More feminine that most Ggirls
6: I don't like pussy. Sorry, folks
7: No risks of pregnancy
8: No PMS, periods, times of the month, Aunt Flow or nasty feminine hygienic products
9: Having lived as a male at one time, they at least know how crappy things can be at times for a guy, thought that one is not a guarantee
10: They treated me much better than any Girl ever did

[Trogdor]

guys get the best of both worlds!

the attraction can also be a gateway to full on gay!

Not quite. Only dude I'd get it on with is John Barrowman, and he's taken, unfortunately.:frown:

[SluttyShemaleAnna]

Not quite. Only dude I'd get it on with is John Barrowman, and he's taken, unfortunately.:frown:

Barrowman is hot, but fuck, you'd have to put up with his terrible cabaret singing. ARGH! I liked him in Doccy Who, but fuck are his musical exploits unbearable.

[ajax]

different , plus the cock is a mad turnon

[outofmymind]

It started as something "new", "kinky" and "different" the femininity and all. The porn is what turn me on at first. Then being a member here reading what people have to say I love and admire their courage and spirits. My dealings with TGs have been nice. Whether as friends having drinks together or more. I do like how the cock looks on a beautiful lady but I like pussy too. Some ladies have pussy abd sone ladies have a cock. I eat pussy and suck girl cock. I like them all

[iloveshemales1]

For me it is the shemale look. The face and body has subtle differences to gg but more attractive. Makes me more horny bumming a t-girl than a woman, for me alot of it is in the face

[cirillo]

i guess the fact of being with a girl and at the same time being able to enjoy male genitals. or maybe the fact that sharing similar genitals makes you feel closer, don't know, attraction is difficult to explain in rational terms.
maybe a wonderful reminder that human beings do not fit into pidgeonholes.

[Trogdor]

i guess the fact of being with a girl and at the same time being able to enjoy male genitals. or maybe the fact that sharing similar genitals makes you feel closer, don't know, attraction is difficult to explain in rational terms.
maybe a wonderful reminder that human beings do not fit into pidgeonholes.

Sounds good to me, especially, since I said before, I never was into vagina in the first place....tried to, but just can't do it.

[Derek1968]

It was really terribly exciting for me to imagine an attractive woman having a workable penis also. At first I didn't imagine such with even a normal, much less a large, penis. No, I imagined one of, say, two or three inches. This was before the internet. Then, still the internet I had these thoughts--I imagined very shapely hourglass women capable of sizeable erections and seducing other women and fucking far better than any man and with all the opportunity being a woman would provide them. And after that, I imagined a real woman with a cock seducing men, too. Of course there's somewhat of a gay component to this, but it's not the central thing. The central thing is the phallus--a symbol of sexual inexhaustibility...

[whazizname]

Hmmm...

I don't know that there is a specifically "Shemale attraction"...

I am (have always been) visually attracted to what I call "girlish men" & "boyish women" (notice that I did not say 'girlish boys', or 'boyish girls'); the genitalia isn't all that important, visually.

I am sexually attracted to people that I am visually attracted to, and have formed a creative relationship with. If that person happens to have societally incongruent genitalia; so be it.



:)

[Sissy Maid Lucy]

For me, because for so long I've wanted to be a girl and wanted to dress as one, the attraction is that they are someone that I'd like to be.

[Gor Gar]

I've thought about this from time to time over the years, but honestly I think the reasons I like to look at t-girls now is 180 degrees different from when I first noticed the attraction so long ago that I couldn't possibly narrow it down to a single exact reason or even a list of nebulous reasons. Besides, sometimes when you analyze something too deeply you take all the fun out of it, and I certainly don't want to do that...

To give a general gist of what has gone on through my mind down through the years, I'll start by saying that it was probably a sort of "rebellion" against g-girls at first. A few bad relationships, more than a few nasty rejections, overall gold-digging pettiness and outright snottiness too many g-girls can exhibit at times, and before I knew it I found myself both loving g-girls and holding them in disdain, at least when I was a lot younger and a whole lot more mad at the world.

On top of that, I noticed that when it came to "love" or a close facsimile thereof, I never felt quite as close to g-girls on a mental or emotional level as I did with good male friends, in a brotherly, non-sexual way of course. So somehow, in my naive and testosterone-driven mind I had it figured out that t-girls would fit the need; all of the hotness of g-girls, with a stronger possibility of a better emotional connection that I could attain with male friends because they were, at least at one time, thinking like guys...

That romanticized notion has spiraled downward in flames of course, because in reality t-girls are just as capable of being emotionally distant and self-serving as any g-girl, and too often folks fall victim to the whole "the grass is always greener on the other side" mentality when they're unhappy with their current situations. People suck, period...we all have short-comings and none of us are perfect safe havens to others from cold, cruel reality, at least not at all times, and I'm just as bad as anybody else. After I stopped thinking of myself as a perpetual victim and stared hard at my own downfalls reality didn't seem as harsh any more.

Now to be fair though, I think I should mention that I'm not an "exclusive" admirer of t-girls. I probably have about 10 g-girls to every one t-girl that I like to look at and drool over, so the attraction has evolved from the silly notion of "superior alternative" to simply being one of "they can scratch the itch too". I've found that most of the t-girls I admire have a lot of the same physical attributes that the majority of g-girls have that I like; small breasts, slender waists, tiny butts, long legs, pretty feet, etc.

As far as those t-girl "something extra" parts are concerned, for me that was an acquired taste. Back when I idealized t-girls and put them on a level nobody could realistically meet, I sort of accepted their plumbing as part of the territory, but not something I particularly sought out. And now, I kind of see it as a gauge to how excited they get...not something I want to put in my mouth or hand, and certainly nothing I want to sit down on...but seeing a t-girl aroused and excited passes on vicariously. Her mood enhances my mood, as ridiculous as that probably sounds to put it in words.

That's why I don't think I could ever realistically imagine myself in a relationship with a t-girl. When it comes to sex all I'd want to do is insert, receive the oral goodness, and never want to reciprocate...and that would not be right or fair by any means for her. So I'm happy being a visual admirer, for all of the reasons listed in this long-winded post.

And of course the whole "forbidden fruit" societal aspect can put an edge on t-girl admiration that makes it more fun in a rebellious sort of way too, but I think that with time that little edge is going to fade more and more and people generations from now will snicker to think that it was even there to begin with.

I'll hop off the soapbox now. :cool:

[cannibal]

That's why I don't think I could ever realistically imagine myself in a relationship with a t-girl. When it comes to sex all I'd want to do is insert, receive the oral goodness, and never want to reciprocate...and that would not be right or fair by any means for her.
Actually, most tgirls prefer that.

[randolph]

nucleus accumbens?

The nucleus accumbens is the pleasure center of the brain. Porn stimulates this area. It is the same area that is stimulated by some drugs. For many of us, transsexual porn is highly stimulating to this pleasure center. The vision of a beautiful women with an erection drives this area to heights of sexual pleasure beyond viewing genetic women.
The fantasies run wild and the porn industry has not hesitated to take advantage of this. Shemale porn sites are very popular, with endless visions of men enjoying the transsexual attributes of shemales (professional transsexuals).
Why is this so is anybody's guess. :turnon::inlove:

[no1000]

I agree with you and I think we think alike except for the fact that I took the tgirl girl cock plunge and now I can't get enough. :lol: I also believe that I can have a great relationship whether it be nothing more than a friendship or lasting intimate, both physical and emotional relationship. I say this because, in the past, I have had a tgirl gf.

I've thought about this from time to time over the years, but honestly I think the reasons I like to look at t-girls now is 180 degrees different from when I first noticed the attraction so long ago that I couldn't possibly narrow it down to a single exact reason or even a list of nebulous reasons. Besides, sometimes when you analyze something too deeply you take all the fun out of it, and I certainly don't want to do that...

To give a general gist of what has gone on through my mind down through the years, I'll start by saying that it was probably a sort of "rebellion" against g-girls at first. A few bad relationships, more than a few nasty rejections, overall gold-digging pettiness and outright snottiness too many g-girls can exhibit at times, and before I knew it I found myself both loving g-girls and holding them in disdain, at least when I was a lot younger and a whole lot more mad at the world.

On top of that, I noticed that when it came to "love" or a close facsimile thereof, I never felt quite as close to g-girls on a mental or emotional level as I did with good male friends, in a brotherly, non-sexual way of course. So somehow, in my naive and testosterone-driven mind I had it figured out that t-girls would fit the need; all of the hotness of g-girls, with a stronger possibility of a better emotional connection that I could attain with male friends because they were, at least at one time, thinking like guys...

That romanticized notion has spiraled downward in flames of course, because in reality t-girls are just as capable of being emotionally distant and self-serving as any g-girl, and too often folks fall victim to the whole "the grass is always greener on the other side" mentality when they're unhappy with their current situations. People suck, period...we all have short-comings and none of us are perfect safe havens to others from cold, cruel reality, at least not at all times, and I'm just as bad as anybody else. After I stopped thinking of myself as a perpetual victim and stared hard at my own downfalls reality didn't seem as harsh any more.

Now to be fair though, I think I should mention that I'm not an "exclusive" admirer of t-girls. I probably have about 10 g-girls to every one t-girl that I like to look at and drool over, so the attraction has evolved from the silly notion of "superior alternative" to simply being one of "they can scratch the itch too". I've found that most of the t-girls I admire have a lot of the same physical attributes that the majority of g-girls have that I like; small breasts, slender waists, tiny butts, long legs, pretty feet, etc.

As far as those t-girl "something extra" parts are concerned, for me that was an acquired taste. Back when I idealized t-girls and put them on a level nobody could realistically meet, I sort of accepted their plumbing as part of the territory, but not something I particularly sought out. And now, I kind of see it as a gauge to how excited they get...not something I want to put in my mouth or hand, and certainly nothing I want to sit down on...but seeing a t-girl aroused and excited passes on vicariously. Her mood enhances my mood, as ridiculous as that probably sounds to put it in words.

That's why I don't think I could ever realistically imagine myself in a relationship with a t-girl. When it comes to sex all I'd want to do is insert, receive the oral goodness, and never want to reciprocate...and that would not be right or fair by any means for her. So I'm happy being a visual admirer, for all of the reasons listed in this long-winded post.

And of course the whole "forbidden fruit" societal aspect can put an edge on t-girl admiration that makes it more fun in a rebellious sort of way too, but I think that with time that little edge is going to fade more and more and people generations from now will snicker to think that it was even there to begin with.

I'll hop off the soapbox now. :cool:

[passivedude]

The combination of beauty and strength. The fact that a stunningly lovley woman can have a cock that is bigger and stronger than my cock and she-plumbs that can produce more spunk than my own pods. The fact that a beautiful woman can mount me and make love to me deep and hard, taking the active roll.:turnon::inlove:

[Gor Gar]

I agree with you and I think we think alike except for the fact that I took the tgirl girl cock plunge and now I can't get enough. :lol: I also believe that I can have a great relationship whether it be nothing more than a friendship or lasting intimate, both physical and emotional relationship. I say this because, in the past, I have had a tgirl gf.

Thanks for the feedback no1000 and you have an interesting take on it. I mean, I used to say that I'd never get married and I've been both married and divorced now, so I guess I should never say never about other things. :)

[JodieTs]

That's why I don't think I could ever realistically imagine myself in a relationship with a t-girl. When it comes to sex all I'd want to do is insert, receive the oral goodness, and never want to reciprocate...and that would not be right or fair by any means for her. So I'm happy being a visual admirer, for all of the reasons listed in this long-winded post.
That is so true.
Based on my own feelings and almost every ts friend and ts acquaintance I've ever spoken with. This is a lot of people.

A couple of my Ts friends are active
they only talk about doing it for coin
not with their partners.

Interestingly, neither my boyfriend nor my ex-boyfriend
has ever asked me to be active.

[JodieTs]

The combination of beauty and strength. The fact that a stunningly lovley woman can have a cock that is bigger and stronger than my cock and she-plumbs that can produce more spunk than my own pods. The fact that a beautiful woman can mount me and make love to me deep and hard, taking the active roll.:turnon::inlove:
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Not after a period on hormones.
The penis shrinks
Most Ts's no longer get hard
of if they do, are unable to stay hard.
after about two years, ejaculate becomes a clear liquid
and reduces to a few drops, then nothing at all.

Sorry to piss on the fantasy, n' all that. :innocent:

[randolph]

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Not after a period on hormones.
The penis shrinks
Most Ts's no longer get hard
of if they do, are unable to stay hard.
after about two years, ejaculate becomes a clear liquid
and reduces to a few drops, then nothing at all.

Sorry to piss on the fantasy, n' all that. :innocent:

Yes, we live in a fantasy world when it comes to what we want from shemales. That's why its more fun to remain in the fantasy world. There shemales are all extremely beautiful and have big gorgeous hard cocks fully primed with loads of sweet silky cum and they are always ready to serve and satisfy our most perverted sexual desires. :rolleyes:

[Gor Gar]

That is so true.
Based on my own feelings and almost every ts friend and ts acquaintance I've ever spoken with. This is a lot of people.

A couple of my Ts friends are active
they only talk about doing it for coin
not with their partners.

Interestingly, neither my boyfriend nor my ex-boyfriend
has ever asked me to be active.

Thanks for your take on the matter Jodie. It's always a bit more enlightening to hear it from the ladies themselves. :hug:

I was buds with a t-girl here in town years ago, and she once told me that she felt more comfortable dating bisexual men rather than heterosexual men because hetero's tended to treat t-girls, at least in her experience(s), as a curiosity rather than something with a potential long-term relationship attached. Now I personally don't think you have to be bi to dig t-girls or even become deeply involved with them, but I do see her point...I could only imagine some of the awkwardness and learning curves that would become present in the bedroom, at least at first. At this point I don't think I would personally ever overcome said awkwardness, but then, unless I took the plunge it's all just speculation on my behalf. I guess only time would tell in a situation of this sort. :)

[upstateabe]

New to the site and was thinking along the same lines. I've been attracted to girls with something extra for a long time. For me it's because I feel they have knowledge of their sexuality the rest of us do not. Many of us here come for the attraction, the illicit nature of being attracted to a woman with a cock, where we can enjoy our little secret without being discovered, perhaps even by wives or girlfriends. It's hard to generalize but a t-woman has made the very brave step of going outside herself and convention and allowing herself to be what she may not have any control over in the first place. I am always struck by the femininity, the beauty and passion of these women, and for me, it's not only about the sexual aspect. Being friends, sharing thoughts,understanding one another.....these aspects of human interaction would, I think, make any sexual encounter that much more special, moving it way beyond the bounds of simple fantasy and into something extremely real, and extremely rare. Not having the opportunity to know, meet or date, I guess like many I am relegated to gazing. Still, should that opportunity arise to get to know a very special woman, I would jump at the chance.
But this is just me.

[Girlfan84]

I have been attracted to non-generic girls ever since I saw my first Brazilian "shemale" in a video some many years ago. And, when I got a wind of "ladyboys":yes: I was blown away. The thing that I most like about these girls - and they are girls, not boys in their minds (I've since had the pleasure of meeting and talking to some in person at area bars and clubs where I live) - is their beauty and femininity. Too often in today's society, generic girls/women appear to want to be men (in terms of their behavior) and, in a since, have lost sight of their feminine side. I love the fact that the non-generic girls that I have met take pleasure in showing their feminine side. I know that they were physically not born girls, but there is something attractive about their dressing and behaving in very feminine ways. By the way, I am very spiritual and fight almost on a daily basis against this attraction. For I know that it is very taboo in many circles. But, it is an attraction that is very hard for me to get rid of. I have not had sex with a non-generic girl - and more than likely never will - because I know how much that goes against my spiritual belief. But, I truly enjoy their company when I'm out at the clubs. And, I am very glad I found this site because I have a place I can communicate with like people. Further, it is not easy confessing this attraction, but I find comfort in knowing that many people on this board have similar attractions - for various reasons. And, I've found a home where I can get a better understanding of and communicate my feelings about these girls.

[smc]

I have been attracted to non-generic girls ever since I saw my first Brazilian "shemale" in a video some many years ago. And, when I got a wind of "ladyboys":yes: I was blown away. The thing that I most like about these girls - and they are girls, not boys in their minds (I've since had the pleasure of meeting and talking to some in person at area bars and clubs where I live) - is their beauty and femininity. Too often in today's society, generic girls/women appear to want to be men (in terms of their behavior) and, in a since, have lost sight of their feminine side. I love the fact that the non-generic girls that I have met take pleasure in showing their feminine side. I know that they were physically not born girls, but there is something attractive about their dressing and behaving in very feminine ways. By the way, I am very spiritual and fight almost on a daily basis against this attraction. For I know that it is very taboo in many circles. But, it is an attraction that is very hard for me to get rid of. I have not had sex with a non-generic girl - and more than likely never will - because I know how much that goes against my spiritual belief. But, I truly enjoy their company when I'm out at the clubs. And, I am very glad I found this site because I have a place I can communicate with like people. Further, it is not easy confessing this attraction, but I find comfort in knowing that many people on this board have similar attractions - for various reasons. And, I've found a home where I can get a better understanding of and communicate my feelings about these girls.

It's nice that you can write "they are girls," but what a colossal waste of emotional energy to try to fight your attraction for some "spiritual belief." Surely, if transwomen are real, then they are god's creatures, too (Note: I don't believe in god, but it seems as if you do). Would god thus relegate them to a status in which you cannot have a relationship with one of his creations? Of course not. Only humans create asinine barriers like that, and they do so to control you.

By the way, you use "generic" oddly. Do you mean "genetic"?

[no1000]

It's nice that you can write "they are girls," but what a colossal waste of emotional energy to try to fight your attraction for some "spiritual belief." Surely, if transwomen are real, then they are god's creatures, too (Note: I don't believe in god, but it seems as if you do). Would god thus relegate them to a status in which you cannot have a relationship with one of his creations? Of course not. Only humans create asinine barriers like that, and they do so to control you.

By the way, you use "generic" oddly. Do you mean "genetic"?

+1

Let me start out by saying that I also am an atheist but I have lots of faith in science and human beings.

I don't think a faith, religion or a spiritual belief should stop you from getting what you desire and what you believe to be true. Free Love. It's kinda like if your spiritual belief would stop you from playing an instrument because your religion does not accept musicians. Nothing wrong with playing an instrument. It makes YOU happy, it makes you FEEL good, give you HOPE, boosts your self-esteem, as long as you don't hurt anyone else or yourself in the process..then what's the big deal? Be happy, do what you want..when you want but just don't INTENTIONALLY hurt anyone or yourself. That's where my morals come from.

Does your spiritual belief say you will go to hell?

[Girlfan84]

Yes, I meant genetic. Thanks for catching that. And as for my faith and belief. Yes, I am Christian...thus making it difficult for me to fully accept this attraction. I often have prayed to God about this (my strong attraction to non-genetic girls). And, no matter how much I try to distance myself from the attraction, it always resurfaces. In my mind, I feel that it is wrong to have such an attraction. Yet, knowing these girls in their minds feel that they really are girls and not boys really takes me for a loop. Also, I often feel that it is unfair that these girls have had to live the life that they have - "trapped in a body that they wish they never had." I've had some beautiful conversations with the girls - oftentimes seeing them tell their stories with tears in their eyes. I am not one to question God's work. For, I truly believe He makes no mistakes. But, transsexualism is one of those issues that I guess falls into the category of "we will understand it better on the other side." Subconsciously I feel that the attraction is OK, because I am attracted to their female quality, not male. As far as just letting go and let my feelings flow, so to speak, it is easier said than done. At this point, I'm not there. Call me a coward, confused, etc. But, it's just not something that is in my DNA. In closing, I just want to say, it really feels good to be able to get this off my chest. Thanks for your response too.

[smc]

Yes, I meant genetic. Thanks for catching that. And as for my faith and belief. Yes, I am Christian...thus making it difficult for me to fully accept this attraction. I often have prayed to God about this (my strong attraction to non-genetic girls). And, no matter how much I try to distance myself from the attraction, it always resurfaces. In my mind, I feel that it is wrong to have such an attraction. Yet, knowing these girls in their minds feel that they really are girls and not boys really takes me for a loop. Also, I often feel that it is unfair that these girls have had to live the life that they have - "trapped in a body that they wish they never had." I've had some beautiful conversations with the girls - oftentimes seeing them tell their stories with tears in their eyes. I am not one to question God's work. For, I truly believe He makes no mistakes. But, transsexualism is one of those issues that I guess falls into the category of "we will understand it better on the other side." Subconsciously I feel that the attraction is OK, because I am attracted to their female quality, not male. As far as just letting go and let my feelings flow, so to speak, it is easier said than done. At this point, I'm not there. Call me a coward, confused, etc. But, it's just not something that is in my DNA. In closing, I just want to say, it really feels good to be able to get this off my chest. Thanks for your response too.

I'll be blunt: this all sounds like rationalization for not being true to one's self. Forget the god crap and live your life, and if there is a god the deity will reward you for your truthfulness and honesty -- to yourself.

[no1000]

+1 again to smc's comment.

Yes, I meant genetic. Thanks for catching that. And as for my faith and belief. Yes, I am Christian...thus making it difficult for me to fully accept this attraction. I often have prayed to God about this (my strong attraction to non-genetic girls). And, no matter how much I try to distance myself from the attraction, it always resurfaces. In my mind, I feel that it is wrong to have such an attraction.

How can you be attracted to shemales and still think it is wrong? Are you sure you are the one thinking it's wrong or has it been the christian doctrine? Your priest? Your christian peers?

Yet, knowing these girls in their minds feel that they really are girls and not boys really takes me for a loop.

Can you not accept reality? Not christian reality.

Also, I often feel that it is unfair that these girls have had to live the life that they have - "trapped in a body that they wish they never had." I've had some beautiful conversations with the girls - oftentimes seeing them tell their stories with tears in their eyes. I am not one to question God's work. For, I truly believe He makes no mistakes. But, transsexualism is one of those issues that I guess falls into the category of "we will understand it better on the other side."

If you truly believe that god makes no mistakes how is it unfair? Transsexualism is completely comprehendable but you really do have to accept reality and not christian reality.

Subconsciously I feel that the attraction is OK, because I am attracted to their female quality, not male. As far as just letting go and let my feelings flow, so to speak, it is easier said than done. At this point, I'm not there. Call me a coward, confused, etc. But, it's just not something that is in my DNA.

I thought you said that in your mind it's wrong? I think social constructs, norms, and religious doctrine have won here. :(

In closing, I just want to say, it really feels good to be able to get this off my chest. Thanks for your response too.

The christian religion is full of ignorant, intolerance bigotry that makes me sick to my stomach. I respect you man but lately I've had a hard time respecting religion, especially christianity. Why can't you be true to yourself and accept this is something that you like? Can you not be christian and like shemales? Are shemales going to hell? Are gays going to hell? Yes, I like strawberries and shemales. BIG DEAL.

[Gor Gar]

As far as just letting go and let my feelings flow, so to speak, it is easier said than done. At this point, I'm not there. Call me a coward, confused, etc. But, it's just not something that is in my DNA. In closing, I just want to say, it really feels good to be able to get this off my chest. Thanks for your response too.

If being attracted to t-girls is the biggest stumble block you ever hit in life, then consider yourself fortunate. A lot of folks, for whatever reason, when they're attracted to t-girls seemingly have a hard time facing up to the desire, and it's not just religious people. Heck, on this forum alone there were so many "am I gay?" topics that the threads wound up getting merged, so that should be an indication in itself that you are not alone.

But as a Christian myself, (yeah yeah, devilish looking avatar, I know, but it's from an old pinball game I loved as a kid) the best thing I can tell you to do about this or any other emotional dilemma you may face is to pray about it. You got it off of your chest, you got some friendly words of advice from a couple of really good guys about it, take their words into consideration of course, and then take it to prayer and stop worrying about it. I know that's always easier said than done, but as a Christian I'm sure you believe that only you will have to answer to God for how you live your life, and other people will have to answer for how they live their lives. See how the Lord touches your heart over it...in other words let go and let God (I'm sure there's a bumper sticker with that saying on it somewhere, I know I didn't come up with it)...but in my opinion the last thing you need to do over this is beat yourself up over it.

I hope this helps. :cool:

[zainhaas]

The attraction is a Transgender is more feminine than a biological woman..

[fatbloke]

MMMMM,i am still confused as hell as to why i am so sttracted to shemales,ladyboys,transgender et al,i just know i am.I f it were just a gay man then nothing,the thought of it does nothing for me,but i look at a transgender girl,then wow,i just melt.The thought of physical love making with them seems a wonderful natural thing and the thought of sharing the rest of things in life seems good to me.
What it comes down to is that a transgender girl is just looking for someone to accept them for who they are and not just something different to fuck.

[timhaas]

T-girls offer it all and more. they give and receive. I just love the beauty of the shemale. But the cock is what it is all about. Beauty with a cock!! Shemales just put real girls to shame. Pussy is overrated.:coupling:

Exactly! Just the words I'd say as well!!! :respect:

[JodieTs]

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimudon
T-girls offer it all and more. they give and receive. I just love the beauty of the shemale. But the cock is what it is all about. Beauty with a cock!! Shemales just put real girls to shame. Pussy is overrated.[/QUOTE]

Exactly! Just the words I'd say as well!!! :respect:

Please allow me to respond:
http://forum.transladyboy.com/showthread.php?p=181449#post181449

[transfan85]

I like them because they different, they are totally unique in the world. They are beautiful, sexy, and made to be a fantasy come true. They have all the perks of gg's with none of the hassles.

[wxhluyp]

The attraction for me is vicarious. A masochistic idea of becoming feminine. Yet a body with a vagina is too distant for me to identify with.