Are shemales more sexualized than either their male or female counterparts?

[kilgoretrout]

I know they are human and individuals. I am sorry if I ask this question wrong. But it seems to me from my limited experiences that the TGs that I have been with were either (a) much more sexually charged or (b) much more anxious to please a man than many of the natural females I have been with. I have not been with a male so I cannot comment.

As a rule, are they more sexually charged than their natural counterparts of the male or female persuasions?

I apologize if I have used terms that might not have been the most appropriate (like how do you designate the differences in a T-girl and a ___ girl as they are both girls in my book).

Thanks for the advice.

[jmad]

As far as I am concerned they more. Shemales, Transgendered are some of the most beautiful, loving, sensual, creatures I have ever encounterd. I thank my lucky stars that I have had the privilledge to be with some of the most warm and loving gentle ones. In my mind they are more of a women because being that is on the top of the list, everthing else is second.:inlove::hug:

[Kirsty Scott]

I know they are human and individuals. I am sorry if I ask this question wrong. But it seems to me from my limited experiences that the TGs that I have been with were either (a) much more sexually charged or (b) much more anxious to please a man than many of the natural females I have been with. I have not been with a male so I cannot comment.

As a rule, are they more sexually charged than their natural counterparts of the male or female persuasions?

I apologize if I have used terms that might not have been the most appropriate (like how do you designate the differences in a T-girl and a ___ girl as they are both girls in my book).

Thanks for the advice.

I am afraid there is no all encompassing answer to this one ....

For a start there are different stages of being TG, and of course different people have different sex drives irrespective of gender.

Some TG's may appear more sexually driven in comparison to a genetic girl because they still have all those male hormones driving them on.

Those who go onto transition may well lose that, if indeed they were so driven in the first place.

I know many TG's who just are not interested in sex .... many are, and remain sexually attracted to women .... and just like many men .... TG's are often looking for a relationship and not just sex.

It sometimes works the other way around .... some TG's may not be interested in sex until they transition ... they may feel at odds with their bodies and as such sex may not feel right.

How TG's are portrayed on the internet is more often than not as a sexual fetish ..... Shemales/Ladyboys/transvestites ..... which means they are perceived by guys as a sexual image ....

Of course women are seen this way too .... However, men relate to women from a very early stage as they are in contact with them and surrounded by them from Birth. TG's are not so commonplace .... and often first contact with them is via the internet and as part of a sexual attraction.

I have a paysite ..... so it would be hypocritical of me to condemn that .....

However, it is not to say that men and women to be fair .... who first see TG's as a sexual entity can't, through forums such as these, learn that they are people and start to see them as such .... so it's not all negative.

Also for TG's, as they have been male by default they know what men may like ..... and may seem less inhibited as such.

Or in other words ..... yes, no and maybe .... it depends entirely on the person .... just as it does for men and women.

Kirsty
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[pinkie_rox]

Depends. Some r really looking 4 some sweet loving. Others maybe just uninterested.. probably due to the hormones n reduced libido. :no:

[hellos123]

I think they are much more pleased to please us because they are getting paid, hey but who cares!

[merelypink]

its the same!!

[smc]

I think they are much more pleased to please us because they are getting paid, hey but who cares!

We have been down this road before, quite recently, and I would advise members to be careful bout writing things like this. Helios, do you really want to let stand this statement, which implies that all shemales are prostitutes? I wonder what some of our tgurl members would have to say about that. Actually, I don't wonder.

I, for one, find it insulting.

[jmadaf]

Definately more than men, but between shemale and female it depends on the person.:respect: trying not to offend anybody:respect:

[smc]

Definately more than men, but between shemale and female it depends on the person.:respect: trying not to offend anybody:respect:

Really? Prove it. Where's the scientific evidence?

I don't understand when people make statements like this that are purely impressionistic or wishful thinking.

[suckerpunch]

I don't think there is a definitive answer to be honest

[randolph]

I believe that most of us are on this forum because we perceive tgirls as being more sexual than than ggirls. Yes, it is a fantasy, but a very powerful one. Just look at the thousands of shemale and ladyboy sites on the internet. Many men and possibly lots of women seem to be very interested in the transsexual (shemale) image.
However, the reality of the transsexual, as Jodie has often pointed out, is a far cry from what is presented on the internet. :respect:

[ThirdEyeGirl]

I am afraid there is no all encompassing answer to this one ....

For a start there are different stages of being TG, and of course different people have different sex drives irrespective of gender.

Some TG's may appear more sexually driven in comparison to a genetic girl because they still have all those male hormones driving them on.

Those who go onto transition may well lose that, if indeed they were so driven in the first place.

I know many TG's who just are not interested in sex .... many are, and remain sexually attracted to women .... and just like many men .... TG's are often looking for a relationship and not just sex.

It sometimes works the other way around .... some TG's may not be interested in sex until they transition ... they may feel at odds with their bodies and as such sex may not feel right.

How TG's are portrayed on the internet is more often than not as a sexual fetish ..... Shemales/Ladyboys/transvestites ..... which means they are perceived by guys as a sexual image ....

Of course women are seen this way too .... However, men relate to women from a very early stage as they are in contact with them and surrounded by them from Birth. TG's are not so commonplace .... and often first contact with them is via the internet and as part of a sexual attraction.

I have a paysite ..... so it would be hypocritical of me to condemn that .....

However, it is not to say that men and women to be fair .... who first see TG's as a sexual entity can't, through forums such as these, learn that they are people and start to see them as such .... so it's not all negative.

Also for TG's, as they have been male by default they know what men may like ..... and may seem less inhibited as such.

Or in other words ..... yes, no and maybe .... it depends entirely on the person .... just as it does for men and women.

Kirsty
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REALLY! Couldn't have said it better myself.
Good on ya Kristy. :)


We have been down this road before, quite recently, and I would advise members to be careful bout writing things like this. Helios, do you really want to let stand this statement, which implies that all shemales are prostitutes? I wonder what some of our tgurl members would have to say about that. Actually, I don't wonder.

I, for one, find it insulting.

I find it offensive. I myself have never provided sex for money. And only tried cam whoring once (didn't like it).

I just wish that more people who become attracted to trans people do more research about the full trans spectrum. Instead of going by what they find from sex sites.

Miranda

[Wendy Summers]

REALLY! Couldn't have said it better myself.
Good on ya Kristy. :)

I find it offensive. I myself have never provided sex for money. And only tried cam whoring once (didn't like it).

I just wish that more people who become attracted to trans people do more research about the full trans spectrum. Instead of going by what they find from sex sites.

Miranda

As much as I am part of the problem, LOL, I probably shouldn't comment on this but I've never been one to shy away from intellectual debate.

It's one thing to say that Cis-folks (cis is the Latin opposite of trans for the unaware) should learn more about the broader depth of transexuality, but let's be fair here... there's a huge self loathing subculture of steath which permeates the trans community. Most sane, stable, attractive transwomen go into "stealth" mode, hiding in plain sight. It is rare you see such a person as a visible, outspoken advocate for the less sane, stable and attractive among us. As a result, it leaves sex workers (be it prostitues, escorts, webcam girls, porn stars) as the most visible among us. Personally I decided that since I faced a world that hated and feared us and for some dumb reason I didn't end up with cool mutant powers, I might as well do something fun.

Which brings us back to the OP's question.

It truly does vary from trans person to trans person. I've known some with zero sex drive and others where their engine is so reved up its like watching a Nascar Race. The sexually active likely seems more visible: 1) For the reason I mentioned above; 2) the kind of public places where trans people tend to be out and open and admirers can easily locate us are often tied to sexuality (let's face it: cubs/ bars/ etc are aimed at finding either Mr/ Mrs Right / Right Now); 3) By virtue of dealing with all the baggage related to gender, TS's often also have to delve into the unrelated but sadly entangled, realms of sexuality. Leaving them often far more open and aware of their own sexuality.

My two cents. In all honesty, I know very little in life so feel free to shout me down :p.

[smc]

As much as I am part of the problem, LOL, I probably shouldn't comment on this but I've never been one to shy away from intellectual debate.

It's one thing to say that Cis-folks (cis is the Latin opposite of trans for the unaware) should learn more about the broader depth of transexuality, but let's be fair here... there's a huge self loathing subculture of steath which permeates the trans community. Most sane, stable, attractive transwomen go into "stealth" mode, hiding in plain sight. It is rare you see such a person as a visible, outspoken advocate for the less sane, stable and attractive among us. As a result, it leaves sex workers (be it prostitues, escorts, webcam girls, porn stars) as the most visible among us. Personally I decided that since I faced a world that hated and feared us and for some dumb reason I didn't end up with cool mutant powers, I might as well do something fun.

Which brings us back to the OP's question.

It truly does vary from trans person to trans person. I've known some with zero sex drive and others where their engine is so reved up its like watching a Nascar Race. The sexually active likely seems more visible: 1) For the reason I mentioned above; 2) the kind of public places where trans people tend to be out and open and admirers can easily locate us are often tied to sexuality (let's face it: cubs/ bars/ etc are aimed at finding either Mr/ Mrs Right / Right Now); 3) By virtue of dealing with all the baggage related to gender, TS's often also have to delve into the unrelated but sadly entangled, realms of sexuality. Leaving them often far more open and aware of their own sexuality.

My two cents. In all honesty, I know very little in life so feel free to shout me down :p.

Thank you so much for chiming in, Wendy. I think you provide a much-needed perspective. Personally, I work hard to "learn more about the broader depth of transexuality" and am very proud to count among some of my closest friends trans people with whom I have no sexual connection whatsoever.

[JodieTs]

Are pre-op transsexual women more sexualized than either their male or female counterparts?
By some parts of the media, yes.

Vast majority of them have a reduced interest in sex. And some, no interest at all.
What Kirsty says at the start of this thread, is pretty much on the money too

[ghost]

i think there is no real answer to this. everyone is different.

some couldn't care less about sex and some just want to for want of a better phrase "go at it like rabbits" all the time

and i don't think whatever sex you are comes into it either

[stephanie4life]

I know they are human and individuals. I am sorry if I ask this question wrong. But it seems to me from my limited experiences that the TGs that I have been with were either (a) much more sexually charged or (b) much more anxious to please a man than many of the natural females I have been with. I have not been with a male so I cannot comment.

As a rule, are they more sexually charged than their natural counterparts of the male or female persuasions?

I apologize if I have used terms that might not have been the most appropriate (like how do you designate the differences in a T-girl and a ___ girl as they are both girls in my book).

Thanks for the advice.
I don't think we're anymore "sexually Charged then the girl next door, or the lady at the bank, or your buddy's wife. Folks are folks wherever you go. It all depends on the induvidual person. Shemales are better at pleasing their men cause we know what boys like.

[Melissa Pink]

[QUOTE=stephanie4life;197937]I don't think we're anymore "sexually Charged then the girl next door, or the lady at the bank, or your buddy's wife. Folks are folks wherever you go. It all depends on the induvidual person. Shemales are better at pleasing their men cause we know what boys like.[/QUOTE

I agree with Stephanie and a few other posters on this issue. As a pre-op transgender I don't believe that I'm any more interested in sex than a genetic female but I do enjoy sex. I make no excuses for that! Like Stephanie, said we know what guys like. I do know how to please someone with a cock dangling between their legs and eventually erect in my mouth and tush! I also enjoy eating pussy when I have the opportunity. Sex between two consenting adults or more :yes: is a good thing! What could possibly be wrong with that?

[raiedefesse]

transgendered people more sexually charged? I don't know. I'm not transgendered. And even if I were, it might be the experience of one person, you know, one human being. Stress on the human being part.

I can't imagine what being transgendered would be like, just as I don't know what it would be like to be female in general. I AM, however, a bisexual male and I greatly distrust anyone deciding from outside what I am inside. I know how angry I get when people make sweeping generalizations about bis, even to the point of them "not existing".

All that being said, I hope I meet a lady someday who is indeed sexually charged.

[ThirdEyeGirl]

transgendered people more sexually charged? I don't know. I'm not transgendered. And even if I were, it might be the experience of one person, you know, one human being. Stress on the human being part.

I can't imagine what being transgendered would be like, just as I don't know what it would be like to be female in general. I AM, however, a bisexual male and I greatly distrust anyone deciding from outside what I am inside. I know how angry I get when people make sweeping generalizations about bis, even to the point of them "not existing".

All that being said, I hope I meet a lady someday who is indeed sexually charged.

Care to elaborate on your bi-ness. So's we don't get confused. :p

I'll start. I am bi, but I only use that because the more appropriate term is not widely known. Witch being pan-sexuality. So I much prefer a persons personality over their looks... Meaning I could be attracted to someone who wasn't a beauty, but had an awesome personality. And not be attracted to someone who is drop dead gorgeous, but be a total douche or c:censored:t.

But if it's just physical attraction we are talking about. I like cis men and women, and non-op transsexual women. Oddly enough I'm not into trans men.:confused:

I know, I know... This is a digression. :p

[raiedefesse]

I think "bisexuality" as a word is a misnomer. I think I'm pansexual too, but not in the same way. I really think of my sexuality as a work in progress...it changes from day to day, as do my desires. I fluctuate. I've been called a bit of a chameleon and I guess that's true.

I like women of all "types"...the most important thing being that they have a good mind and are interesting personally. I've always been very impatient with the general male "impress your buddies" standard...you know, going after the woman you think will impress your male friends. I've dated blondes, brunettes, big girls, skinny girls, short girls, transgendered girls, tall girls, girls other people consider "beautiful" and girls that they don't but there's always been a common thread between the girls that only I can see.

Regarding men, I feel a little guilty that I haven't been able to fall in love with a man. I feel shallow, overly focused on the physical regarding men. Maybe I don't trust men. I don't know. It's mostly sex with men. Most of my close trusting friendships as well as sexual friendships are with women. I thought I met a man last year that I could get to that territory with. I really wanted to do so. I haven't accepted yet that I can't be in love with another man. I firmly believe that I'm a work in progress. I don't know who is going to cross my path, I don't know how I'm going to change in the future. I guess that's what makes life interesting.

[ThirdEyeGirl]

I think "bisexuality" as a word is a misnomer. I think I'm pansexual too, but not in the same way. I really think of my sexuality as a work in progress...it changes from day to day, as do my desires. I fluctuate. I've been called a bit of a chameleon and I guess that's true.

I like women of all "types"...the most important thing being that they have a good mind and are interesting personally. I've always been very impatient with the general male "impress your buddies" standard...you know, going after the woman you think will impress your male friends. I've dated blondes, brunettes, big girls, skinny girls, short girls, transgendered girls, tall girls, girls other people consider "beautiful" and girls that they don't but there's always been a common thread between the girls that only I can see.

Regarding men, I feel a little guilty that I haven't been able to fall in love with a man. I feel shallow, overly focused on the physical regarding men. Maybe I don't trust men. I don't know. It's mostly sex with men. Most of my close trusting friendships as well as sexual friendships are with women. I thought I met a man last year that I could get to that territory with. I really wanted to do so. I haven't accepted yet that I can't be in love with another man. I firmly believe that I'm a work in progress. I don't know who is going to cross my path, I don't know how I'm going to change in the future. I guess that's what makes life interesting.

Honestly... I felt the same way you do towards men before I transitioned. But now I do believe I can love a man. Don't know if it's because hormones increased my attraction towards more masculine men (witch it has), or that it's because I'm now representing my true self. I'm more inclined to believe it's the latter.

[smc]

interesting. Sometimes I do wonder if I'm not being fully honest with myself. Not intentionally, mind you, but it's almost as if I consciously repress certain feelings. I didn't even think of this last night, but today I realized that often, when I'm with another man, I have very female-based fantasies. I almost picture in my minds eye my feminine self being made love to. In my mind, there are two things I'm focusing on. His penis, his sexuality, and my "female essence". I can almost picture what I would look like if I were female and I sexually desire this female person as much as the man I'm with. At times my desire "to fuck her" and "to be her" get conflated. When I'm getting fucked, I "see outside my body"...and what I see is the object of my desire, female, getting fucked, except "her" pussy is my anus. It isn't hard to do, as the feeling of getting fucked releases that wonderful feeling of strong passivity that makes you almost feel female. There's nothing you can do as a CIS man with a woman that gives you that transcendent feeling, at least I've never found it.

When I'm making love to a woman, I think less "outside my body". I don't focus on myself at all. I focus on my desire for her, for her body. Pretty standard CIS stuff.

I've come to believe that gender and desire rest mostly in the brain. I think my brain is mostly "standard" (whatever that means) but at times I really feel as if I'm almost switching over to a part of my brain that is a bit underdeveloped in me, but which I have and which most men do not. I have no proof of this, I guess. Just a feeling. I feel like I'm using a different part of my mind when I'm feeling female. But these feelings are so BRIEF for me. It's almost like I'm channeling something that I can't keep up. Personally, I don't have the desire to be female all the time at all. I do sometimes fantasize about what it would be like if a human being could completely switch genders constantly...switch and switch back...that is one of my fantasies. Maybe I lack commitment!

Interesting, but what does it have to do with the question posed by the thread? :confused:

[raiedefesse]

it doesn't..got sidetracked talked to the lady. Sorry.